Being Blackmailed In Thailand By A Thai Girl

The reason I am sharing my story is because this particular scam is so easy to fall for, at least for a Thailand newbie like me.

I don’t see it being spoken about a lot, maybe because it’s an extreme scam or maybe it’s just something that does not happen as much in Thailand as it does in other countries.

This sort of scam happens all over the world, but it just so happens that for me, it happened in Bangkok.

I hope it serves as a warning to all guys that come to Thailand and think about using dating apps to meet Thai women for whatever reason it may be.

Let’s go back to where it all started.

First Arrival In Bangkok

I first arrived in Bangkok with a couple of friends that I work with.

We had taken a two-month break from our jobs and wanted to do a bit of traveling.

We were going to travel around Europe a bit, but then changed our mind to Thailand because, well, all of us are still pretty young, and the nightlife scene there is something that interested us all.

At the start, the holiday was amazing.

I loved everything about Bangkok, even if it is a bit chaotic compared to where I live.

Obviously, a lot of our time was spent on Soi Cowboy, Nana Plaza, and the other millions of bars that are in Bangkok.

During our time in the bars, I got talking to many girls and liked the way that Thai girls were around you, completely different from the West.

Although I know their job in the bars is to keep you entertained, it was still nice to be able to get along with every girl, unlike back in my country.

But comparing Thai girls to girls in my country, it’s not even close.

Everything about Thai women is different and better.

Thailand Bar Scene Became Draining

After a couple of weeks doing the same thing over and over, it did not get boring, but I wanted to do something else.

I actually wanted to meet a girl and go places other than the bars.

Literally, all we had done for about two weeks was go to eat Thai food in the day and then go to a different bar at night.

I know I was on holiday and wanted to experience the nightlife here, but I also wanted to see more of Bangkok while I had the chance.

I could have taken one of the girls from the bar and had a holiday girlfriend thing, but I wanted to try and find a girl that was not from the bar, someone I could actually keep in contact with and see more of Thailand with.

Someone that was not just with me because I am paying.

So one night, my friends went out to the bars, and I decided to have a night in, a break as it was killing my gut going out every night.

I downloaded Tinder, created a profile, and stated in the bio part that I was looking for a girl to go on dates and maybe do a bit of traveling.

I made it very clear that I was not looking for just a one-night fling or a freelancer.

Tinder Dating In Thailand Can Be Tricky

I don’t know if any of you guys have used Tinder in Thailand before, but it’s insane.

I’m pretty sure they swipe right on everyone they see.

Every single girl I would swipe yes on would have already said yes to me, and we matched.

After about an hour of swiping and matching with plenty of women, I had to go through all the profiles and remove the ones asking if I wanted ST or LT, and trust me, there were a lot of them.

I’m not bragging about Tinder, by the way.

It’s obviously because I am a Western man that I was getting a lot of matches because I am no Brad Pitt.

Anyway, I’m chatting to this beautiful Thai girl that I have matched with.

She types in perfect English, she’s flirty, and the conversation is fun.

She is around my age, only a year younger, easy on the eyes, and I would say she was pretty much my type.

I asked if she would be up for meeting tomorrow and we can go out for dinner, but she said she couldn’t tomorrow; however, the day after would be fine.

Arranging To Meet Girls Online In Thailand

We kept chatting, but she kept coming up with excuses as to why she couldn’t meet. She felt sick, she’s working, or she just felt too tired.

After a few days of chatting, I just told her straight, if we are not going to meet, then what’s the point in us talking? I am not here long, so I don’t want to waste time.

It was pointless for me to keep talking to her if she wasn’t going to meet me.

I was only planning on staying in Thailand for a month or so.

She turned around and said that she wanted to meet but wanted to see who I really am.

She wanted my Facebook.

I did not think much of it at the time, but stupidly, I gave it to her, and we started talking there.

Looking through her Facebook pictures, she seemed like a fun girl that likes to party.

She also had a young daughter, but that did not bother me as I was only looking for a girl while I am here on holiday.

She clearly wanted to make up for not meeting me because she started talking more explicitly and sending me pictures and videos of herself.

The First Part of The Scam… Adding Me On Facebook

She was telling me what she would like me to do in the bedroom and things like that. It was like I was talking to a different person than I had been for the last few days.

She asked if I could send her some pictures and videos as well.

I admit, I got caught up in the moment and sent her some private stuff, thinking that it was just between us.

I probably should have thought about it a bit longer and realized that this could be a setup, but at the time, you don’t really think.

I figured it was just a bit of harmless fun, and she was just in the mood.

I thought it would stay between me and her… I was so very wrong about that.

We agreed to meet up the next night and go out for something to eat, get to know each other, and see what happens.

I think that maybe she needed to see that I was real on Facebook before she actually took the time to come and meet me.

When the next night came and it was time to meet up, I got to the bar/restaurant on Sukhumvit Soi 11, half expecting her to message me and cancel.

But to my surprise, she arrived on time and looked absolutely amazing.

Meeting My Online Thai Date For The First Time

We got along straight away.

She was very bubbly and very talkative. In fact, it was hard for me to get a word in sometimes.

She told me that she was born in Bangkok, has a little daughter, and works in a restaurant, not a bar.

After we had some drinks and finished our food, she told me that one of her friends has a new bar that she has just made into a karaoke bar, and she wanted to visit.

This is where the start of the scam happened, but I was naive to it and didn’t think anything of it, but I agreed for us to go to her friend’s bar.

We got a taxi and headed there.

It was out of the way from where we were originally, up a dark, seedy street that looked like it hadn’t been cleaned in years.

When we finally got there, it was a big bar with lots of karaoke rooms.

I had no idea if there were customers in those rooms or not, but you could hear the music.

My lady greeted her friends in Thai and then led us to a room where two of her so-called friends joined us.

I did not ask them to join us, but they were already in the bar, so they just followed. I assumed they all knew each other.

I ordered a drink for me and my girl.

Her two friends already had drinks, so I did not think to offer them one.

Going To A Karaoke Bar In Bangkok, Huge Mistake

When the drinks came, they also brought a lot of platefuls of food.

I did not order it, so I assumed it was for her two friends that joined us.

I know now that I should have asked who the food was for, but because my girl and I had already eaten, I just assumed.

Anyway, we are all drinking, having a laugh, and messing around on the karaoke.

I’m not much of a singer and wasn’t anywhere near drunk enough to get myself on the mic, so I just watched the girls having fun.

My girl kept cuddling up to me, telling me how much she likes me and how glad she is that we finally met.

It felt good to be spending time with a girl that wasn’t working at the bar or just wanted money, or that’s what I thought.

I told her that I am only in Thailand for another week and would love her to show me around Bangkok if she had time, to which she happily agreed.

We stayed at the bar for about an hour, and once we had finished, it was time to pay the bill. And when it came, I was absolutely blown away.

Extremely High Bar Bill, Scam Has Started

I had three drinks, as did my girl, and the bill came to 15,000 baht.

Surely this was a mistake, right? I asked my girl why it cost this much and that there must be some type of mistake.

She told me not to worry and that she will go and talk to her friend and see why it’s that much.

When she came back, she told me that the karaoke room was 10,000 and that we had paid for it all night.

Not one time before that did anyone mention the cost of the karaoke room.

I was under the impression that the rooms were free if you are drinking. There was no price anywhere.

Next was the food that they brought in, and the drinks for her two friends were also on my bill.

I told my girl that I did not know I was paying 10,000 for the room and for her two friends as well.

Her friends had a couple of drinks, and the food was barely even touched.

My girl once again left the room to go and speak to her friend about the bill.

But this time, once she returned, she was followed by two big Thai bouncers, and I could clearly see where this was leading.

My girl said it’s best that I just pay the bill and we leave and not return.

She said that she is very sorry and she did not think her friend would pull this type of trick.

My New Thai Girl Was Very Convincing

She made it sound like her friend had scammed her as well by not telling her about the cost of the food, the drinks, and everything else.

I explained that I did not have 15,000 baht on me.

I only had around 5 or 6 because I thought it was just going to be a relaxed night with me and her.

One of the bouncers that was staring straight at us said he will take me to the ATM, but I have to leave my phone at the bar.

Now I was scared.

There wasn’t much I could really do to get out of this situation.

I was clearly being scammed with no escape.

I had no other option than to pay.

So off I went on the back of the bouncer’s bike to the ATM.

To add insult to injury, the bouncer wanted 300 baht for him taking me one minute out of the way to get more cash.

I was in no position to argue with him.

He was twice my size and looked like someone you don’t want to mess with.

And I couldn’t exactly jump off the bike or run away at the ATM because my phone was still at the bar.

I finally paid the 15,000 baht bill and quickly left while I could.

It was a very scary situation to be in.

At the time of all this happening, it did not cross my mind even once that my girl had set me up.

I just thought she had a bad friend.

15,000 Bar Bill Scam Paid For

Outside of the bar, my girl kept apologizing, and she seemed genuinely sorry for what had happened.

I told her it’s fine and it’s not her fault.

We went for one more drink in a normal bar just to calm my nerves, but I was completely not in the mood anymore to have fun, so shortly after that, we called it a night.

Once I got back to the hotel, I told my friends what had happened, and they said that I had been clearly set up by the Tinder girl.

They said that she was totally in on it and knew exactly what would happen.

That’s why she took me to the bar because the owner would have given her a cut of the money they scammed.

I just laughed it off and said no, she didn’t scam me.

She was so upset at what had happened to me.

Stupidly, that’s what I thought.

Now This Thai Girl Is Asking For Money

My girl and I arranged to meet the following night, but once it came to it, she texted me saying she couldn’t come because her daughter was sick.

I thought that is a fair excuse and can’t argue with that.

But it’s what she followed up with that bothered me.

She asked if she could borrow 5,000 baht, and she would pay me back when she could.

She needed it for medicine and food for her daughter.

I had spent almost 20,000 the previous night.

There was no way I was going to be paying anymore, so I politely declined, saying I’m on limited funds after our night together.

As I already said, I could have taken a girl from the bar if I wanted to pay for someone to show me around.

I was using Tinder to find a normal girl, so giving her money was something I was not going to do.

She Is Now Showing Her True Colors

After I refused, my God, she turned into the devil then, replying, “I thought you liked me. I knew you were a bad guy. You won’t help me. I’m glad my friend scammed you.”

That’s when I realized that this girl maybe really did set me up last night, and she got money for taking me to her friend’s bar.

I will never know if she had anything to do with it.

Despite that, I messaged her back, saying that I don’t think we should see each other again and to stop contacting each other.

She read the message but never replied.

I thought that was it. Book closed. No more hearing from her or seeing her again. It wasn’t anything bad, as we had only been on one date.

That night, I went out for a few beers, came home, and went to sleep.

Nothing out of the ordinary.

But the next morning, when I woke up, my whole world came crashing down.

Absolute Nightmare of A Thailand Scam

One of the friends that I was on holiday with came into my room, saying that he had received a random message from a Thai girl’s account, and with the message were the videos and pictures that I had previously sent her.

I literally went cold.

My heart sank, and I started sweating.

I remember thinking, what the hell is going on? Luckily, I have known my friend a long time, and mates like that just rip into each other about stuff.

Although he was trying to have a laugh with me, I couldn’t focus.

If she sent it to him, who else has she sent it to? What’s exactly her plan here? Why is she doing this?

When my friend left the room to get ready, I looked on my Facebook messages, and that’s when the real nightmare started.

She had sent me screenshots of my Facebook friends list—my family, my coworkers, people I hadn’t spoken to in years.

Included were my brother, my mum, and close friends.

Blackmailing Me With Revenge Porn

She said that if I did not transfer her 25,000 Thai baht, she would send the pictures and videos to everyone on that list.

I knew then that it was a scam, and surprisingly, I had read about it happening to someone in my country not long ago.

I think two Nigerians made a girl’s IG account, added the guy, and he did the same as me.

The only difference is he did not see a way out and, unfortunately, is not here anymore.

Anyway, she saw that I had read the message and hadn’t replied yet, so she sent another screenshot of her sending the video to another friend to prove she wasn’t bluffing.

Now I knew it was serious, and I knew that she means business.

She wasn’t bluffing at all.

As you can imagine, I was in complete shock—sweating, shaking, and felt like my lungs were collapsing.

Begging Her Not To Show My Private Videos To People

I tried to reason with her, to beg her not to do this, but she was cold and heartless.

All she cared about was the money.

She didn’t care how this would affect me, my life, or the people I cared about.

I was explaining to her that it would ruin my life.

I wouldn’t be able to go back to work, and my mum was elderly. She did not need that kind of stress in her life.

But again, she did not care, not even in the slightest, and kept demanding that I send her the money.

I told her I didn’t have that kind of money, which was a lie.

However, she did not care. She told me to get the money by the end of the day.

I told her I could send her 5,000 today, then some another day, and keep doing that until it all adds up to 25,000.

I just needed to buy some time and figure out what I could do.

I gave in and sent her 5,000 just to keep her off my back while I try to sort this all out, but I knew 5,000 wasn’t going to keep her away for long.

Being Blackmailed In Thailand By A Thai Girl

And even if I did give her the full 25,000, I highly doubt that she would stop there.

She would keep asking for more, as this was pure blackmail.

It wasn’t going to stop, no matter how much I sent.

I really did not know what to do at the time.

I knew that in Western countries, revenge porn and blackmail are illegal, and she could have gotten in serious trouble from the police.

But here in Thailand, I did not know the law and didn’t know if I even had any legal options to take.

And really, if I did, I really did not feel like going to the police and telling them what happened because they could turn around to me and say what I did was illegal and that I needed to pay.

I’m not saying Thai police are corrupt, but I trust them as much as I trust my own police, which is very little.

It was humiliating, and I feel so stupid for letting this happen.

I keep replaying everything in my head, wondering how I could have been so careless.

Reporting The Incident To The Bangkok Police

I spoke to my friends about it, and we all agreed that I really did need to go to the police, even if it would mean me getting into trouble.

I had her bank account information.

I had met her in person, and I knew that her Facebook page was actually her and not some fake account.

I had all the information, really, that the police would have needed to find her.

Reluctantly, with not many options, my friends and I went to the police in Bangkok, and I explained everything to him.

The policeman I spoke to was actually super nice and friendly, eager to help, and even apologized that I had this experience in his country.

I gave him all the information I had, including the messages from her.

I don’t know, but when I gave the officer her name and picture, it felt like he knew her. Maybe she had done this before.

I don’t know. Maybe I was just overthinking at that point.

I was leaving Thailand in three days from then, so the officer suggested just to block her, and he will try and contact her today or before I leave and tell her to stop.

He did ask me if I wanted to make a report to get her arrested and charged, but I declined.

I said that I just want them to make her stop, and if she did send the pictures and videos to anyone else, then I will press charges.

After we left, I sent her a message and said, “I have been to the police. I am not going to pay you a single penny anymore” and then I blocked her and deleted my Tinder account.

I did not hear from her since then, and three days after, we headed back home.

I was nervous when I got home.

I thought maybe she had sent it to everyone, and everyone would tell me about it when they see me.

Hopefully This Is The End of My Thailand Blackmail Nightmare

Luckily, my family, my friends, and coworkers never said anything, other than the two she had already sent it to, about it.

They hadn’t been sent anything.

I am not sure if she was actually bluffing in the end, or if my message about me going to the police scared her, or maybe, in fact, the police did track her down and tell her.

I’m not sure, but I never heard anything from it again.

All I can say about my experience is that it was a complete nightmare and could have ruined my life.

I feel extremely sorry for people that this happens to.

Despite what people say about Thai police, I’m very grateful for the one I spoke to.

He helped put me at ease, and if he did track her down, then he’s a fantastic officer in my book.

So that is my story about nearly ruining my life in Thailand by chasing the wrong person on Tinder.

It’s not put me off Thailand.

In fact, I can’t wait to go back, but this time, I’m going to be extra careful if I meet a girl.

I’m sharing my story because I don’t want anyone else to go through what I’m going through right now.

If you’re using dating apps, especially in a foreign country, please be careful.

Think twice before sharing anything private, no matter how much you trust the person on the other end.

It’s not worth the risk.

I’m just glad my nightmare ended the way it did.

Others haven’t been so lucky. And to anyone listening, please learn from my mistake.

Stay safe, and don’t let something like this happen to you.