Betrayal Jealousy With Thai Girls

My story begins in 2018 when, after getting fed up with work and life in Sweden in general, I quit my job and had the opportunity to not work for a few years. I started traveling around Europe, going on short trips here and there. It was fun, but Europe is expensive, so I thought, why not go to Thailand instead and stay there for the winter? So I did.

I was 35 at the time, and it might be relevant to the story that I wasn’t an old man. I was in good shape and I literally had a six pack as I loved going to the gym.

I arrived in Bangkok in September of 2018, filled with excitement but really didn’t know what to expect. The first four nights I had booked a hotel on Khao San Road. It was pretty awesome. I was partying every night and meeting girls at bars and clubs. After four nights in Thailand, I had been on dates with as many girls as I would have done in a normal year in Sweden. None had asked me for money, so I assumed they were all regular Thai girls just out for some fun.

Pattaya Paradise

I then headed off to Pattaya. I had booked a month there in an Airbnb. I had an amazing time. I met up with more girls than I could dream of. Still, none had asked me for any money. I was getting so much attention everywhere; it felt genuine and I was on top of the world.

I don’t like to brag, but I was quite young for Pattaya from what I could see, and being in great shape, maybe many of the girls just wanted a change from the regular guys that they see. I am certain that most of the girls I met with were working girls.

Meeting Canda

After a month in Pattaya, I headed to Patong, but it quickly got boring. I stayed a month and then headed back to Bangkok. A friend I met on my first weekend on Khao San Road lived in Bangkok. It’s here that my story really begins.

I met a girl called Canda. We started texting and eventually met up for some drinks. Canda was studying at university, according to her. Her family owned a farm and other businesses in the south, and they were apparently quite well off. I never questioned what she told me and accepted it all as legit.

Canda was really hot, and she was in even better shape than me, hitting the gym five times a week. As many probably know, things can move extremely quick with Thai girls, and so this did. Before I knew it, we were meeting more or less every day, staying at my condo, and going on short trips together. We had planned to go to the Philippines and were even planning a trip to Sweden for a visit.

I was really happy. I thought, ‘This is it. Damn, how could I have been so lucky to meet this stunner?’

The Trip to Japan That Wasn’t

Things continued, and then one day Canda said she was going on a trip to Japan at the beginning of January. She said she had friends there that she had met once when they were traveling to Thailand, and she went to Japan two times a year to meet them. It sounded cool to me. I didn’t think anything more of it.

The day arrived for Canda’s trip to Japan. I followed her to the airport and kissed her goodbye. Everything seemed great. I knew what time she would arrive, and I was waiting for her to text me. I had to wait a long time several hours after she had landed. Her texts were so short: just ‘yes,’ ‘no,’ ‘okay,’ ‘haha,’ etc., and it was always hours between them. This was strange, as she had never acted like this before.

After a few days of this, I was getting very suspicious. Then she posted a photo on Instagram and geo-tagged it. I clicked the location and found a guy that had posted the exact same photo at the exact same time. I could see that she followed him on Instagram, but there were no photos of them together.

I went on Facebook and found him. What did I see? A post saying he is now engaged with Canda from Thailand. There he was with her in numerous photos. Looking through his profile, I could see they had been engaged for two years. My world had just crumbled.

I confronted her right away and asked her why she had lied. She replied, ‘Sorry.’ That was it. All of a sudden, I was blocked from his Instagram and his Facebook pages. We never really spoke again.

Looking back, there were a lot of warning signs, but I couldn’t see them back then.

Back to Pattaya and Meeting Juana

I decided to leave for Pattaya again and just keep doing what I had done before meet with girls for fun and nothing else. Pattaya was just as much fun as it had been, although I was still feeling hurt from what Canda had done.

Then in April, I met Juana. According to Juana, she was a retired bar girl. She had worked in a famous go-go bar for five years from the age of 18, and she had saved a lot of money and spent it on a farm for her family in Isan. Juana told me that they all make a good living from the farm and that she was only in Pattaya visiting friends.

As I said, I was naive back then and I believed her. I had promised myself not to get seriously involved with a Thai girl ever again because of Canda, but it was impossible. I had never in my life had so much fun with a girl doing regular everyday things. I was on cloud nine.

Juana was really smart too. I had never been with a girl that I recognized to be smarter than me, but Juana was. I told Juana about my experience with Canda. Juana appeared shocked and agreed that it was a horrible thing to do.

The Cracks Begin to Show

Juana stayed with me, but sometimes she went back to her village in Isan for a short visit. My next visa run was coming up, so I was planning a trip to Bali. Juana had never been there, so we planned it together as a longer holiday. Life was great.

Juana invited me to visit her village in Isan to meet her family. I, of course, accepted and was very happy, as I saw this as another sign that this was the real deal. It was now August.

I had a good time. It was interesting to see the life there and to meet her family. The week soon came to an end, and we were going back to Pattaya. The next day we had scheduled a viewing of a condo. Juana then said she couldn’t go with me; she needed to stay and help her family for a few days.

I flew back to Pattaya alone. We talked on a video call for most of the night until 4 a.m. in the morning. Then she posted something very cryptic on her Facebook page, something in Thai with a lot of black hearts. When I asked Juana about it, she said it was nothing and deleted it. She then called me again, crying and couldn’t stop.

The Truth Comes Out

The next day I couldn’t reach her. She didn’t reply to my texts, and her phone was off. I kept pressuring her, asking all sorts of questions about why she was acting like this. Then, all of a sudden, she gave in.

She told me everything. She was in Singapore with her sponsor. Actually, with one of her sponsors she had two. Once she opened up, it all came out: how much money they sent, how long she had been with them, how often they met. She also told me that her family didn’t really make enough money from the farm; they were living off the sponsor’s money.

I was again shocked. I couldn’t believe that it was happening again. Exactly the same thing. After what I had told Juana about Canda, she then did the exact same thing. How could she?

She was crying. She said that she loved me so much and that she had never felt anything like this before. I was both devastated and very angry. How could she agree to book a trip to Bali, invite me to her family, plan to move in together, when she knew nothing of this was ever going to happen? How could she play with me like this?

She said she was so sorry. She knew everything she had done was wrong, but she couldn’t help herself because she loved every moment with me and wanted to enjoy it for as long as it could possibly last.

I was crushed. I was really hurting. This will sound weird, but I have gone through a divorce, and that didn’t hurt as much as this did. My heart was physically hurting. I had chest pains.

Moving On

I went to Bali by myself. Me and Juana hooked up a few times after that, just some one-night stuff. I left Thailand when the pandemic got really bad, and I haven’t heard from her since. I guess that’s all for the better. I’ve come across this lots of times, guys. You’ll get a very, very pretty girl who works in a bar maybe casually, and she’ll meet a guy like this not an old guy, maybe 35 to 40, quite fit and they do click. What’s going on in the girl’s mind? She’s thinking, ‘I really like this guy, and if I play my cards right, he might take me back.’

A Thai girl told me many years ago, ‘If we can make these guys fall in love with us, it’s much easier to make money from them.’ In this case, the girl was falling for the guy, but she supports her family. She can’t suddenly stop sending the money, so she hid it from him, hoping it would turn out for the best. It’s quite a sad story from both sides.

Story 2 The Doorman The T Shirt and The Letter That Nearly Ruined Everything

It was a while ago, in the 1990s, when I headed a team of military guys to work in Thailand for a few weeks. After our initial meetings and planning sessions, the guys wanted to go downtown. I went along, wanting to be sure my guys didn’t get arrested.

I had not been to Thailand before, but one of the guys had been to Bangkok on R&R from Vietnam years earlier. With his guidance, off we went. I was amazed at the candy store atmosphere on the streets and really wanted to go into one of the many bars.

The First Night

We picked a bar, and my friend led the way. Before my backside was firm in the seat, a bar girl came and put her hand on my leg. Later, my friend suggested she might have been trying to lift my wallet, but I doubt it. I told the girl I was just there for a drink and didn’t need any company. She huffed off.

My buddy said, ‘Boss, you’re going to have to have a girlfriend in here, or the others won’t leave you alone. Pick one, buy her drinks, and the others will stay away.’

I looked around, and the entire team was already coupled up. I looked around and saw a very pretty girl smiling at me. I smiled back, and she came over.

Anything I wanted, she made it appear. I realized I probably paid a premium for her drinks, but she was nice company, and I could keep an eye on my team.

The T Shirt Request

Later, a doorman walked by wearing a T-shirt for an international run. A friend of mine had entered but had to drop out because she was injured in a recent car accident. I thought it would be great if I could get my friend one of these T-shirts.

I approached the doorman, who spoke really good English, and asked if he knew where I could get one. He asked for my address and said he’d send me one. Nowadays, I’d be wary of giving out my personal information like that, but back then I was young and excited. I gave the doorman my card with my home address on it.

When I returned to our booth, I noticed my new friend had propped herself upon her leg and watched my interaction with the doorman.

The Letter That Arrived Back Home

Four days later, our job done, we headed back to the bar. I was really looking forward to seeing my little bar girlfriend again. As soon as we walked in, she was at my side and had my arm in hers.

Trip over, back to the States and my girlfriend. Well, as predicted, within weeks we were engaged, and I told her to move into my condo.

One day when we came home from work, I checked the mail. There was a letter from Thailand. I opened it, and it was from my little friend. The letter went something like: she liked me, we had fun, she loved me, and wanted to come to me in the States.

I looked at my girlfriend, and she just stood there with her mouth wide open. I turned the letter over, and on the back, in brackets facing my girlfriend, she had written in big letters: ‘I love you.’

I knew I had some explaining to do. But then it got worse. The envelope tipped, and she had enclosed two photos both fully clothed and tasteful. One nice facial picture, and another with her sitting on a mattress in what I assume was her sleeping area.

After a long, truthful explanation that she was just a girl I bought drinks for to keep other girls away, my fiancée said she understood, took the letter and pictures, and ripped them up. I also guess it didn’t hurt that I brought her a sapphire ring in Bangkok. I forgot to mention that I never gave my little bar girlfriend my home address. I also never received the T-shirt from the doorman. I assume my little friend, watching me hand my card to the doorman, had somehow convinced him to give it to her.

Story 3 The Ladyboy and The Flying Shoe

This happened a few years ago when I was a newbie.

It was my first night in Thailand, and I was tired because of the long haul flight. I was leaving Walking Street on the beach roadside, on my own, and jumping on a Thai Baht bus.

Quick note: When is a Thai Baht bus not a Thai Baht bus? When you get on next to Walking Street, then it becomes a taxi and over 100 Thai Baht. If you walk a few yards along Beach Road, you can get a taxi 100 Thai Baht cheaper. Anyway, back to my story. A girl grabbed my hand and jumped on with me. When I looked at her, I realized she was a ladyboy. I don’t have any problems with ladyboys, but they don’t float my boat, if you know what I mean. So I said, ‘No for me, thank you.’

She said, ‘It’s okay. I got same like lady.’ I said, ‘I don’t care what you’ve got. Leave me alone and get off.’ She refused.

I wasn’t about to argue in the street surrounded by all her friends, so I waited till we got to my hotel, paid the driver, and got off. She said, ‘You give me 1,000 Thai Baht.’ I said, ‘No chance.’ Then she took off a shoe and tried to hit me round the head with it, but I managed to block the shoe with my arm. Then she threw her shoe at me. I picked the shoe up and threw it over a wall into the street. She swore at me and stormed off.

I went to bed.

Story 4 Chai The Jealous Girlfriend Who Asked If I Was Sleeping With The Nurses

The First Trip

My first trip to Thailand was in February 2014 and happened purely by chance. I had just started a job for a major airline in Southeast Asia. In January 2014, I found out I was going over for training. The country is less than two hours away from Bangkok. Only by chance, I mentioned this to a friend who told me he was going to be in Thailand at the same time and that I should join him once my training had finished. I agreed.

My friend was very Thailand experienced. Although I was pretty well traveled, I was a little taken aback as we approached the Sukhumvit area where our hotel was. The noise, the people, the general chaos got me worried.

Please bear in mind my weight was around 155 kg (24 stone). I was far from a handsome man. Walking along Soi Cowboy, I felt like a king with all the girls calling out to me, ‘Handsome man! Handsome man!’ My friend quickly told me not to think about it too much, as everyone is a handsome man here as long as your wallet is full.

Meeting Chai

This is where I met Chai (spelled C H A I). She wasn’t a dancer; she served drinks in the bar. She sat with me. I got her a drink, and we talked a lot. She was really funny and spoke very good English.

My friend bar-fined a girl and left. I continued to drink a little longer, then decided to leave. Chai asked if she could come back with me, but maybe because I was very tired, or not confident due to my looks, I said no.

Just before getting in his taxi from the hotel, my friend grabbed me by the arm and said, ‘Don’t do anything stupid, like get married. But have lots of fun. Also, do not give them your phone number.’

Keeping in Touch

I spent the day walking around Bangkok shopping and eating. In the evening, as promised, I went to see Chai. Not even 30 minutes into the evening, she asked me if I would bar fine her so that she could show me around Bangkok. I agreed. She asked me for my number so we could meet again. I did not give it to her and made some lame excuse as to why not.

Fast forward to April 2015. I’d lost 50 kilos and had got myself a girlfriend in the UK. In April, I found out she wasn’t the faithful type, so we broke up. Not wanting to be overly sad, I booked myself a flight to Thailand.

The first night, I went back to the same bar to get Chai. She wasn’t there. On my second night, I went back, and Chai was there. I bar-fined Chai four nights in a row, and this time I gave her my number.

Working for a big airline, I have the privilege of free travel. Four weeks later, I was in Bangkok again to visit Chai. We became a couple on that trip. I started traveling to Bangkok every two months to see her.

The Jealousy Begins

Our relationship was going well, although she was incredibly jealous, which was starting to get to me. I could not smile at another woman. Even when talking to Chai at 7 Eleven, if I gave the cashier a friendly smile, it would set her off. Back home, if I was talking quietly while at work and she would hear a woman talking in the background, she would ask me who that was and if I was sleeping with her.

Chai would get angry but then apologize. For a further three years, we carried on.

The Heart Attack

The pandemic hit hard, and I was unable to go to Thailand. My last trip was in October 2019. In October of 2020, I had a major heart attack at 38 years of age and even needed triple bypass surgery.

Even when I was in the hospital at death’s door, Chai kept asking me if I was having relations with the nurses and other patients as if I was some kind of stud with a relentless appetite for lovemaking.

I now live on my own after recovering from heart surgery. I was pretty much useless for the first month and needed help for everything. Friends and private nurses helped me out. The questions from Chai yet again were always the same. It was really getting to me now.

Part of the recovery is that you have to be calm and really look after your heart. Chai did not understand this. Another three weeks, and after yet again being asked if I was sleeping with the nurses, I decided to call it a day.

I really liked Chai, but I could not see a future.