Divorce and Heartbreak in Thailand

 

“A little bit about me. I’m 58, divorced twice. I have three kids two girls and a boy. I live with my son; he is 15, and we live in Hawaii. I was in the US Army and I traveled a bit.”

My story starts in Australia, where I was vacationing with my sister. We met a couple in a Chinese restaurant the guy was from Malaysia and the girl was from Thailand. We were exchanging stories, and I told them that I planned a trip to Thailand. I jokingly asked the Thai girl if she knew somebody that could show me around. This was in 2019. I was already planning my Thai trip as a single guy. I planned to visit Bangkok and Pattaya. We exchanged Facebook contacts, and she introduced me to Nang on Facebook a month later.

So we were talking on Facebook for about a year before I actually made it to Bangkok, where she lives. Nang is beautiful. I was thinking, “This can’t be there goes my plans as a bachelor.” We got to know each other. She told me that she has three children and the youngest was two years old. I was reluctant in the beginning, but I thought to myself, “I can still go and do the tourist stuff with her.” I wasn’t looking for a relationship. She owns a cosmetic school.

Throughout the year we were talking on Facebook almost every day and video chatting once in a while. I can’t remember exactly when, but she told me she was starting a business and asked me if I wanted to invest in it. I thought, “Oh no, here we go here comes a scam.” I told her that I couldn’t, and I felt pretty sure that she wouldn’t want to meet me again.

Time marched on, and my planned vacation was set for two weeks in February 2020.

The First Meeting

I arrived in Thailand in the middle of the night. The next day, Nang was busy with her class, so she had one of her staff pick me up from my hotel. We finally met up and we had breakfast together. Nang did not speak much English, and I don’t speak any Thai. She brought along a friend an artist as an interpreter, and we used Google Translate when we were alone.

The first day, I actually sat in on one of her classes and watched her work. She showed me around Thailand the tourist stuff, the temples, the marketplaces. I met Nang’s youngest son, and I thought this is not too bad for the short time we were together. I was beginning to fall for her. We got intimate, if you know what I mean. Anyways, she took care of me and I was happy but sad to leave her. This was before COVID 19 kicked in. Luckily, I made it back home but this is not a happy ending.

I told her I want to come back and I’ll try in October. I made it home and we were talking through LINE (LINE is a social media app, if you haven’t heard of it before very popular in Thailand) as best as we could because of the limited communication skills between us. We would video chat. She was happy so I thought. She told me that she loved me many, many times. She also told me that she had land in Udon Thani. She said if I wanted to marry her, we can build a house in the future on that land. I thought, “Damn, I hit the jackpot.”

The Sudden End

Around June, all of a sudden, Nang texted me saying her doctor had advised her not to have a husband because there’s a problem with her uterus and that she should remain single but we could still be friends. She deleted me on Facebook.

I was heartbroken and happy at the same time. I don’t think that’s possible, but I told her I was heartbroken I didn’t tell her I was happy. I don’t know the reason, but maybe I’ll find out sometime in the future. In the meantime, I’m planning another trip to Pattaya as soon as everything opens up again. I’ve learned a lot from your videos. Keep them coming. I’ll keep you posted with an update. Hope to meet you someday, Peter. Thanks in advance Keith.

Ted and Ploy: An Ongoing Thailand Love Story

“This story is a little bit different from some that you tell because it is an ongoing story. I am an American from Missouri. In the last four years, I have been able to visit Thailand once a year, spending three or four weeks each visit. I met Ploy during my first visit to Thailand.”

Unfortunately, I met Ploy just two days before I was to leave Bangkok. I watched her coming down the BTS station (that’s like the metro, you know, if you haven’t been there before). I watched her coming down the BTS station, and her eyes locked, and she smiled that big Thai smile at me. Ploy has long hair that is extremely beautiful. If I had to guess her age, I would say she was in her early 40s. I actually like the fact that she is not a young girl, as we look quite good together I think so, anyway. I feel like when we’re together, I don’t look like I’m with a paid companion, if you know what I mean (and I’m keeping it clean for YouTube, as you always like to say, Peter).

Ploy passed me on the BTS stairs, and I was still looking at her. She turned around I turned around at the same time and I started walking back towards her. Ploy told me that she was on her way to work. I asked her, “Where do you work?” She showed me it was just a few streets down from where I was staying on Soi 11. I used to always stay at the Grand President on Soi 11. So I told her that I would come back later.

The First Encounters

I did go back, and it was great to see her as I felt immediate chemistry like I’ve never felt with anyone else, or at least for a very long time. I bought myself a drink and I bought Ploy a drink. I would have bought her more because I know she gets commission on the drinks, but the bar started to get busy so she had to go off and serve drinks. So I’m guessing she was a waitress in the bar, not a dancer. So my 40 something love is indeed working in a bar.

I asked Ploy if I could bar fine her. The management told me that the bar fine would be 1,000 baht because they don’t have many staff working. So I asked Ploy if I could come back after she finished work and maybe meet her outside of the bar. She said yes. Later on, after a few drinks on the street, we walked back to my hotel. We had a really nice conversation walking back to Soi 11.

I really enjoyed Ploy’s company. I felt like I was in love, and I almost told her “I love you” but I was able to control myself and not tell her. I felt like a silly schoolboy, but that is the effect the Thai girls have on you. Anyway, Ploy seemed to enjoy my company and was a fun girl. I found Ploy to be gorgeous. The small flaws on her body I found to be so beautiful. She left the next morning, and I told her I would see her in the evening. I was able to meet with her one more time, and then I had to leave for the airport in the early hours of the morning. I was really wishing I had met her sooner at the start of my trip and not at the end.

Of course, I had her LINE ID and we stayed in touch over the course of the next year.

Frustrating Timing

The next year when I planned my trip, it was poorly timed again. When I work overseas, I cannot plan when I take my holidays. I came before the Songkran festival, and Ploy was still in her hometown in Isan. I had a nice vacation except I didn’t get to see Ploy again until two days before I was to leave. How frustrating again. So Ploy arrives back in Bangkok two days before I was to leave. We arranged to meet, and I watched her exit the BTS station she was such a lovely vision in a white dress. She had gone home after work, obviously showered, and put on a nice white dress for me. She looked beautiful.

I took her to a Japanese restaurant, and we enjoyed a couple of drinks and some food, and then went to my hotel.

The British Military Guy

Fast forward one year. When I’m able to visit Thailand again, Ploy and I had communicated a handful of times over the course of the year. I was looking forward to seeing Ploy again. My feelings were: if I could spend time with Ploy, I didn’t need to be with other women as Ploy was the best company ever.

Trying to reach Ploy in the weeks leading up to my trip to Thailand was unsuccessful. I figured out that when she goes to Isan, either she doesn’t take her phone or she has no signal. I arrived in Bangkok, and I could not get in touch with Ploy this time. A week before I’m scheduled to leave Thailand, Ploy comes online and I see a LINE message from her. She had not sent me a message online, but for some reason I can’t remember how I could tell that she was back online. Maybe she had posted something I can’t remember. So I wrote to her, and then she wrote back.

I was very happy, but I had paid for the next couple of days at my hotel in Pattaya. So I planned to stay two more days and then head back down to Bangkok so I could see her. Ploy explained that her son was in the military and she had to attend some type of ceremony for him back in Isan. So again, I would not be able to see her. With luck what luck? Yes.

Over the course of the next year, I followed her Facebook page, and I could see that on her Facebook page with her another guy. I was able to ascertain that he was a retired British military guy living in Thailand. I understand that she’s a beautiful woman and was going to attract a lot of male attention, so I don’t blame her for having a boyfriend. My hope was that I would be able to see her anyway on my next trip.

As a matter of fact, I was in Pattaya when the city got shut down due to COVID 19 actually the whole country got shut down while I was there, and I felt lucky to get a flight out. There was no word from Ploy, and I felt foolish walking through the bars on Soi 11 looking for her as she had told me she worked at a bar on Soi 11 but I didn’t find her, and I was disappointed. I found peace just knowing that she was happy with the guy and hopefully was having a happy life. I had a great holiday in spite of not seeing Ploy, and the COVID 19 problem didn’t seem to affect things until right before I left.

The Mixed Emotions

Back in Missouri, I got a LINE message informing me that Ploy was back online, and we chatted back and forth a little bit. I asked her if I could see her on my next trip to Thailand. She said, “Yes, we can meet if you like.” I figured that she had broken up with the British military guy but I saw a TikTok video with the two of them in it only a couple of days after she said we could meet. So now I have mixed emotions. Knowing that she is willing to cheat on the British military guy with me I’ll be happy to see her when I visit next time, but feel disgusted that I can’t trust her, and that if she will cheat on him with me, then she’ll eventually cheat on me if we end up together at all.

I’ve been married before and I have always told myself that I would never get married again that is, until I met Ploy.