How a Two-Year Relationship Became a Thai Dating Scam

This Thai girl I was in a relationship with for 2 years completely fooled me, and I mean completely.

Everything she said, everything she did, was a lie. Her goal from day one was to get as much money from me as possible, and she did a very good job at it.

I feel stupid that a guy like me fell for it. I have always been cautious and thought I was streetwise, but she really did get one over on me.

This wasn’t just a quick scam either; it went on for far too long, and I lost way too much money during the whole thing.

Pi’s Two-Year Thai Dating Scam

My story is about a Thai lady named Pi that I met while I was holidaying in Bangkok.

She had this way about her that just sucked you right in. It wasn’t even like the usual bar girl thing; she made it feel proper, like we met for a reason.

I fell for her act completely. I thought we had something real, but the whole time I was just another victim on her list.

She’s been tricking foreign men for quite a while now, and after finally taking the time to really look into her and all the shady things she’s done over the years, I can see just how bad and dishonest she truly is.

Putting all those little lies together added up to one big con, and I was just the latest guy to fall for it.

My First Bangkok Trip Was About Fun

When I first came to Thailand, I wasn’t even thinking about finding a serious girlfriend or settling down. I just wanted to travel around, enjoy myself without worries, see new places and just enjoy life really.

Back then, my biggest worry was choosing between a Chang or a Leo. Life was simple. I was just another tourist enjoying my time, completely clueless about what was coming.

Early on during my trip, I met this guy from Germany; he was around my age and was there for the same reason I was, to have fun.

He seemed to know all the best places for nightlife and fun, and for a good while, we were having an absolute blast together exploring everything.

By exploring, I don’t mean going sightseeing and visiting temples and all that kind of stuff; I mean exploring different parts of the nightlife.

When Bangkok Nightlife Became Repetitive

But after a couple months of non-stop partying, even wild places like Nana Plaza and Soi Cowboy started feeling predictable and stale, like I’d seen it all before.

We were both getting a bit bored of the same old routine. The same bars, the same girls, and of course the same lines that they all use.

If you have spent any time in Thailand doing the whole nightlife thing, it’s great fun but you know that it gets boring fast.

Wanting a Thai Holiday Girlfriend

It was only after seeing farangs walking around with a Thai girl as their holiday girlfriend, or whatever you call it, that I wanted to meet someone to spend some time with.

I told my friend that I would actually like to meet a nice girl to maybe date, and that’s when he suggested trying out online dating, you know, just to meet a normal, nice girl for a change instead of the usual bar scene.

That simple suggestion from my friend… well, that’s exactly where everything started going wrong without me even realizing it at the time.

It sounded like a good plan at first. A way to find someone real, a proper holiday girlfriend or maybe even more than that, instead of just another bar scene. I should have just stuck to the beers.

I must say though, using online dating in Thailand is just like walking into a virtual bar; it’s full of freelancers and scammers that you have to swipe through.

Matching With Pi on a Thai Dating App

I came across Pi’s profile on an app one day, just like plenty of other guys have, who dream of finding a kind and wonderful woman from Thailand to maybe have a future with.

I was just scrolling through, not really expecting much, and then her photo popped up.

In her profile picture she looked absolutely beautiful, 100% the type of woman I look for.

She had this long, shiny black hair flowing over her shoulders and a figure so stunning it looked photoshopped. She had the kind of look that makes you forget to check for warning signs.

I didn’t even stop to think. I just messaged her straight away, my brain already painting this perfect picture of what she’d be like.

Our First Date at a Sukhumvit Live Music Bar

After messaging back and forth for a little while, all sweet and flirty, we finally set up our first date at this live music bar somewhere along Sukhumvit around Soi 7 if I’m remembering the location right, though all those streets blend together after a while.

That first night, she was even better looking in person. She had this way about her that made you feel like she was totally into you, like you are exactly the type of person she was looking for, and I was completely sold.

The place we went to was great; it wasn’t a bar with bargirls or anything like that. We ended up going back four or five times over those early weeks because the music was so spot on and the whole bar was just enjoyable.

Why I Never Felt Like a Desperate Tourist

Just to be completely clear I’m not some washed up old timer clinging to his last chances.

I’ve got my own place, a decent job, and I look after myself. I wasn’t some desperate guy she took pity on. She went after me just as hard as I went after her.

I go to the gym often and take care of myself, so I’d honestly say I’m in better shape and better looking than most guys my age wandering around Bangkok.

She was the one texting me first most days, always finding a reason to chat. She made it feel like she was totally into me.

So no, this wasn’t some lonely, desperate guy shooting way above his paygrade like people might assume.

Why Some Men Choose Dating in Thailand

I know most men and women think the only reason men travel to Thailand is because they can’t get a girl in their country, but that’s not always true.

A lot of men go to Thailand because they don’t want the type of women back in their country, and in this day and age, who can really blame them?

I went to Thailand to have fun; it’s only because I got a bit bored doing the same thing every day that I wanted to meet someone to spend time with.

As I mentioned, I didn’t care about dating at first, let alone a full-blown relationship.

Pi Asked for a Long-Distance Relationship

I hadn’t enjoyed someone’s company as much as hers in a long time; we got on really well, so well that we even kept in touch when I left.

Before I left, it was her that told me she wanted to be in a relationship with me; that’s what I mean when I said it felt like she was the one doing the chasing.

Of course I wanted to be in a relationship as well; I genuinely thought I had found the one. At the time she was everything I could have asked for.

Our relationship went on for over 2 years, with me flying to see her 3 or 4 times. Each time spent together was better than the last.

Paying for Pi’s School and Life in Thailand

While I was back at home, I was working a lot and also sending her money to help out. The end goal was to save money and eventually for her to move to Canada to be with me.

She seemed excited to move here and have a future here with me. I was paying for her school and giving her money so she did not have to work while she was studying.

I know, I know, I was stupid for doing that, but I really thought I was doing the right thing and the money was going to good use.

Discovering Pi Had Other Foreign Boyfriends

After being with her for a long time and thinking everything was fine, other guys started reaching out to me out of nowhere, telling me their own stories about how she tricked them too just like she had been doing to me all along without me realizing it.

At first, I didn’t believe what I was reading; I thought it may just be some jealous ex boyfriend or something. But we compared messages, pictures she had sent, plans she had made with us, and realized we were all living the same lie with the same woman.

I helped pay for her nursing school and covered all her living costs for a long while, believing it would give her a real shot at getting a Canadian visa and building a better career once she finally made it here with me.

I was sending money every month, thinking I was building a future for us. I felt like I was doing the right thing as her boyfriend, you know, helping my girl get ahead.

The Facebook Message That Exposed Pi

We only just split up recently because some other guy happened to see a message she sent me on Facebook and that’s when everything came crashing down, since it turned out he had been seeing her at the exact same time as me without either of us knowing.

This poor bloke saw a chat pop up on her screen and his whole world fell apart too. He decided to do some digging and track me down.

He found me on Facebook after seeing her messages and started asking me all kinds of questions about our relationship, and to our anger, we slowly realized we’d both been played by the same woman this whole time. And what made it even worse was finding out we weren’t the only ones there turned out to be several more guys she’d pulled these exact same tricks on over the years.

She’s become an absolute expert at making men fall hard for her pretty face and sweet personality, all while carefully leading them straight into her clever little money trap without them ever suspecting a thing.

Small Emergencies Led to a $100,000 Loss

She never asked for huge amounts at once. It was always a story about her mum being sick, or school fees, or rent. Just enough to make you feel like you are doing the right thing by helping, but it never stopped.

I’m almost too ashamed to even say out loud how much money she managed to take me for over time, but let’s just say it wasn’t some small, forgettable amount it was enough that anyone with decent savings would definitely feel it in their wallet for a long while after. It was around $100,000 over 2 and a half years if I add everything up.

Looking at my bank statements afterwards made me feel physically sick. I worked hard for that money, and she just treated it like her personal fund.

Guys really need to watch out and be extra careful with these kinds of women they’ve spent years doing this, learning all the tricks, the mind games and the lines to say that can leave you skint and heartbroken.

She was a real professional. Every tear, every “I miss you,” every promise was perfectly timed to keep me hooked and sending cash.

Long Bangkok Visits Hid the Red Flags

I stayed with her in Bangkok not just once but three separate times, with each visit lasting about three months, and during all those weeks together everything seemed completely great between us she acted so loving and perfect that I never suspected a thing.

Every time I flew back, she’d be waiting for me at the airport with a huge smile and a big hug. For those three months, she made me feel like I was the only guy in her world.

Sure, there were a couple of small red flags that I should have seen now that I look back, but in the moment they never seemed big enough to make me seriously question things or doubt what we had together.

Little things, like her phone always being face down, or her getting a bit cagey about her plans sometimes. When I questioned these little things in my head I just convinced myself everything was fine and I was being paranoid.

I always treated her with nothing but kindness and respect, giving her everything I could, and it’s really tough knowing there were other guys who did the exact same only to end up just as hurt and just as out of pocket as I was in the end.

Seeing Pi Back on a Dating Site

After we finally split for good, I decided to try my luck on another dating site, probably a stupid mistake, but I still had the hope that maybe this time I’d find someone who’d actually be decent and honest. And wouldn’t you know it? The very first profile picture that came up was hers.

I’m almost too nervous to even check other dating sites these days because there’s this feeling I might scroll down and suddenly see her fake smiling profile picture staring right back at me like some kind of nightmare repeating itself.

I put so much of my time, hard earned money, and real heart into building something with her, and now after everything that happened, it’s become really hard not to look at all Thai women in a completely different and more cautious way than before.

It’s a real shame, because I know most of them are good people. But she’s made it so I second guess every smile and every compliment now.

But weirdly enough, despite all the mess and heartache, I still haven’t completely given up hope somewhere out there in that big confusing world, maybe there’s still one real, honest woman worth finding after all.

I guess you have to hold onto that little bit of hope, otherwise the bad ones win completely.

Comparing Pi’s Lies With the Other Men

Right now, from what I’ve been able to piece together, I know of at least four other guys she’s been secretly involved with and I’ve actually sat down and had long conversations with three of them, comparing notes about all the lies and games she played with each of us.

Even though it was bad listening to everything that she had done, it was hard not to laugh at the fact that her stories and things she said didn’t change for any of us.

It really makes you stop and wonder just how many more poor guys are out there who haven’t come forward yet or realized they’ve been tricked too.

She must have a whole phone full of guys on the go, all thinking they’re the only one. And this is just one girl; imagine how many other girls are doing this?

Meeting Pi’s Family in Isan

What really gets me, what still stings now, is that she actually brought me home to meet her whole family and let me sit there with them all, smile at their faces, making me believe this was all real when none of it was.

That whole family meeting, her mum cooking for us, her dad drinking with me, it was all part of the show. They were all in on it, making me feel like I was being welcomed in.

From everything I’ve read and heard over the years, meeting the family is supposed to mean you’re serious about each other, maybe even that you’re ‘the one’ she wants to build a future with or at least that’s what they let you believe.

It wasn’t until after all of this happened that I did more research and found out pretty much every girl takes their farang boyfriend to visit the family; it almost doesn’t mean anything nowadays.

Oh, and side note I actually really liked Isan when I visited; it was quiet and simple but really had something about it that makes me want to visit again and maybe someday travel all around that area.

How Thai Dating Scammers Treat Romance as Business

Anyway, it’s a proper business for these girls. They practice the lines, the stories, even the tears. They know exactly which buttons to press to make you open your wallet.

I never thought to ask the other guys which specific dating sites they originally found her on, but looking back now, I’d bet good money she’s still active on plenty of them, using the same photos and sweet talk to reel in new guys every day.

She’s probably chatting up some new bloke right now, telling him the same stories about nursing school and her sick mother. The whole cycle just starts again with a new wallet.

My Warning for Men Dating in Thailand

So listen, fellas, here’s my hard earned warning: Watch your step real careful out there, because these women know all the tricks. And let’s just hope that there are still a few good ones left who’ll actually care about you as a person, not just as an open wallet waiting to be emptied.

You have to remember that not every woman is like her. There are decent people out there, but you’ve got to be smart and take things slow.

Two and a Half Years Lost to the Relationship

And just to give you the full picture I’m 41 years old, she’s only 31, and we were together for nearly two and a half long years. Knowing I wasted all that time on her empty promises makes the whole situation even worse.

Two and a half years of my life, gone. I could have built something real with someone else, but I was stuck in her little fantasy world.

I only ever saw a photo of one other guy she fooled he was in his 50s with a noticeable gut, so clearly she’s not picky about who she targets as long as they’ve got money to send her way whenever she asks.

How Pi’s Scam Became a Full-Time Income

It doesn’t matter what you look like or how old you are. If you have a bank account and a kind heart, you’re a target. They just see walking ATMs.

The other guys admitted they’d wired her cash too, though thankfully not as much as I had stupidly sent over time.

Hearing that they sent less didn’t make me feel any better. It just proved she had a whole system going, and I was her biggest sucker.

When you really stop and think about it, she’s probably collecting all those payments like some twisted paycheck whether it’s 3,000 baht from one lonely guy or 30,000 from another and stacking it up into a pretty comfortable living without lifting a finger.

She’s got it down to a fine art. A few sweet messages, a couple of fake tears, and the money just rolls in. It’s her full time job, and she’s bloody good at it. Not a bad little scam at all.

Missing the Woman I Thought Pi Was

That’s the worst part, you know. She had all the tools to be amazing. The charm, the looks, the way she made you feel special. It was all just part of the act.

Part of me still plays with this stupid thought that she could’ve been an incredible partner if she’d just focused on one guy instead of playing the field. She had all the qualities that most men look for, and if she wasn’t a complete scammer she probably would have made a good wife.

It’s a tough pill to swallow. You miss the person you thought she was, even though that person never actually existed.

The Phone Calls That Exposed More Lies

Sooner or later though, karma’s going to come knocking hard. I told her straight to her face that beauty fades fast, and when that pretty mask finally cracks, what’s left? Just a lonely woman who’s probably spent all the money she had scammed over the years.

I told her that one day she’ll look in the mirror and have nothing but regrets. Even if she does save money, that money won’t keep her happy at night when she’s old and alone.

And all those shady stories you hear about phones suddenly going unanswered for no reason? I got to live through that nightmare myself. Twice, some random Thai guy even picked up when I called her number.

Hearing a man’s voice answer her phone is enough to throw anyone off. I knew right then something was seriously wrong, but she just acted all confused and innocent.

I really went all out for her treated her better than most guys would, took her on nice trips, thought I was helping her with our future. Now after all that mess, I’m keeping my guard up all the time, with everyone I meet.

Regretting the Dating App and Moving On

Maybe it’s smarter to just stick to fun without diving into anything serious… though who really knows? Life’s got a way of surprising you when you least expect it.

It’s made me proper cautious now. I keep everyone at arm’s length because I just don’t want to go through that again. The trust is gone.

Wondering How Much Money Pi Really Made

You know what I’d give anything to see? A full stack of all those Western Union slips and bank transfer records just to know the cold, hard number she’s raking in each year off lonely guys like me and many others who actually believed her act.

I bet it would be a proper fortune; multiple guys sending money every month must add up to a seriously easy life for her.

Don’t get me wrong Thailand’s still an unbelievable place, a lot of fun to be had there. Just keep your heart guarded and your eyes wide open, because not every sweet smile is what it seems.

Go and have a great time, just don’t be naive like I was. Enjoy the beaches and the nightlife, but take your time before you trust someone with your wallet or your heart.

It’s a damn shame how many good hearted people land here full of hope, only to get chewed up by those ‘I good girl for you’ types who turn out to be professional con artists in skinny jeans.

You see these new guys arrive with stars in their eyes, and you just want to grab them by the shoulders and tell them to slow down. But they have to learn for themselves, just like I did.