900,000 THB Thai Bar Girl Pregnancy Scam
A little bit of background, I had been to Thailand a few years before this story, and I quickly became addicted to the night life out there.
I know its not for everyone, but I liked the idea of buying girls drinks and having fun with them without any strings attached.
It’s really not just the older men that can get addicted to that place, I loved it, and couldn’t wait to one day return.
So let me start my story and hopefully your viewers can take it as a lesson, or have a laugh, I don’t care I just fancy sharing it.
Flying To Phuket For The Beach and The Bars
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Me and a friend of mine flew to Phuket for a short trip so we could spend days on the beach and night times having fun on the adult playground that is Bangla Road.
I was pretty clued up, well I thought I was and had done some research about Thai bar girls and how they can be extremely convincing liars and how they can make you believe that they like you or even love you.
That being said, I know it can work sometimes, there is plenty of stories about farangs with bar girls that are successful, but in general, most stories end badly and the game that they play is just for money.
Fair play to them, it is business after all, and if foreigners fall for that then its not exactly the girls fault.
Like I said I had been to Thailand a few years before, just to Bangkok, but it was my friends first time in the Kingdom.
I think It’s great seeing people experience Thailand night life for the first time, they feel like a rockstar and a kid in a candy store at the same time.
Everywhere they look, there will be a beautiful Thai girl that they fall in love with.
Im sure we all remember our first time.
My Friend Quickly Falls In Love On Bangla Road
Anyway, after a couple of nights exploring the playground in Phuket, buying lady drinks, flirting, bar fining and temporarily falling in love with a new girl every 5 minutes, my friend met a stunning girl he was smitten over.
They was all over each other, he couldn’t get enough of her from the moment he saw her.
She had reeled him in good and proper, he wanted to keep going back to the same bar so he could see her.
I told him to go have fun with her, but don’t do anything stupid like blowing all your cash on her, falling in love with her or paying for her to leave the bar for good.
He went to see her again, and I hit Bangla Road again on my own to get into some mischief with the beauties there.
Exploring Bangla Road On My Own
I remember going to an Australian bar and the waitress there was very flirty with me, she was clearly a pro, and if I had not done my research before I could of quite easily fell for this girl.
I can really see how easy it is to get attached to a bar girl there.
The next day, me and my friend went to chill on the beach and my god he had fallen hard for this girl.
He would not shut up about her, telling me how he had a fantastic night with her and describing what they got up.
Telling me she is nothing like the other girls we had met on this trip and how she did not really go with customers, and that she is only doing this job to support her family but she wants to quit, you know, the typical stories that girls tell foreigners.
I could see that he was falling for her and I did try warn him about catching feelings here, but I guess some people have to learn the hard way.
Later on in the story, you’ll see that I should have listened to my own advice.
Double Dating Bar Girls? No Thanks
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He then told me his new girl had a best friend at the bar that wanted to be set up with me, we was invited to meet them and go eat Moo Kata with them in the afternoon.
I told him straight that I did not want to go on any dates with bar girls, and that they are just there to have fun with inside the bar.
However, I did tell him that at night I will come to the bar with him to meet the new love of his life and her friend.
He agreed even though he really wanted to double date, but I just wasnt interested in wasting my days with a girl I probably wouldn’t have wanted to be with.
Once we arrived at the bar that night, I was introduced to a shy but very very cute girl named Bell.
She seemed nice, nothing overly special and not the type I’d normally go for but my friend wanted to bar fine them so we could spend the night with them.
Normally before I bar fine a girl, I like to move around the different bars to see which girl id really like to be with.
But Me being a good friend did not want to burst my friends bubble with his new girl, so I accepted to paying 300 bah bar fine for Bell and off we all went to party though the night.
The night was pretty good, we had a lot of laughs and fun time, I really connected with Bell but at that time, I only liked her as a friend and had no interest in spending more time with her.
I even went home alone after we partied all night.
Now this is the part of my story where the problems begin.
See, my friend was totally head over heels for his bar girl, and he wanted to go and see her pretty ,much every night.
And I didn’t want to go exploring new bars on my own all the time.
I wanted to have fun with my friend as well, so most of the nights I would join him, and of course Bell would be there.
At that point, I did not fancy Bell or even considered taking her back to my hotel.
I merely looked at her as a friend and someone I could hang out with and have fun in the bar with.
That was all soon about to change.
After a few nights at the bar, Bell started to grow on me and sure enough, soon after, feelings developed and we became inseparable.
We would be at the beach in the day, bar fining her in the evening and sleeping at my hotel at night, every night.
Now it was me falling head over heals for a Thai girl, after a warned my friend not to.
I did not realise it at the time, but I fell for all the bar girl traps with Bell.
She had become an addiction to me and I felt that this girl better than others that I had met there.
From what I could see, it seemed that she hated doing bar work and never wanted to be there, always wanted me to bar fine her as soon as she started.
She did tell me that she does not go with customers and just talks to them at the bar.
Claimed that she was doing this type of work to save up for further education as she wanted to work as a manager roll in retail or at a restaurant but she wasn’t fully qualified.
Or something along them lines, I can’t really remember.
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This Bar Girl Seemed “Different” From The Rest
But whatever she said, I was eating up all the stories and believing every word that came out of her mouth.
Looking back, I don’t know how I went from not wanting to spend my nights with her to wanting to see her every minute of every hour.
It’s strange how Thailand works.
Anyway, A couple of days before me and my friend was leaving, she did actually tell me that she loved me and did not want me to leave her.
I told her that I loved her too and I would be back to be with her as soon as I could.
I really did not want to leave her, at the time, it really sucked that I had to go.
When the day finally came that I had to leave, my heart was heavy and during the taxi ride to the airport there was a lump in my throat, holding back to tears.
This was completely new feeling for me.
I thought I was clued up on how things work here and I’d be the last person to fall for the bar traps.
Before entering the airport I gave Bell my last 5,000 I had on me, even though she did not ask for it, I still wanted to give her a little something before leaving.
I know it wasn’t much, but I wanted to show a little appreciation for the time that I had spent with her, even though I had paid for our days and nights together.
Planning To Go Back To Thailand For My New Bar Girl Love
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I was so eager to get back to Thailand that on the plane, before it had even landed in London, me and my friend had made plans for our next trips so we could see our ladies as soon as possible.
The plan was to work as much as possible, taking on every overtime shifts I can get my hands on and then return to Thailand in 2 months.
And that’s exactly what I did, I think I had like 1 day off from work in the whole 2 months, and saved every penny that I could.
Before we knew it, we was back on that big bird heading back to the land of smiles to carry on where we left on.
The excitement that I was going to see Bell again was overwhelming, after 2 months I was still madly in love with her and couldn’t wait to have her in my arms again.
Once we landed in Thailand, we Checked into the hotel, showered and got ready, then we headed straight to the bar where the girls were waiting for us.
As soon as Bell saw me, she jumped up from her table and came running into my arms, it felt like we had been away from each other for 2 years rather than 2 months.
The butterflies I got when holding her again was insane, I kind of knew deep down that I was in trouble but I’d be lying if I said that I did not like the feeling I had.
Me and Bell soon found ourself spending every minute of the day together, doing the same things we did last time.
Going out to restaurants and the beach in the day, then bar finning her at night and partying until ending the night at my hotel.
it was a magical 2 weeks to say the least.
I realise now that I was bitten by the Thai bar girl bug, suckered in and convincing myself that this girl is different and we could actually have a future together.
But like so many men in Thailand, we are living in a fantasy rather than reality.
Me and bell said our goodbyes and again there was lots of tears and promises to make us work.
Them 2 weeks spent with Bell, my friend and his girlfriend flew by and we found ourself on the plane yet again.
My friend told me he is going to break it off with his girl because she dropped the “I Need money because my mother is sick” on him.
I told him it was a good idea to break it off with her, because the requests for money would just keep coming, her mother would always be sick
Luckily, Bell was different, Right? Wrong.
I ended up returning to Thailand twice more that year to see Bell.
I Am Not Rich, But She Was Worth It
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I just want to say now that I was not and still not rich by any means.
I was working lots of over time to just have enough to make all of these trips to Thailand.
During my trips I was still under the impression that I had found a one in a million bar girl and that we had a bright future ahead of us.
We hardly ever had a fall out, she never asked me to support her or come up with some lies to why she would need me to send her money.
She knew my financial situation and that did not seemed to bother her, that’s why I loved her, because it felt like she loved me for me and not for money.
We carried on as we were for a year, and things was going pretty good, I was still hoping that one day I could be with her and not have to leave.
One day while I was back in England, she told me that her Facebook account had been hacked by an old ex boyfriend that was trying to get in touch with her.
She had told me previously about her ex boyfriend and we had a brief encounter with him once in Thailand where he drove by on a bike pointing at us.
My Girlfriend Has An Obsessive Ex Stalker
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She told me not to worry and that her ex was just obsessed with her but they broke up a long time ago.
Facebook was the main way that me and Bell kept in contac so I created a new one for her and tried to hide as much of her personal details as possible to prevent her ex trying to find her.
We carried on chatting on her new account where we even discussed more of our future plans.
She wanted to get married and we both move to Bangkok where she could go to university and I could try and get some type of work.
Looking back, it was just wishful thinking and the chances of us having a Rosie future was very slim, I was just blinded by love.
Though the feeling of living and working in Bangkok with Bell would have been a dream come true.
Now here’s the part of the story where it gets even more interesting.
One day she messaged me asking me to call her as soon as possible once I finished work.
I did not know what to think of this message, a million thoughts went through my head.
I was expecting something like someone in her family is sick and she needs money, or that she has found someone else and wishes to break it off with me.
So once I finished work I rushed home and called her immediately.
She told me she was pregnant and that the baby was mine.
This was something I was not expecting.
I quickly started doing maths in my head, and it would have been around 5 months since I last slept with her.
Wondering why she’s left it this long to tell me, I replied “Are you sure it’s my baby?”
She replied “Yes its your baby, I have not been with any other guys since we met, I was just scared to tell you because I did not want you to leave me because I love you so much”
I Had No Plans On Becoming A Father
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After our call, I must have sat there for about 30 minutes with my mind racing and trying to think what I should do next.
We had never planned to have a baby, we had never even spoke about it before.
In my eyes I had 2 options.
Option 1. Block her from everywhere, come off social media, and lay low for a while and basically just move on with my life acting like I had never met her.
Or option 2. Be a man, fly out to her, help raise my child and be a good boyfriend and future husband.
I did really care about Bell and I wanted her to be in my life, so option 1 quickly became not an option.
I booked another flight as soon as I had enough money, which was about a month after finding out she was carrying my child.
It was both funny and reliving once I landed in Phuket and saw Bell walking towards me with her bulging belly.
I was relived because at least she wasn’t lying to me about being pregnant.
Though it was a bit awkward walking around Phuket with her, with other farangs looking and staring at us.
Dread to think what they was really thinking when they saw me with a pregnant bar girl.
We visited the same bar where I met Bell, where all her friends was congratulating us.
I said thank you, but really I did not know how to feel about this whole situation, I had a mix of emotions.
Hospital Trips and Tests On The Baby
We of course went to the hospital for a scan and get some other tests, we got confirmation that Bell was approximately 6 months pregnant and was healthy with all the other tests, thankfully she had no diseases.
It did not fully sink in that I was going to be a father.
I only went for a fun holiday with my friend, and now im rubbing a Thai girls belly feeling my unborn baby kick.
Although this wasn’t planned, I was hoping that it would all work out and we’d live happily ever after, again, a lot of wishful thinking.
I couldn’t get rid of the doubts in my mind about the whole pregnancy.
I always use protection and I made sure I 100% use it when im having fun in Thailand.
I was convincing myself that I must have gotten too drunk once and we didn’t use protection, or maybe it just split, I don’t know, I guess I was trying hard to believe that the baby must be mine and my girlfriend wouldn’t be lying to me.
I was soon back in England again, alone with my thoughts.
I Still Dont Know What To Do In This Situation
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I talked to one of my best work colleagues about my situation, she told me that I need to be really careful and that I need to find out 100% if the baby is mine otherwise its going to cost me a lot of money for nothing.
In fact, that was pretty much the same answer that everyone gave me.
But silly naive me believed everything my one in a million different bar girl would tell me.
Now requests for money had began, and it was pretty much hard to decline her requests as she was carrying my child, I needed to be a man and support her.
I started sending her 10,000 baht a month. It wasn’t a great amount, but its the best I could have done during that time and the wages that I was on.
Then the day finally came where I got a call from Bell telling me that my healthy baby had been born, again I had mixed emotions.
I was somewhat happy that I was a father and starting a family with my girlfriend, but at the same time, the doubts never left my mind.
Me and Bell decided it would be best for her to leave Phuket and move to Bangkok for a bit with her mother and siblings so she could get physical help from them while I help financially.
I desperately wanted to see my child and Bell, I hated the thought of being away from them and not being there to help.
Time To Go And See My New Born Child and Thai Girlfriend
So scraping the bottom of my bank account, I book flight to Bangkok to see my girlfriend and new born child.
I was met at the airport by the whole family which I thought was a bit weird, but it was my first time meeting her family so this may have been a normal thing.
We drove to her family home that seemed to be in a run down part of Bangkok, not exactly the place that I’d like my son to be bought up in.
When I walked inside, the baby was swiftly placed in my arms and with me staring at the baby, and Bells family staring at me, it was so obvious that this baby was 100% Thai.
It was not mixed in the slightest, and had none of my features at all.
I think the family was expecting me to question the baby’s race.
Clearly This Baby Is Not Mine?
But as the baby hadn’t long been born I put it down to that its not developed all the features yet and could well be half Thai.
At this point, my anxiety was off the charts and I sensed something wasn’t right here.
It wasn’t long until money was bought up, and I was put on the spot infront of the whole family.
One of the family members who spoke fluent English and was already married to a westerner started questioning me about insurance polices for the baby.
Bell just sat there looking embarrassed and nervous, watching me part way with 12,000 baht for her family to help with the baby.
Like I said, I knew something wasn’t right here and I sensed I was being scammed, however, at that point I couldn’t prove it.
Next, the mother of Bell said that she needs 30,000 baht for the family every month for looking after my baby.
I agreed but made the excuse that I needed to go back to England first to set up transferring funds. I just said that my bank does not let me make transfers from another country.
That was obviously a complete lie, but I did not have 30,000 there and then.
Now im really in too deep.
Not only do I have an unplanned baby with a bar girl, but now I need to support the whole family.
The amount I make from my wages is barely enough for me alone to scrape by.
My Feelings For My Girlfriend Have Faded
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Once I got back to England from my latest Thailand trip to see my son, I realised that I was no longer in love with Bell and that a future with her was wishful thinking.
We just wasn’t the same anymore, we spoke less, and when we did speak it was more or less always about money.
I was still unsure if the baby was mine, I wish I had done something secretly to be able to get a DNA test of something.
I did not want to be a dead beat dad if the baby was mine, so I took the risk and continued to send whatever money I could every month.
Then one day, I was checking Facebook, and saw that Bell had changed her profile picture from a picture of me and her, to a picture of just her.
This made me a bit suspicious that she may have met someone else or there is something going on that I don’t know about.
This next bit, maybe I shouldn’t have done, but im glad I did. I remember it was me that created her Facebook account for her, so I logged into it.
What I found shocked me.
All the doubts about my son I had could finally be laid to rest.
Shocked At What I Discovered
It turns out that I wasn’t the only father, there was 2 other western fathers, a German and an American.
She has been copying and pasting the same message to all 3 of us, and all 3 of us fell for it.
We was all lead to believe that we were the father of this child.
This beautiful perfect innocent bar girl that wouldn’t harm a fly was receiving 90,000 a month from this scam she had running.
It turns out that the baby wasn’t any of ours, but her Thai boyfriends that she has been in a relationship with since before I met her.
I managed to contact the 2 other westerners and explain that we were being scammed, I sent all the screenshots and what not.
Wether they believed me or not, I don’t know, but at least I tried to warn them.
I was so angry, hurt and heartbroken.
Angry because I fell for the bar girl tricks and allowed myself to be scammed this way. I really should have listened to my own advice that I gave to my friend.
I was Hurt because at the time I did think she was different, and that we could have possibly had a future together, a good one.
And heartbroken because I feel I was just used by her, that her feelings towards me were fake from the start.
Anyway, after an hour or so after I cooled down, I wasn’t angry anymore I just felt stupid.
I called Bell and confronted her with what I found, at first she denied that she is lying but when I told her that ive been on her Facebook.
I shown her all the screenshots of the chats she had been having with the other guys to which she admitted everything.
The thing that got me the most, is she did not even apologise or sound apologetic in any way.
It was like “Oh ive been caught, onto the next guy”
She didn’t take my feelings into consideration at all, regardless of all the trips ive taken and time we spent together.
I Dont Think I Could Ever Be With A Thai Bar Girl Again
I won’t ever get in another “relationship” with another bargirl. I understand now that they are just there to make money any way that they can. They are very convincing and it’s a way of life for them.
About 6 months passed with no communication at all and I decided to have another trip with my friend.
We went to Bangkok and then headed to Phuket.
I was drinking in a bar opposite the bar that I met her, then I saw her walk outside.
She must of left her baby in Bangkok while she returns to the bars.
A lot of memories came flooding back and I started thinking again about how my future would of been with her if she was a legit girl
I was contemplating walking over just to say hi or something, I don’t know, but I thought what would be the point?
I drank my drink, left without her seeing me, and never saw her again.
