Sending Money and More Red Flags In Thailand

I am a guy living on the east coast of Canada and have traveled around the world several times and spent time with many women worldwide during my travels. I have been very lucky, I guess, and never met a lady who stole from me or messed with me or gave me any kind of diseases. Most women I have met actually quite like that lifestyle as they get to party and meet all kinds of interesting people, get well paid, and hopefully meet a guy they like. It is way better than working in a factory or some other mundane job as they normally have poor education or of course are single mothers mostly. This lifestyle seems to be the choice for many of them.

Anyway, approximately 20 months ago, I went to do a job in Ghana, West Africa. After coming off the plane in Accra, pretty drunk and tired after traveling 29 hours, I was approached by a woman in arrivals trying to sell me a SIM card. We had a good conversation. I asked her to load the card for me, then requested she put her phone number in my phone in case of issues or if I had to refill it. I asked if there was a bar at the airport, and she took me there. I bought a beer for me and a soft drink for her as she did not drink, and we continued chatting for about 45 minutes.

I went to my hotel, then sent her a message asking what time she finished and whether she would like to come to the hotel. I told her to pick up some beer and whatever she wanted. She agreed to come at the end of her shift at 11:00 p.m. She turned up. We chatted for a couple of hours and then had aerobics, which I failed miserably due to the alcohol and fatigue. She stayed the night anyhow. The next morning, I flew to another part of Ghana, and I got her a taxi home. She looked okay, nothing stunning, at 34 years old. Her name was Adma. She had a body to die for.

Trips to Dubai and the Philippines With Adma

When I got situated in Ghana, I called and asked if she would like to come visit for a few days. She agreed, so I bought her a flight. When she arrived, I picked her up from the airport, took her to the hotel, then returned to work. Every evening for 5 days, we went out to dinner, then back to the hotel to hang out at the pool bar, and then to the room for some aerobics at bedtime and before going to work. I could not get enough of her gorgeous body, and she did a few things that told me she was a novice to aerobics. After 5 days, she went back home.

When returning to the town where she lived before flying home, I spent two nights there with Adma before returning to Canada. We continued chatting daily and made plans to meet again.

She is 35, does not smoke or drink, goes to church every weekend, and seems to be religious. She told me she has a degree, but she also believes wrestling is real, and that if something is not on social media, it is not true.

Last February, I was working in Cyprus and told her at the end of the job I would fly to Dubai for 10 days and would fly her there to meet me. She claimed no visa was required for Dubai, which I believed and arranged her flight. Then the day before I flew there, I checked and it turned out she did require a visa. It was costly, but I managed. We went to Dubai for 10 days and had a good time, but it was kind of expensive. We argued several times, but the makeup aerobics afterwards were great.

However, prior to this woman getting her period, she is a total lunatic and not in a good way. Mood swings and rash decisions. Yes, a total nut job. Better to avoid her completely. Do not even talk on the phone to her.

Adma’s Red Flags and the Plans for Asia

In November, I invited her to go to Asia. Yes, like taking sand to the beach I know. But I could not get over her body, and I was totally intrigued by her mindset. She seemed nice and innocent, but very secretive about everything. I had been sending $100 every now and again to support her. Just like in Asia, when she needed something, I would send her money. The funny thing is, when I sent her money, I would not hear from her for a few days. First red flag.

Then when we talked, it was always one-sided, and she would reply when she felt like it or if she needed something. Then she would talk a lot. I am married, and she knew about my wife, so I was her sugar daddy. It seems every guy in Ghana has a side chick, and I have never seen women anywhere else in the world who are so totally focused on money. If you have money, you can get any of them.

I ignored the red flags and applied for visas for both Thailand and Vietnam for her, but could not get them. These aging countries are quite smart when it comes to immigration and do not seem to want Africans in the country. No visa is required for the Philippines.

So after wasting considerable time and money on visa applications, the Philippines was the last resort as it has visa on arrival. I flew to Manila and was to meet her there. However, she was refused boarding at Accra airport as she turned up 45 minutes before the flight. So, I ended up paying an extra $800 for the next flight two days later. She works at the airport and does not realize you need to be there at least two hours before. Crazy how dumb must you be.

Sending Money and More Red Flags With Adma

I also sent her $1,000 so she could show immigration she could support herself while there, and told her that would be her money for services rendered as a holiday girlfriend. I think that is where I messed up paying her before delivering the goods. She arrived 3 days late.

The Nightmare of Traveling Through the Philippines Together

The plan had been to stay in Manila for 3 days and go to the islands. However, a couple of typhoons struck, so we were stuck in Manila for 8 days. Manila is fine, but I hate big cities. All she wanted to do was go to malls. I also hate malls and shopping, so yes, it sucked. We argued a lot, but the aerobics was great, so I did not care. She spent most of her time on her mobile phone probably chatting with boyfriends or whatever. She loved doing the TikTok thing on her phone, then putting it through filters to make herself beautiful and I assume posting on Snapchat or whatever. I did not mind. It was me she was sleeping with, so whatever. I even filmed a few for her, but I was getting fed up as I had no one to communicate with. She had nothing to say and had no interest in the culture. All she did was look at her phone. What a waste of time asking her.

After 8 days, we were going to the islands. I offered to buy her another flight home as this was not working out and she did not seem happy. But she said she wanted to stay. That was a big mistake on my part, as the arguments were getting worse and all I was getting was the silent treatment which was driving me nuts. A man can only deal with that so long, but she was now my responsibility. We stayed in really beautiful, expensive accommodations and had the best food and basically anything she wanted apart from going to the mall. And this really made her get annoyed, as all she wanted to do was shop. I told her I never came on vacation for that purpose.

Next, she tells me she does not want to go out in the sun because it makes her more black. I am like really a black person that does not want to be black? Unbelievable. She would chat all night on the phone because of the time difference and sleep most days until 1:00 p.m., but never sit and chat with me. What a horrible experience. I was feeling like a total sucker which I was and regretting every minute of the holiday.

Despite all the problems, the aerobics were still great during the night and mornings. Anyhow, we spent a month together. She went back to Africa and I went to Canada. I fully enjoyed the Philippines, but will never take sand to the beach again and definitely not her. When we departed for separate flights home, she never even said goodbye or thank you. Just continued walking to her gate even though 6 hours earlier we had fantastic aerobics prior to catching the flight from Manila.

This woman was a total narcissist and pretty dumb would be my guess. Zero conscience for a person claiming to be religious. She screwed my head up completely, and I wish I’d never ever met her. I honestly believe she is a very evil person. The aerobics were good, but everything else sucked with her. I have a feeling she had a steady boyfriend maybe a month before going on vacation.

Why I Could Not Get Over the Relationship

Anyhow, that is the story. 4 months later, I’m still trying to get over her. Definitely some black magic going on. She has absolutely nothing to offer but aerobics, but somehow she managed to totally make me obsessed with her. And I have been around the world several times and had way better aerobics and communication than her. But she had put a spell on me. I swear she did. Nothing else makes sense. I swear she is pure evil and plays exactly the same game as a Thai bar girl the long game.

So why has this woman got into my head? I cannot figure it out. I’m still not over her. She used me, but I used her, so I cannot complain. I’ve been with many women all over the world, from Iceland to Australia, but this total pain in the neck woman got me hooked. I never knew what a narcissist was until I met her. Now I know very well. Pray you never meet a woman like this, as it is not worth your sanity.

Also, the generational issues due to the age gap. I just turned 63, and she was 35 when I met her. She seemed nice and very mature and said all the right things, but I came to find out that she has the mindset of a 20-year-old. All she wants to do is take selfies and social media videos for her adoring fans. 35 is too old for that, I would say. Then she claims it is for her own record and use. I believe she thought I was a total idiot. But once I saw through all the fake stuff and she knew I had her number, she changed and the true version of this woman showed its ugly face.

This woman has more red flags than a Chinese government parade. Yet, I’m still missing her and intrigued by the way she acts. It was amazing to watch. She has totally blocked me, but I still cannot get over her. Any advice on how to move on would be appreciated. A narcissist will absolutely ruin your life and mess your head up totally. Run away as soon as you recognize it. Horrible experience.