Nightmare Marriage With An Indonesian Girl

She said that she is very broken-hearted after her ex Italian boyfriend played with her feelings.

He swore to her that he will take her to Italy and they will get married there.

In her story, this Italian was her first boyfriend and biggest love of her life.

They were together for a long time, over a year, but he had to go back to his country.

He Stops Contacting Her

After a few weeks of online contact he stopped contacting her altogether.

I was eager to take her because I felt like I would like to heal her broken heart.

I Fly to Indonesia to Meet Her

I would not like to lose time, so I immediately booked a ticket to Indonesia to take the relationship to another level.

As a first-timer in Asia, I did not have any expectations.

Though, she had few requests also before I came to her.

She asked me to buy 3 Babyliss hair curlers for her and her 2 friends as you cannot buy this in Asia at the time.

It was not a big deal and I would like to make her happy.

I Visit Her Mother in Sumatra

I stayed in a hotel because she was just living in a dormitory with other girls and they weren’t allowed to take anyone back there.

She showed me around Jakarta, we went to some nice restaurants, amusement park. She moved to my hotel pretty much straight away, because we liked to spend time together.

On other days, we flew to Sumatra where her mother was living, whom she hadn’t seen for the last few years

Even though this was just a 30-minute flight, it felt strange but I believe at that time she couldn’t afford it.

I Meet Her Family in Bandar Lampung

We stayed at her mother’s house in a small village in Bandar Lampung, surrounded by her family.

It was all nice.

I was happy.

She Asks Me for a Diamond Ring

Then one day she told me that I should buy her a diamond ring to show her that I was serious.

The Diamond Ring Costs More Than Expected

I thought that it should not be expensive because in Europe you can buy a ring for 2K euros, so I would expect something cheaper knowing I will buy a ring in Asia.

We went to a fancy jewellery shop in a mall, and to my surprise, a ring that looked like a 3K euro ring actually cost 25K euros.

I refused to buy because, first, I would never buy such an expensive gift, and second, I did not have that money.

She looked unhappy and disappointed when I told her that I could not buy it, even told me that I am not serious to her because I do not like to buy her that ring.

But I thought I would be able to talk her through it, but a few days had passed and she did not forget about it.

She told me that as tradition in her country, especially since she was half Chinese, I had to buy her jewellery like a dowry.

I Bring Her to Poland and We Marry

We finally settled on buying a golden necklace which she never liked to wear and later gave it to her mother.

Fast forward, I brought her to Poland and we got married.

It was all good and I thought I found someone whom I could stay with for the rest of my life.

Our New Marriage Begins to Fail

My mother and daughter were living with me so I thought she would be fine living with me and they would get along.

But it came a time that there were so many issues between the women.

It was a stressful time for me, trying my best to grant everyone’s wishes so they can live happily under one roof.

It didn’t work, and it seemed she had enough of the situation and headed back to Indonesia, while I was out of the house and did not even know she was leaving.

She had made friends with my neighbour and told horrible stories to them so they gave her money to buy a ticket back to Indonesia without giving me any warning.

I was scared that something had happened to her because she just left the house and turned her phone off, I knew she didn’t have money and it did not even cross my mind that she would head back to Indonesia without talking to me first.

I Ask My Wife to Come Back

My mother called me just after she had left from our house and all of us were wondering what was wrong.

After a few days she finally messaged me and said that she is in Indonesia and that it’s all my fault that she left, but said I still had a chance to fix it, just need to prove that I understand how she felt and we moved out of Poland so I will not have contact with my mother.

I flew to Indonesia, yet again, and asked her to come back with me.

She agreed to try again and this was the start of the horror story.

I Move to Germany With My Wife

She convinced me to move to Germany for a better life, and at that time, I thought it was a good idea as I knew another person there who offered me a job.

So I moved there with her things were going great, considering we had a rocky start, but It was all good, and she got pregnant with our son.

My daughter visited us and I asked if she would like to live with us, my daughter agreed but my Indonesian wife did everything to make my daughter’s life miserable.

My Wife Calls Police Over a Noodle

One time they fought over a pot noodle, which my wife bought from the market, but my daughter ate because she was hungry.

It seems like a small thing, but for my wife, she did not give in.

She just could not let go of that noodle, I even told her that I would buy her more of the same the next morning because the grocery store was already closed.

She wasn’t having any of this, and it came to the point when she even called the police for this.

My Daughter Leaves for Poland

My daughter gave up and went back to Poland to live with my mother, and to be honest, I cannot blame her for this decision.

From then on, my daughter became bitter with me and understandably, would distance herself from me.

My wife started using her pregnancy to take advantage of me and get everything she wanted.

My Wife Brings Her Mother to Germany

After she gave birth, she asked me to bring her mother to Germany.

I agreed as I knew it would help us to get by, helping out with the new baby.

But it was like she just gave her mother the role that she was meant to take, once her mother was around, my wife had more time on her phone and to roam around.

Many times, I did not see her when I came back from work and she would leave our son with her mother.

Her Mother Starts Acting Strange

It became chaotic also between them, always fighting over something, no matter how big or small the issue was.

We had a small apartment, so it was just a few steps to the other side. We were never far from each other. Then her mother started to act very weird.

The Mother of My Wife Tries to Kiss Me

One time, when I went to the kitchen to grab a drink, she approached me and started touching me and trying to kiss me on the lips, knowing that three meters from the kitchen her daughter is breast feeding our son.

Luckily, it wasn’t so easy for her.

because of the big height difference she couldn’t actually reach my lips.

I was shocked and didn’t know what to do, if I pushed her, she might say that I beat her.

Or shouted, but then she would deny everything.

She Sends Me a Message of Love

I just stepped back refused and immediately walked back to our room.

A short time after, my wife went to the toilet then her mother came beside me, but that time she wasn’t trying anything, she just showed me her phone, she doesn’t speak English, so for communication with me she used Google Translate.

On the screen was an already written translation which said:

“Don’t tell anything to Juliana but I love you so much”

This shocked me even more, I couldn’t actually believe that this is happening.

Honestly I didn’t know what to do at the time, I went to work and thought about it while I was out of that situation, clearing my mind.

I Tell My Wife About Her Mother

I decided to tell the story of what happened to my wife once I got home from work at night, because I didn’t see any other way.

I was hoping that it will help and they could discuss this weird situation, but my wife’s reaction was totally opposite of what I expected, Juliana said that I am crazy and how I can say that B.S about her beloved mother.

Anyway, the next day Juliana asked me to bring something from the basement, I was already late for work, so I said that they could manage because I had to go.

She started to be angry that I wouldn’t just grab something that would take just a minute.

So I agreed to run and take it.

Just after few steps on the stairs I could hear her mother running behind, which made me wonder why I must fetch it, if she can do it.

Her Mother Kisses Me Again

When I was opening doors she started to touch me again and literally jumped on me with her kisses.

I got angry, confused and again, didn’t know how to deal with it!

I got the blanket that they asked me to get, ran back upstairs and threw it in anger saying “Why did I have to fetch it when your mother could have easily gotten it”.

Just after that I ran downstairs because my work colleagues were already waiting for me in the car.

On the way to work I started to talk about it with the guys and they cannot believe what I am saying.

My Wife Denies What Happened

The more I tell them about my situation, the more crazy I look to them.

After I got back home from work, I knew there was no way to solve this if I did not make it all clear.

I told my wife what is happening again and mention that the evidence of it was on her mother’s phone on Google Translate history.

I told her that she had to believe me and solve it with her mother because this situation is something I don’t like to experience, I was even scared to go to the kitchen because I did not know what to expect.

The next day when I got back from work, I was sure they had already discussed it, but again I was wrong.

Juliana was yelling at me that I lied and there is no evidence on her mother’s WhatsApp history, even though I did not mention WhatsApp.

I Show My Wife the Translation History

This was already getting too much, I grabbed her mother’s phone and asked her to unlock the screen, in front of them I opened Google Translate History and showed all what was there.

This changed the situation right away, and they started to talk to each other.

I left because I understood nothing because they were not speaking English, and I wanted them to have privacy.

When I got back after an hour or two they were crying together on the sofa.

But the next morning everything was back to normal, well, it seemed normal to me at the time.

Her mother became too normal, I could sense something was going on or was about to happen.

I Become Suspicious of Her Mother

So I was very cautious and observing their every move.

One time I came to the kitchen and her mother was using the bowl that we used to cook as a toilet, just lying it on the kitchen floor.

I called Juliana immediately and asked what this was again!

Her Mother Uses a Bowl in the Kitchen

So they talk again calmly but again I understand nothing from this, after few minutes Juliana tells me that her mother is very sorry but she can’t hold her pee too long, so she has no choice and she did it in the bowl instead of on the kitchen floor.

Sounds reasonable I guess, because her mum was old but not too old.

Seemed very weird for me, so I continued to be even more cautious.

Next morning I get up to go to work, my breakfast is always prepared and normally I would just grab it all and stick it in my backpack, but not that day.

I Smell Something Strange in My Tea

Too many weird things just happened over the last few days, so I opened my mug to sniff my hot tea, I immediately realized that there is something but can’t understand what it smells like.

After a few attempts to recognise what is it, pee!

That was too much, I called Juliana to drink it, surely she would refuse it without even trying to smell.

So I asked kitchen chef who prepared this fragrance for my breakfast.

Repeating SORRY a hundred times and Juliana translated to me that her mother went to the toilet and forgot to wash her hands properly.

I Send Her Mother Back to Indonesia

But it was just nonsense because the smell was so strong, it meant that she had done it intentionally.

After that, I said that enough was enough and when I got back home from work her mother couldn’t be there and have access to our kitchen.

Turns out that she actually listened to me, because once I got back from work, her mother was not there anymore and was just living in another apartment upstairs.

But this situation didn’t last long, her mother started coming to us and starting fights saying that she had to live with us in the same apartment.

To cut this part of the story short, my wife sent her mother back to Indonesia as we just couldn’t live with her anymore.

My Wife Makes Our Home Impossible

Now to the next part of the story, a few years passed and she started to show her more evil side.

She could always find things to blame me for, I did not have any peace.

One day, I came back from work really tired, and just wanted to rest and sleep, but she had other plans.

My Wife Threatens to Call the Police

She opened all the windows and the balcony door so it became freezing inside and impossible for me to sleep.

She would always do crazy stuff and play mind games just to get my attention.

Another time she threatened me that she will call the police and report me that I was trying to kill her.

It became so bad, that I was clueless what she will do next.

My Wife Attacks Me With Scissors

Then another time out of the blue, she took some scissors and started attacking me with them.

The Police Keep Visiting Our Home

I was stronger than her so I was able to prevent it, but in the process, both of us got some wounds from the altercation, especially her hands and fingers when I would be trying to pull the scissors out of her hands.

She was happy to get those wounds because she would have some evidence if she calls the police.

And she did end up calling the police but I threw the scissors outside through the window, so the police did not find them inside the house.

The complaint was eventually ignored by police.

From then on, we had police visits almost every day because of her.

I Suspect My Wife Is Seeing Another Man

She was becoming more unhappy everyday, as was I.

I also sensed that she was constantly looking for a new boyfriend as she is always on her phone.

One time, she said she wanted to stay with a friend but when asked which friend and where, she would not tell me.

I already had a feeling that she would like to meet another guy.

The worst part is that she wanted to take our son.

My Wife Calls the Police Again

I tried my best to stop her from going which led to her calling the police again.

Police came and they said I could not prevent her from doing what she likes.

I strongly believed that she would meet a new guy because I am sure she doesn’t have any friends in Germany or in Europe.

Since police said I cannot do anything, I just thought to make her life difficult by not letting her bring the baby stroller.

My Wife Leaves Without the Baby Stroller

Of course, she did not agree, but I told police that I bought this for the baby.

She really wanted to go and seemed desperate, so she finally went out without the baby stroller.

I was curious why she tried her best to bring the baby stroller, then I found out that there were birth control pills under the covers, and not just one but 3 packs.

From that night, I did not hear from her for 3 weeks.

She came back and as if nothing had happened.

I Still Hope My Wife Will Change

She always had ways to bring me back to her.

I know that she cheated on me, but for some reason I still had hopes that she would change and things would get better.

Two months went by and she told me she was pregnant.

I already had doubts that maybe this is not mine, but what can I do? I am blinded by love and the idea of having a family.

I Bring Her Mother to Germany Again

I had already lost contact with my family when I chose her, so she is the only family I have.

As there would be two kids now, she demanded to bring her mother again to Germany to help out.

I was reluctant, but eventually agreed. It took a lot of money and time to bring her again.

I obviously did not really want her mother to come again, But I wanted to avoid conflict to have a peaceful life.

So, her mother came for the second time.

Remember, her mother doesn’t speak English at all except for the word SORRY.

I Become Concerned About My Son

If she was not around, her mother used Google Translator to communicate with me.

Since her mother was with us, my son was sleeping with her, and the newly born daughter stayed with us.

I noticed that my son started acting scared and strange whenever he was around my wife’s mother.

I started to think her mother might be doing something to my son.

Living with my wife and her mother was becoming more and more difficult.

My wife would not prepare food for anyone but herself.

My Wife Damages My Things

She ruined my stuff when I was at work claiming it was an accident.

She even cut my clothes up and destroyed my appliances.

She was also selling some of my expensive tools online without telling me, when I caught her doing that, I confronted her and she blamed me for not bringing enough money to the family.

She would go to charity offices and tell stories that fooled the lady there.

I Move Out for the Children

She would tell her that I was not giving her food and locking the fridge, so the lady gave her 100 euros.

She kept threatening to divorce me but never went through with it, but I finally came to my senses and moved out to another apartment.

I tried to keep contact with her because of the kids, I still wanted to be a part of their lives.

My Wife Uses the Children Against Me

But she used them as a weapon to manipulate me.

She used them so that I would buy her some stuff like cellphone and TV.

She started to reveal her true self too and tried making me jealous by telling me stories that she is interested in working as a freelancer and how she gave her number to a man she just met on a bus.

She would also tell me how she met different guys while I was out working.

She made me believe that she was fooled by an Italian guy who just used her, but seems like it’s normal for her to meet foreign guys in the airport.

I also found out later that the curlers that I bought her the first time I met her in Indonesia were sold to her friends and she just kept the money for herself.

I Find Lies in Her Phone

After hearing all this, I started searching her laptop and phones, I found many explicit photos from different hotel rooms with multiple foreign guys.

I even found a video of her with some pilot.

It slowly came clear that her story with her first boyfriend, the Italian guy, was a lie like everything else, this guy had just met her online while he was planning to go back to Italy from Bali where he was on vacation, and they met in Jakarta during his couple of days stay there!

Anyway skipping ahead.

My Wife Finds a Pensioner for Her Mother

Her mother’s visa was ending and she was thinking of ways on how she can keep her mother in Germany, knowing that I will not be a sponsor either of them anymore.

She came up with the idea that her mother should look for a boyfriend so he could sponsor her.

Her mother agreed to it but it was my wife who created a profile on the dating app.

She was the one who was choosing the guys and messaging them.

She finally found a pensioner that she thought was a perfect fit for her plan.

My Wife Attacks Her Mother

After talking with the guy and explaining that she does not know English or German, he agreed to meeting her with my wife present so she could translate.

From what I was told from my wife, it seemed like it was going to be a happy ending for her mother as she was getting along with the new guy.

But I was totally wrong.

She called me because she wanted to kick out her mother from her apartment.

I immediately went over because I was worried about the kids.

I Send Her Mother Home Again

When I arrived, she was physically hitting her mother so I picked up the crying kids and tried to calm it down.

She was so jealous of her mother receiving 200 euros from new boyfriend and a jacket.

She called the police and reported her mother for stealing 200 euros from her, because her mother refused to give my wife the 200 euros.

I had to intervene because my name is on the documents that brought her mother to Germany and I did not want even more problems.

I settled this with police and arranged a hotel for her mother and sent her back to Indonesia as soon as I could.

My Wife Tries to Lure Me Back

After her mother left, I saw Juliana just a few times when she was going out with her mother’s now ex-boyfriend, and the kids.

It looked like she got rid of her mother so she could have this 76-year-old pensioner for herself.

As for me, I carried on with my life and went back into the dating scene, starting with online dating.

However, my wife had different plans.

The Police Refuse to Intervene

Instead of letting me move on, she would try to lure me back and told me that she still loves me and she would like to fix our family.

This was all happening while she was still active on dating apps, sleeping with different guys, and had a pensioner on the go.

I began to get worried for my children because of the amount of guys my wife would be dating, so I reported her to police.

But again, they refused to intervene because she is an adult and has her rights to do whatever she liked.

I Finally File for Divorce

When I found someone serious, the moment that she learned about the new girl, she contacted her, her family and her friends trying to destroy my reputation.

I took a big step by finally filing for divorce, I know it was a long time overdue, but better late than never right?

I was worried that this divorce process would be long because there are two young children involved.

However I got lucky because she was lying consistently and the judge made a decision in one day.

She was asked why she did not want to divorce.

She replied many reasons until she mentioned that she wanted to stay married to me so she could stay in Europe.

The Judge Grants the Divorce

Then the judge instantly decided to grant the divorce.

She is still in Germany today, abusing social benefits and probably scamming a lot of unsuspecting guys.

She has the right to stay there until our kids become adults.

She does not allow me to have any contact with my kids because she says they are scared of me, which is total BS.

My Ex Wife Keeps Me From My Children

I even have documents from the courts that allow me to visit the kids every day, however she never opens the door for me when I try to visit.

All my social media and phone numbers are blocked by her, so it’s really difficult when trying to contact my kids.

So, wrapping up, Finally she got what her dream was, to stay in Europe, where she has unlimited access to foreign guys, no need to work because of the government giving her support.

She Uses Me to Move to Europe

She got rid of me because I was only needed to get her to Germany and now she has total freedom.

Here in Germany she has protection by the law, even though I am worried about my kids, police told me, she has her rights and needs.

It was very challenging five years for me and it is still an ongoing battle with her.

But I hope some people can learn something from my story.

I Hope Others Learn From My Story

Some people can get lucky by meeting their dream girl online.

But some, just like me, could meet the nightmare of their lives online.

So be careful and stay alert.