Online Dating With A Thai Girl Gone WRONG

I live and work in Malaysia, but every chance I get, I will take a trip to Bangkok as I fell in love with the place since my first trip a few years back.

On my last trip to Thailand, I really did not want to go back to Malaysia. I’m a single guy and I just found Thai women so attractive, more attractive than other countries.

There isn’t many, if any, Thai girls working in Malaysia, so I decided that I am going to try out online dating.

I had heard some success stories about guys meeting Thais online, but I also know that with some good stories come some bad stories, so I was always going to keep my guard up.

Searching For A Thai Girl To Date

I tried out Thai Friendly, created a profile, set everything up and was ready to start swiping. The first thing I noticed was the amount of forward girls on there. I was flooded with messages: “Want to meet tonight?” It was insane, but I guess it’s a quick and easy way for them to get customers.

After going through a lot of the matches and weeding through them, clearing out the scammers, I came across 3 girls that I was interested in, but 2 of them spoke little English, which is not exactly ideal for online dating.

The one that did speak great English was Ploy, and she was perfect in terms of looks by far my favourite girl I came across on the app. I was just hoping she wasn’t on the game or a scammer looking for money.

We began talking a lot. In the early days, it was just a few messages because she was working a job where her shifts would change, so I wouldn’t know exactly when to expect a reply.

It left me constantly checking my phone to see if she had replied. It got me excited like I was a teenager falling in love, though I do think I did actually fall in love with her just during our conversations.

I found out from our chats that she was well educated, did not work in the nightlife scene, and had her own condo where she lived alone.

She is very beautiful and I felt she was out of my league, but she seemed into me, so I went along with it. It was hard to believe that a girl that looks the way she does is actually single.

I got a bit soppy and found a florist in Bangkok to deliver some flowers to her work. She seemed over the moon with the gesture and very appreciative.

Finally Meeting My Online Girlfriend

About a month after we had been chatting every day and video calling, I thought it would be nice to finally meet, but I wasn’t sure if she thought it was a bit too early. Me, on the other hand, was looking forward to seeing her as soon as I could.

So one day, I suggested the idea of me flying to Bangkok to meet her and asked if she would be happy with seeing me in person. It turns out I was worried for no reason. She seemed really keen on the idea of me flying over.

I was actually surprised with how happy and excited she seemed to be.

She went on to say that she would take some time off work when I arrived so we could spend the days together. I knew she worked long hours and was tired from work, so I suggested that we could go to Pattaya, get a nice hotel, and either chill around the pool or on the beach.

She liked the thought of this idea and said that relaxing just around the hotel would be nice for her.

During the time before I was to go and meet her in Thailand, I was thinking and maybe overthinking, actually does she really like me? Is this a scam? Could this actually lead to something serious?

Bad First Impressions

Unfortunately, our meet didn’t go to plan.

Ploy met me at the airport in Bangkok, where we were going to get a taxi to our hotel in Pattaya. But when we met, it was just “Hi, how was the flight?” There was no hugging, kissing, or any physical contact for that matter. It felt really awkward.

When we got into the taxi to head to Pattaya, the taxi driver spoke more than she did. She was quiet pretty much the whole trip, hardly said two words to me.

At first I was thinking, maybe it’s because she’s tired from her job and just wants to relax, or maybe she thinks I’m ugly in person? Maybe she changed her mind but it was too late to cancel? I don’t know my mind was racing.

I did try to start conversation, but it was like talking to a brick wall. I didn’t get much of a reply, and I felt like she was not interested at all.

Once we got to the hotel which was a nice expensive one, by the way there was still lots of awkward silence. She seemed to care more about being on her phone than actually engaging in conversation with me.

Luckily, I had been nice and booked a room with two double beds, but at the time in my head I was hoping that we would only be using one of the beds.

Once we got settled in to the hotel, I tried to keep the conversation going by asking her questions like how her day was, how’s her family, etc. I knew I had limited time with her, so wanted to make the most of it.

I told her I was going to get a shower and she could rest. Once I came out of the shower, she was asleep in one of the beds. I got dressed and got onto the other bed, playing with my phone until she woke up.

Maybe I was right maybe she was just tired.

Could This First Date Get Any Worse?

About an hour later, she woke up and without saying a single word to me, she went to shower.

So far, this has gone nothing like I had imagined. Luckily, I was thinking: if this gets any worse or she wants to leave me, at least I’m in Pattaya and it won’t be hard for me to find some different company.

I asked her if she would like to go out for some dinner, which we did. Again, nothing exciting though she seemed to be less shy and slightly more talkative.

After dinner, I asked if she would like to go to a bar and get a drink. Maybe this would loosen her up.

It didn’t. She was glued to her phone, and I could have quite easily fallen asleep. It was a total nightmare. Nothing like our conversations online. The first day went terribly.

Day 2 With My Online Girlfriend

Day 2. Could this be a better day for us? It for sure can’t get any worse. I hoped she would feel more happy around me today after a good night’s rest.

In the late morning, we went out for breakfast, followed by a drink and massage. Then we headed back to the hotel and relaxed by the pool. Surprisingly, we were talking more now, and she explained that she was just being cranky from work and was a bit shy when she first met me.

I was happy to learn that she still liked me or so I thought. We went for a walk along the beach road, and we were even holding hands. It was quite the opposite from the first day.

After we had a walk along the beach and got back to the hotel, I realized that I took her signals wrong again. She was back to showing no interest whatsoever. Again, her phone became more important than interacting with me.

Looking back, maybe I was too lonely when I found Ploy on the dating app. Because the way we spoke, I was falling in love with her, and our chats were great online, so I thought she was falling for me too. Maybe that was just stupid thinking on my side.

I felt like a fool trying to beg for her attention. I know I’m not the most handsome guy in the world, but I wouldn’t say I am ugly.

That night, as I lay in one bed and Ploy lay in the other bed playing on her phone, I was thinking: maybe I made the wrong choice and I’m wasting my money here. Why don’t I just leave and have fun in Pattaya? But me being smitten by Ploy, I guess I still thought there might be a chance and she will become interested in me.

Third Day, Will It Get Better?

On the 3rd day, we had another relaxing day around the pool. Later I said, “Do you want to get some beers, watch a movie in the same bed tonight?”

She refused again and showed no interest in being with me. At this point, I was really down and could quite clearly see that she was not interested in being with me. I found myself asking: why am I here?

Even if she did not like me in person, she could have shown a little appreciation that I had flown over to see her, spent all the money on the trip, and paid for everything. Not once did she pay or offer to pay for anything that we did.

This was my first time being with a Thai girl that isn’t a paid companion, and I was thinking: maybe this is just how a normal Thai-foreigner relationship is? I don’t know.

It’s weird how I was feeling. I did feel like I was in love with this girl even though she was cold as ice. I was really hoping that I could be her boyfriend and have a great relationship.

I could quite easily do the long-distance relationship thing flying to Bangkok every chance I get to be with her and I even told her this during our trip. But again, I felt no feelings or interest from her.

Anyway, it was our last day. Again, we did pretty much nothing, and then it was time to head back to Bangkok airport for me to fly back to Malaysia.

At the airport, I decided to tell her how I really felt. I told her that I had deep feelings for her since we started talking online, and that I flew all the way over just for her and she showed me no interest or appreciation at all.

I pretty much cried my heart out to her, hoping she would see how I really felt.

Letting Me Down Easy

She said, “We can see what happens next time you come.” But the way she said it to me, I already knew that there wasn’t going to be a next time. I had a feeling once I got on that plane, I would never hear from her again.

Two days after being back in Malaysia, I hadn’t had any communication with her until I finally gave in and messaged her because I could not get her off my mind.

I simply said, “Hi Ploy, can you be straight with me? Do you like me? Is it worth me even trying, or am I wasting my time?”

She replied with the common line: “Sorry, you are a nice man, but I am just not looking for anything serious right now.”

My Thai Girlfriend Isn’t Interested In Me

Which obviously means she’s just not interested in me. If she really wasn’t looking for anything serious, then she wouldn’t be on a dating site and wouldn’t have carried on talking to me there when she knew I was looking for more than a one-night fling.

I felt hurt, but I guess it’s a learning curve. It’s easy to fall in love when you are lonely, I guess. And if you’re doing the whole online dating thing, then get to know them better first.

Well, if you have made it this far in my story, thank you for listening to my first experience dating a Thai girl and doing the online thing.

Although it couldn’t have gone any worse, I still love Thailand. I still go back every chance I get, and I’m still not giving up looking for now. Though I might start looking in other places.

Thank you for your time reading my story.