Left His Wife for a Thai Girl Half His Age

I was discussing with my new wife where to go on our honeymoon. We had lots of different places on the short list, yet we never could come to a firm conclusion about where we wanted to go. It was honestly her who chose Thailand. She wanted to go to Phuket. She’d had friends go there and say it was a very nice place and a wonderful place. Beautiful beaches, beautiful food, great people, the typical things that people talked about Thailand. She wanted to go. I wanted to go somewhere a bit more off the beaten path, but she won and Phuket is where we would go for our honeymoon.

2012 we were married and about a month after being married, we were heading to Phuket for that great time. We’d rented a luxury villa with a private pool, views of the beach, and it was in a stunning resort, the type of resort that you would never be able to afford if you were going somewhere else. In Thailand, although it was still expensive, it wasn’t as expensive as the same kind of place in Europe would be. I think perhaps that was why it was so exciting to go. When we arrived, it was like paradise. People said Thailand was paradise, and that was true. We had the resort pick us up from the airport in a fancy limo. We got dropped off and they’d really taken care of the room, put a love heart on the bed, which she was happy about.

And there were even petals on the pool outside. Only a small pool, but the view out was quite amazing. You could still see it because there were lights even though it was dark when we arrived. We were going for an extended time as well, 3 weeks for our honeymoon to really bask in each other’s company and enjoy the country. Although most of that time was going to be in Phuket, we were going to have a few days in Bangkok too before returning home because that’s where the flight landed. I was quite tired when we arrived, as was she. But we managed to go to one of the resort’s many restaurants, had a great meal, and then went to bed. About 3 days after we’d arrived, we were both settled in and feeling like we were fully in relaxation mode, both in love and happy.

We’d married quite late. I was 43, she was 41. The first marriage for both of us, no kids between us. It was just like you’d managed to get one of the life things that you needed to get out of the way out of the way. And that made us both feel happy. It was on the third night when we decided to venture out of the resort and go for a walk around the tourist areas around Patong, which wasn’t too far from the resort, somewhere we hadn’t been yet. For the first few days, we just stayed around the resort because they had absolutely everything you wanted and it was the height of luxury. We were in the early evening, maybe mid-afternoon to early in the evening when we set off.

The resort had arranged transportation to take us there, all included in the price. It was a very special place. We were dropped off right in the heart of Patong, and it was a sort of place where you had to pinch yourself and look around. It was nothing like the resort we were in. The resort was the height of luxury and the actual place that we’ve been dropped off at really wasn’t like that. Things seemed to be more back to normal, but it had an exciting feel to it. I’m not going to push back and say it didn’t. It felt amazing and it felt fuzzy.

It felt like anything was possible, like you could look around and you could just do anything and live anything and your dreams could come true. We had a great time, walked around. That became one of the things that we did for the days as they’re going by, enjoying ourselves and having a great time. We went to lots of different places, Phuket, Oldtown, and all the other places you’re meant to go. And we developed an affinity for the island, promising we’d go back again sometime.

Bangla Road in Phuket

We had not hit any of the world famous nightlife areas, but we happened across one maybe on day 10 of our time there, Bangla Road in Phuket. You could tell by looking down that street that it was a sort of place where guys would go. Not really many women walking around, at least foreign women. There was something about that place that made me think, I want to go and have a look. And as soon as I turned to my wife and her nose curled up, saying no thank you. It was one of those, let’s move on. But I had that inside me for the rest of the time we were in Phuket. I really wanted to go and look at what those places were like.

Just to say I’d been just so I could have a story to tell the guys at work about what those places in Thailand were like. Everyone talks about them, don’t they? The ping pong shows and everything that goes along with it. Didn’t know if they had those there. But she didn’t want to go and that was how it had to be. We left Phuket after having an incredible honeymoon. If anything, a bit more in love with each other than when we arrived. How stupid that sounds, it’s true.

We had three days in Bangkok. And unfortunately, when we arrived in Bangkok, my wife had got a bit sick from some seafood we’d eaten the night before. I hadn’t, even though we ate the same things. She just wanted peace and quiet and told me to go out by myself and to have a look around because we were there and we might as well. Perhaps that was a mistake if you look at it in one respect, because I did go out.

Nana Plaza in Bangkok

Our hotel was around the Nana area. It just seemed to be the place where most people were booking hotels at the time. We booked it through an agency and they recommended it. I walked out and I just felt the urge to go and have a few drinks and really wished my wife was okay and by my side. But I remembered back to those thoughts I had in Phuket, how I wished I could go and check out Bangla Road. She had no intention of doing that. But it was because of that when I’m just walking around and I found myself staring in the face at Sukhumvit Soi 4 and Nana Plaza just a little bit down there. I thought I’m going to go in just to say I’ve been so I had a story to tell.

You could say that was a mistake too because it was like an out-of-body experience. It was like a switch had been clicked in my brain and it was like a coming together of amazing things that I didn’t know possible. I didn’t know existed. I walked into that first bar on the first floor, looking up at the different floors above and seeing all the girls milling around and it felt exciting. I walked into the first place again wishing my wife was with me so it would be a bit more fun and we could have a laugh together. She would have turned her nose up and not enjoyed it, but it would have been something to have a memory about. I was there by myself and I walked in and all of a sudden I’m just hit with this sense of completely losing myself. I can remember that feeling today.

It was like I could completely let go of everything else, all the surroundings and everything and just be in awe. It really was like that. I’m not trying to exaggerate or say for anything more than it actually is because it would be pointless. It was like I was in this place where I was having an out-of-body experience and I didn’t know about anything else. Before I knew it, I’ve had four or five different drinks and eventually I’d agreed for a girl to come and sit next to me. although I didn’t agree to that to start with. She was sitting next to me and it wasn’t anything like my wife. I suppose my wife was.

Although we’d had a good time together and I loved her, don’t get me wrong about that. I was finding out about the ways things were done and how things could be. My wife had never, from when we’d met up until then, ever been as exciting as this girl who was sitting next to me. My wife had never been provocative. She’d never used what she had to make me happy. It was as if we were just two people living together. When it came time to doing anything, it was robotic. I didn’t notice that at the time because I’d never seen anything better than that.

I’d never experienced anything better than that. This girl that was sitting next to me, rubbing as close up to me as she can, putting her hand in places where my wife would never have done, not when we were out together, but even at home, sitting on the sofa. We’d been married not very long. We’d been together for 2 years before that. Perhaps we rushed into the marriage and was starting to think that because all of a sudden I’m not getting or I’m not believing that I’m getting anything like what you could be getting in Thailand from a girl in Thailand. Okay, this is a bar. This is a place where girls work. But even still, I was just wondering how I’d allowed myself to get into this position.

Again, thinking back to her being in the hotel sick, thinking it wasn’t good. Also thinking, have I made a mistake? I’m not saying that lightly. I’m saying that with the full seriousness of everything I can talk about. Have I just done something stupid? Have I bitten off more than I could chew? Have I done the wrong thing? Have I made the biggest mistake of my life?

The Second Floor Bar

Although I found myself leaving that bar and I did go up to the second floor. I was just feeling this sense of excitement like I’d never felt in my life before with any of the women I’d ever spent time with. The relationships I’d had before were always robotic and never exciting. Never. What could she do to excite? It was never about that. Perhaps because we came from the same place, we did similar things, went to similar schools. In Thailand, it just seemed to be the girls were there to excite.

That excitement was so compelling. It was so real and it was necessary. Up on the second floor, that bar was even more wild. Another girl sits next to me, but when she comes and sits next to me, she sits right on top of me, and she’s moving around and smiling and asking for a drink. I could understand what was going on. But that had never happened to me before. Whether it was a conscious decision, I don’t think it was. It wasn’t a conscious decision.

It was just a decision that happened automatically without me thinking about it. I’m leaving the bar with that girl thinking, “What’s 1 hour? “ It was the most exciting time I’d have in my life. And I didn’t feel guilty. I’m not saying that I did because I did not feel guilty at all. There was no guilt inside me whatsoever. I was guilty that I’d given away my life for something that wasn’t true to what I wanted. It’s crazy how much your world can change in such a short amount of time.

It really is. But that was what happened to me. I’d found something that made me feel like I’d done was so stupid and nonsensical that I needed at least to understand something better. I needed an escape from what was boring. And that was the moment in time when I’d been married for less than 2 months. and I’d just come to the conclusion that that was the biggest mistake of my life because I’d never had what you could have in a place like Thailand. I left quickly though, went back and she wasn’t very well. Went to sleep.

She’s not well the next day, but we’re okay to go out together. But even still, I was just remembering how great it was just the night before, but trying to forget it. I took it as a once-in-a-lifetime thing. It’s never going to happen again. Whatever it is, accept that you’re not meant to be happy. And I was already thinking that this is awful. Thinking about the times I’d spent with my wife and it’s nothing like it was meant to be. There’s no excitement there.

There’s no her going all out. Just equality. Equality is meant to be okay in certain things, but not this. That’s how I got hooked on Thailand on my honeymoon. And I know it’s crazy, but I was hooked.

Getting Hooked on Thailand

When we got back home, I’m back at work telling stories. I never told that story because things can spread and I didn’t want that to be found out by her. But people were saying they’re looking forward to going, too. Everyone wanted to go, but I was just feeling hollow. Now, I’m not saying that I fell out with my wife or we weren’t talking with each other or even happy. We were, for the most part. I just felt like anytime it came to being with my wife, it wasn’t the sort of situation you’d want it to be. Let’s just leave it at that.

One thing I did, though, was make it clear to her how much I love Thailand. Would you be interested in moving to Thailand? I kept saying. She said, “Not at all. I loved it though. and we’ll go on holiday,” she said. But she didn’t want to move there. I kept trying, and this was something I kept doing for about 6 months to find a job in Thailand, knowing it was difficult based on things I’d heard.

Finding a Job in Thailand

But I worked in a very particular field, which did appear to be in demand in Thailand. Lots of demand for people who worked in telecoms and the infrastructure around that, at least on the back end. I was trying my level best to somehow get an interview for a company in Thailand through agents I’d found. And about 6 months or so after I’d got back, I had this interview for a job in Thailand. I hadn’t told my wife about it, but I was just like, “This could be the answer to get there. If I could get this job, it could be well paid and she would go with me. “ You have to understand that there are jobs available for expats in Thailand. You just have to be in a particular profession.

Luckily, I was in one. I had this interview and a week later got an email. It offered me the job. And that was one of those moments where I’m starting to think, is this a good idea? Even if I went with my wife, it’s not going to end well, is it? Because of what’s going to happen. I also reason with myself. If I’m working in the office, maybe twice a week, I could have time to myself to reset, to get what I felt like I was lacking so desperately from my marriage.

Why I didn’t know I was lacking that to start with, I have no idea. I didn’t know I was lacking anything until I knew what was out there. But would that be bad? Would that be a bad thing to do to my wife? I argued with myself and reasoned with myself. If it could make me a better husband and a better provider, then what’s the problem? We were thinking about having children, too. If that could make me better and nicer and happier around her, then it would be a win-win.

She doesn’t need to know about it. So, I got this job. When I approached her and said, “I’ve got something to tell you. We’ve got to move to Thailand. I’ve got a job. “ And it was paying about the same as I was being paid at that moment. But I understood there was less tax to pay, lower living expenses, and it was an experience of a lifetime. My wife was working too at that moment.

Planning the Move to Thailand

She wasn’t being paid as much as I was. Although between us, I would be working and she wouldn’t. We would take a pay cut overall. I actually told her I’d worked it out. I’d done the calculations and we’d end up being able to put more money away into savings than we would if we stayed there. Plus, we had a mortgage on our house and we could rent that and the house could be paid off by the tenant. The way I was able to sell it to her was, “Let’s do it for a year, and if we don’t like it, we’ll come home. “ And she decided she wanted to go for it.

Now, you might be thinking, “I’m being really awful by doing what I did, and that it’s not nice. “ And I can understand that. But also, you have to understand that it’s not like she’s madly in love with me. I don’t think that at the time. I’m starting to think that I’m just tolerated because she got to 41 and she hadn’t met anybody else. I was just a person that she made do with happy. We went out, did things together, but it wasn’t like it was exciting or invigorating. Not like you got from a girl that might work in a bar.

It wasn’t like that. Although it might come across as me being awful, I didn’t feel that way because it was just doing what I felt like I needed to do in order to get what I wanted, which was happiness. I was putting happiness right at the top of my list of priorities. If you’re not happy, what’s the point? You’re going to get old, you’re going to die, and then it’s all going to have been for nothing anyway. When we got to Thailand, it was a case of they’d arranged a hotel for us to stay for the first week.

Moving to Thailand for Work

They’d arranged for someone to show me around to places we could live reasonably close to the office, and if it was going to be like that, it would work well. Need to get the work permit and set me up. And although the contract was to last for a long time, I agreed with my wife that it would just be one-year thing, but it felt amazing to be there. When we got to Thailand, she was happy, too. She’d liked it before. It wasn’t like she didn’t like it. Went to the hotel. We were met by the person from the company who was helping us.

And over the first few days, we did manage to find somewhere to live. I’d been into the office to have introductions and to get the ball rolling for the work permit. And it was coming together. We found a nice one-bedroom unit in Phrom Phong. It was nice compared to our house, though. It was far smaller. Didn’t have the same kind of facilities we were used to for the kitchen, things like that, but it did have a pool and a gym, which was better than what we had. And it would be a case of going out regularly to eat, buying food and ordering food in and very occasionally being able to cook.

Okay, we could cook occasionally because my wife really did love cooking, but it wasn’t something that we would need to do often. I kept telling her that she’s going to be a lady of leisure now. How exciting is that? She’s going to be able to live in the lap of luxury while not working. I don’t think she was necessarily enthused about the fact that she wasn’t working, but it was just a different life. We both went for it and it was okay. When I finally started working about a week after I’d arrived, it was a weird experience. Going into the office at 8:00 a.

m. I had an hour for lunch and finishing at 6:00. It was long hours, but it was also something I really enjoyed doing. They had a team of other expats working there, too. A very, very big company. It just seemed like I fit in well. It was fun, enjoyable. Now, all the time, I’m thinking, when am I going to have a chance to go out?

I started on a Monday and by Wednesday I’d already spoken to my wife about the guys in the office, how they’re going on Friday. It’s one of those I don’t really have a choice. I’m going to have to go too. She just said, “Don’t worry about it. We can spend our time together on Saturday and Sunday. “ And we were going out ourselves in the evening at that moment, too. Finding out you can go out for a meal is cheaper than cooking. Quite crazy if you think about it.

I was waiting for Friday to come around to see if it would be actually something I would want to go ahead with because I’d been thinking about going to those bars ever since I’d left that first one. Now I had what I felt like was free rein to be able to enjoy myself and take it in and see what it was like. And I did. I went to Soy Cowboy that night and I was just thinking, imagine I could do this once or twice a week, twice if I’m lucky. I just need to be able to come up with an excuse.

Going to Soy Cowboy

The reason, and I really do still think this is true, the reason I was happy to do that was because I argued with myself that this is making me a better husband for my wife because I’m able to work harder. I’m making me a better worker. It’s making me better at everything because I’m getting my release, my happiness twice a week. That’s what I’m thinking. I’ve only just arrived at Soy Cowboy for that first night, and it was wild. I met a girl who just drew herself to me, and it was incredible. You have to okay be okay with this. The thing that I suppose I might have been powerless to stop was I never expected to fall in love with the girl that I might meet.

I never expected that to happen. It was meant to be fun and exciting, but nothing more than that. Under no circumstance would I have allowed myself to have done that if I thought it would have been the case. You need to understand that. Don’t judge me. Don’t say anything to me. I didn’t want to meet a girl and fall in love. No way.

I was with my wife. I just needed this for myself. And I didn’t feel guilty. I still don’t feel guilty. Why should I? My wife wasn’t exciting. Simple as that. I’d been working there for about 3 months, and I hadn’t managed to go out twice every week.

I was probably doing once or twice every two weeks. It was enough to scratch that itch, enough to get that adrenaline rush. And it was an adrenaline rush. Perhaps I’d always been into adrenaline sports. And that’s what it was like. It was a huge adrenaline rush. And so fun. I was feeling happy.

Balancing Work and Bangkok Nightlife

I was feeling like the work was going well. I was sending money back home where we were saving it. We had a joint savings account. money was going in there more than we were able to save when we were both working at home. And that gave us both a feeling that I suppose it was the right thing to do. I could tell my wife was a little bit bored with what was going on. She didn’t have a purpose. Based on the advice of one of the guys I worked with, he said, “Why don’t you tell her to try and find a teaching job?

She can do one of those TEFL certificates and find a job. She might not make a lot, but it would be a purpose. ” And I raised that with her, and that’s what she ended up doing. found a place where she could do this certificate. She did that for a month and got a teaching job earning 40,000 a month. It gave her that purpose and it brought us to the point where we’re both happy and I’ve got my secret life going on too and I was really really loving it. It was a few months after that when this was actually a real thing. We were going on a team building exercise, me and some of the other expats and a few of the Thai guys.

Very strange though when you see tai guys like that.

Team Building in Thailand

These Thai guys were basically western. They spoke perfect English, not Thai English, perfect English, educated in the west. And basically they were western, but they were Thai. We were going for this team building est based on the boss of the division that we worked for, Topatia. We were going to do laser tag. They had that there. Do a bit of go-karting. They had that too.

Spend two nights, three nights maybe, and just have this team building thing. This was a genuine thing, going to Pattaya, and I couldn’t wait to go. My wife was okay with it, too. It was a company thing, so why wouldn’t she be okay? We went to Pattaya round about Christmas time or just before Christmas coming up to the new year and New Year is a big thing in Thailand. Just before Christmas, most of the guys, the expat guys, 60% of them were probably western.

Christmas and New Year in Pattaya

They wanted to celebrate Christmas with the family and that was what I was going to do too. Still hoping to have children at that point, thinking it was the right course of action, but it hadn’t happened yet. When we got to Pattaya, we were all staying in the same hotel paid for by the company. It was a decent place right in the thick of it. I checked in as everyone else did and we were arranging to meet at 6 p. m. that day to go out and have something to eat, talk about things, and take it from there. One thing I was alarmed about was when I was walking around Patio with the guys.

So, I wasn’t really able to do anything about this. I was looking and seeing what appeared to be what was available in Bangkok, the bars. But so many more bars, so many more streets, so many more massage plazas, so many more everything. It just seemed like on every single corner there was this wonderful place where you were able to walk in and meet a girl who was exciting and fun and invigorating. I wasn’t able to show that. Must admit there were other guys doing similar things. They were just no one wanted to admit to it. But I found out the day after I caught a guy actually the following morning in Pattaya.

He got a girl with him. Went for something to eat that night and I’m thinking I need some time to myself. I was going out that night but I didn’t because I was a bit tired. woke up the following morning up and early going down to breakfast and just so happened to walk out of my room at the same time as he walked out of his and he had this tiger with him who was leaving. He looked and said, “Don’t say anything. “ We both had a bit of a laugh and said, “Don’t worry, I won’t. “ It just gave me even more confidence that what I was doing was right. It’s not a bad thing to do to your wife.

It wasn’t like that. It’s actually being okay with what you need to be able to do to be better for your wife. I suppose because he was doing it, that gave me more confidence because probably everybody did because why wouldn’t you? That day was going to be the laser tag day and then it was an open day. Go-karting the next and the team building meal the night after. We went to play laser tag. It was a bit of fun. I mean a lot of fun really.

Meeting a Girl in Pattaya at Christmas

A few of the guys went off together and I was left with another few of the guys, some of the Thai guys and they were going to do something. They asked if I wanted to go too and I said no. I’m going back to the hotel. I wanted some free time. I got some free time and it was probably 2 or 3 p. m. I had the rest of the entire day to myself and evening and that was wonderful until I was down in a bar on soy 6 just a little pieces of heaven they were. I was in this bar on soy 6 and had a girl next to me.

There was something about her that made me feel that this was interesting in a way. I really liked her. I knew that feeling. I knew that feeling so well. And to be honest, I quickly jumped up and left that place quickly, not wanting to actually get anything more than something fun. I felt relieved and relaxed after I’d left that place, knowing I could have got carried away because I really liked her. But perhaps that was the thing. I walked all the way down Beach Road to one of the Soy 13s.

Not sure. Was it 131 or 132? Can’t remember. But I walked in for a beer in one of those places, just relaxed and went to go back and see that girl. I was thinking because she was beautiful, but I didn’t because another girl comes and sit next to me and I’m going with her. Completely forgot about the other one as you do. And it was in a way like I was oblivious to what was going on. I found that about two drinks later, we’re leaving that bar together.

Meeting a Girl in Pattaya

We’re not going straight back to the hotel, we’re going out for food. She had a motorcycle parked up and she took me on that. And after the food, we’d go and have a drink somewhere else because she asked and I was good with that. By the time we’re back at the hotel, I’m really liking her, just not feeling like I’ve fallen in love yet. The following morning, we were due to meet up at about 2 p. m. for the team building go-karting. She was talking to me in ways I’d never heard a girl in Thailand talk about anything before.

She was talking about problems with her family, really big problems with the family, and how she’s impatia and she’s struggling. And at the same time, she’s doing that or after she’s talked about that, she just blows me away completely, completely blown away with the wonderful experience. Then half an hour later after we’ve had some breakfast delivered up to the room so I didn’t get caught. She’s talking about her family again and how it’s difficult. I just felt this thing for her. I just did. I felt something. But I told her I needed to go back to Bangkok where I worked.

She said she understood. She had to go back to work too because she needed to send money for the family. And I really did feel sorry for her. I felt so sorry. But also felt like she was just I don’t know even thinking and I’m shouting out loud as I’m writing this. I don’t know why I felt the way I did, but I did. I just found myself giving her my number, saying, “If you need anything, get in touch. “ I told her I lived in Thailand and I spent a long time there.

I know about the country. Now, I hadn’t been that there that long, but I like to exaggerate. And she said she’d get in touch if she needed to. I thought about her for the rest of the day and the meal and night. Didn’t have a chance to go out that evening. And then I’m back in Bangkok. She was in my mind. I’d left that girl in soy 6 because I really liked her and I found myself accidentally liking this other girl instead and I was thinking about her hoping that she wouldn’t call but hoping she would too.

Keeping in Touch After Meeting in Pattaya

I told her the best thing to do is message because I worked all the time. It was the day before Christmas Eve when I got a message and she said, “Do you remember me? Hope you’re okay. Nice to meet you. “ Just like that. That’s all it said. I didn’t know what to do. So I responded saying, “Nice to meet you, too.

” Don’t know what it was. I just said if you want to come up to Bangkok, I work so much. I have to work at nighttime, too, because of the job I do. It’s very difficult, but if you want up to come up to Bangkok, I’ll put you in a hotel and and I can meet with you when I can. Thinking she was going to say no, but she said yes. This was getting a bit dangerous. Plus, it was coming up to Christmas and she said, “I’ll come tomorrow. “ Which was Christmas.

I told her, “I can’t see you then because it was over the new year. I might not be able to see you because it’s to very busy time just lying through my teeth.

Returning to Pattaya

” She said, “I’ll come and if you send me some money, I’ll pay for the hotel. Which one do you want me to stay in and you can see me when you can? “ I sent her some money, thinking in one way, just steal my money instead. Yet, hoping she doesn’t, but thinking if she did, it will be a lot easier. Sent 15,000 bad, and she said, “I’ll message you when I’m there. “ I told her which hotel, and she messaged me on the 26th. I got here yesterday. I’m in the hotel.

I can’t wait to see you. It was the 26th and I was off work all the way up until the 3rd of January because the company closed that division down over the new year and I’d booked a holiday a long time off. I wanted to go and see her, but I was with my wife and we had plans to go to the beach. Because my work was strenuous and it was obviously strenuous, I had to come up with a solution as to what to do. I told my wife I needed to go into the office and will go away on the 28th for the new year, but I need to go in today and tomorrow. Some things have come up and she didn’t bat an eyelid. I remember leaving and going as quickly as I could to the hotel. She was there and I’m falling in love.

I really am. I knew everything about her. She worked in a bar. Yes, she’d met guys. Yes, she was giving me what my wife couldn’t give me. And she was giving me the level that was so much more exciting and fun. And this is what I wanted. I wanted my life to be like this.

I wanted my wife, too. But I didn’t want to make her upset. I told her I can see her for a few hours and I’ve got to go back to the office and I can see her for a few hours then after. And because it’s New Year, the big problems can happen and I’m coming up with all kinds of ideas. You’re going to have to go back to Pattaya on the 29th and I’ll try and see you after that. And she said, “Fine.

The Thai Girlfriend in Pattaya

” During that time, I’m starting to have really strong feelings for this girl. Like really strong, really strong feelings. And I loved her. She was 21, but she wasn’t like the other girls I’d met who were of similar age. She wasn’t. And I can’t describe why. It’s just the feelings you have. We did go away to the beach together, my wife and I, and we had a good time.

But she’s just I don’t know. I don’t think she loved me. I’m starting to understand. I really don’t think she did. I think I was just, as I said, I was just a compromise based on the fact that she hadn’t met anyone yet. And I was just someone she settled down with. Perhaps she’d been wild through her younger years and didn’t want to do that anymore. But I wanted wild.

I wanted exciting. This other girl was giving me so much more than she was. And it’s not like we’re falling out or arguing. That’s not the case. We had a good time at the beach. And I told her, I just came up with something. I said, I’ve got some very good news. I’ve extended the contract for another 2 years.

I can’t wait. We’re going to be here for two more years. And she breathed like a sigh like I don’t want to. What do you mean? I thought it was only going to be a year. I said, well, you like teaching, don’t you? Then she opened up saying, no, I don’t really like teaching. I’m just doing it for something to do.

I didn’t really want to be here much longer. We’re looking forward to going back home, she said. And I’m loving it, though. That’s the thing. I was telling her I was. And I told her we’re saving more money, too, and everything’s great. Eventually, she came around and said, “Okay, I suppose it’s for the best. “ We didn’t see eye to eye on wanting to be in Thailand for that length of time that I wanted to be there.

Returning to Bangkok After New Year

She wanted to be there less. I wanted to be there all the time, and I wanted to get to know that girl more. Back in Bangkok, back to work after New Year, messaging that girl every day. One thing I said to her is if you’re in the bar, just let me know what you’re doing. I don’t mind, but you’ve got to tell me the truth. I think she doesn’t really meet guys that live in Thailand, though. That’s what she said. She meets them when they’re on holiday and they all promise things and then they leave.

She said the fact I worked in Thailand, she really liked that and she wants to know more about me. I told her because of my work, I’ve got to be careful. It is very strenuous and all the things you have to come up with whenever you can come up with anything as to give an excuse as to why you can’t see her right now. anytime a messages arrive and you respond saying what you need to do to respond and just to keep it going. She didn’t know I had a wife at all. I just wanted to see her again and desperately wanted to see her again. And I had to tell my wife I need to go down to Pattaya for the weekend because of some work thing that needs to happen. She always fell for it because what choice did she have?

She never went to any of the work dues with me. Even though other people’s partners did, she wasn’t interested. And I think when I went, she just was even more disillusioned with Thailand. Maybe that was the case. I went down and I met this girl and I came up with a solution. I said to her, “How would you feel about living in Bangkok?

Moving the Thai Girlfriend to Bangkok

I can’t live with you because of work and I work through the night most nights and I’ve got to be in the office all the time. ” I came up with the biggest set of lies you could ever come up with. But if you want to live there, I’ll happily support you. I had more than enough money to be able to do that, and I could see her when I needed to see her. Would that be something she’d be interested in? You don’t have to work in the bar. She said she’d love to do that and she was very thankful. Again, she’s just making me happy in ways that my wife is simply unable to.

And I took her to Bangkok with me, found a place for her to rent in Phra Khanong, only a few sky train stations away from Phrom Phong where I was living. Only small, but it was set up. It was everything she needed. And I gave her agreed to give her 10,000 a month plus paying for everything. It wasn’t a fortune. For the next 3 months, I was seeing her as much as I could. And I suppose my wife and I are drifting apart now. Now I’m starting to really struggle with this girl because she wants to see me more.

Why can’t you spend more time with me and I really believe that she liked me at this point. I mean loved me and I loved her. I would do. I’m not going to lie. I loved her so much. But she’s saying why don’t you want to spend more time with me? It was always work. One day I was with her and she said, “I think you’re lying about something.

” She didn’t say it in those exact words. Something like you know you li you lie n you lie. Like they always say nah on the end. You lie nah. Now, what am I meant to say? I told her I was working and I’m busy. But she’s saying you never spent time with me. I’ve told you that, you know, you’ve moved in here and this is how it has to be.

I suppose once you’ve spent more time with somebody and once you get to know them more, they’re more able to be more forward and more talking about things that they don’t like and things that they want to change, whatever it is about them that they’re doing. It was like she wanted to talk about things more and she wanted more. Not like she was giving less, she was giving more to. But I don’t know. She was just wonderful every time I saw her. Maybe she was just more emboldened to talk about things that she wanted to try to get more out of this tomb. It was about I would say a couple of days after that I said I’ll come and see you in a few days. I’ve got lots on the plate at the moment.

I’m in the condo with my wife and there’s a knock on the door. How she got through security and I’ve said I’ve given it away here.

My Wife Answers the Door

How she got through security or whatever, I don’t know, but there’s a knock on the door and somehow she’d found out where I lived. Not difficult to find the condo, but how did she know the room? She probably got it through the people in the condo building, whatever reason. And she was knocking on the door. My wife answers it. Who are you? She looked and said, “Oh, sorry. I have the wrong room.

” And then she saw me out of the corner of her eye and she burst in. What you doing? She said. That was when I suppose my world at that moment crashed around me. What do you do? She said. My wife’s looking at her. What are you doing?

That’s my husband. She looks at me. Husband. I stay in that room for you and wait for you all the time. What you do? Like why you do this to me? My wife was absolutely apoplectic. And the other girl calmed down a bit and said, “I sorry I didn’t know he’d have wife.

I he didn’t tell he didn’t tell me. He told me he loved me and he’d take care of me. ” And my wife was furious. Not violent furious, but furious. Before I knew it, she’s starting to pack up her things. My wife saying, “I’m leaving. I’m going to get a divorce and I’m going to take as much as I can. That’s all she’s saying.

” I tried to reason with her. Don’t be silly. It’s not anything serious. It’s fun. It’s just fun. And I kept saying the other girl didn’t really understand because we were speaking, I suppose, quite quickly. So, she didn’t catch up on that, which was, I suppose, quite good. But she’d just come in and parked herself on the couch watching this.

My Wife Leaves After Finding the Thai Girlfriend

My wife’s not even telling her to leave. I’m not telling her to leave. My wife’s just packing everything up. She actually just left. Didn’t take anything. Didn’t take much at all with her. She said, “You’ll hear from my lawyer or whatever. “ Something along those lines.

I’m upset and worried mainly, but as soon as she’d walked out of the door, and this is no hint of a lie, as soon as she walked out of that door, the girl who barged in said, “I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to make a problem. I was just looking for you. I missed you. I love you. “ And I’m not lying here. I just felt this sense of calm come over me. Like, are you telling me that I can have what I want all the time now instead?

That’s what it was like. At that moment, I will admit to feeling a little bit guilty for my wife, but in a way, I didn’t. I felt like she wasn’t able to give me the happiness that I needed or deserved. But all of a sudden now I’ve got this girl with me. Okay, I need to sort this out and that’s the thing. Then I’m worried about money and losing money and everything like that. Let’s have to see where things go. I told her it would be best if she left and I’ll contact her soon.

I need to sort things out. And she said, “Okay, I’ll wait for you for one week. I only wait one week for you,” she said, “and come and see me soon. “ And she left. I tried to find my wife and she was actually sat by the pool crying. That’s when you start to feel more guilty. I mean, I did only because I didn’t want her to be happy. I told her though it was only meant to be fun.

I told her it wasn’t meant to be serious. It wasn’t meant to be anything more than just me letting loose occasionally. I even said, “I love you and I want to stay with you. “ I’m saying that and I’m finding that I’m fighting those words out of my mouth when I’m giving that explanation. I love you and I want to be with you. But when I’m saying that, it’s a lie. As soon as I’m saying that, I’m thinking, “No, I don’t want that. I just don’t want to make her feel bad.

” He said, “Why you do this? What’s the problem? Am I not good enough for you? When she said that, it’s sort of like, what am I meant to say? Well, no, you’re not good enough for me. I can’t say that. I just said, when you meet a girl like that, she just does things you can’t do. And I was trying to be honest.

My Wife Asks for a Divorce

Then she starts screaming and saying, I’ve given my life for you and my career and whatever. And I said, well, we’re saving more money anyway, so you could go back and get another job when we go back and we’d saved more money together anyway. And she’s not really adding that up. She said, “Do you want to stay with me or not? ” She looked at me and said, “I forgive you this one time if you want to stay with me. ” Again, did she love me? No, I don’t think. Was she wanting to forgive me because she actually loved me and wanting to stay with me.

I don’t believe that. I believe she was wanting to forgive me because she was in her 40s and I was a compromise and she didn’t want to be alone. That was why she would have forgiven me. Do you want to be with me or not? I was looking and as much as I wanted to say no, I said I and say I don’t. I didn’t say that. I didn’t want to say that. And I felt myself saying, “Yes, I want to be with you.

” Then she said, “Will you not see anyone else? ” I said to her, “I will never love anyone else. ” Trying to get back in control. I couldn’t lose this opportunity to actually get everything sorted out. I said, “I just like because she does things you can’t do. ” What? She said, “What am I meant to say to that? I can’t say.

It’s obvious, isn’t it? Exciting and fun. You don’t really ever want to be exciting and fun. You’re just robotic. ” I’m old, she said. And I said, “You’re not. Age is not a problem. Age has nothing to do with it.

” Then she said, “Do you want me or not? ” And I said, “Yes, but I can’t compromise on certain things. ” Again, that took me such a lot of effort to say that. Felt like I was being so brave by saying that, and she said, “Okay, I’ll go then. ” I didn’t stop her. It was a very uncomfortable few days after which she was arranging to go home. I think she was wanting me to say, “Let’s try again. ” But I didn’t want to.

She left and all of a sudden I was free. Okay. What happened then was quite an alarming thing. I lost a lot of money, maybe 60% of everything. I suppose she’d worked for some of that money, too.

Divorce and a New Life in Thailand

But I was left with probably after that divorce, which involved me having to go back home, probably £90,000, which wasn’t a fortune. That’s what I got out of it. But as soon as my wife left, I went to the condo where that girl was. And she was there and I said, “I’m here. Do you want to move into the other place with me? ” She was very ecstatic and happy. Thank you. Thank you.

I love you. And all the things that she was saying. I told her, “I’m not staying with my wife anymore. We’re going to get a divorce. ” She was very happy. I was happy, too. It was this feeling that I would never have to be secretive or never have to hold back or I’ll never be able to not get what I want. I made it very clear to this girl and I said to her, “I was with you because my wife couldn’t do what you can do.

If you can do what you can do, that’s important. Never stop. ” She understood and said, “That’s fine. ” Then I was back at work, spent about 2 months together with her, having the absolute time of my life. coming back from work and having the best day of my life, going to work the next day, coming back and having the next best day of my life, and just repetitively going away on the weekend to nice resorts. All of my money was staying in Thailand now. And what I was earning after tax was 280,000 a month, which was a lot of money. It went so far, saving lots and having the best time I’d ever had.

I did have to go back and sort the divorce. That’s when you get attacked by your family for doing things that apparently you shouldn’t have done, and people want to disown you. When I had to see her to get everything arranged, she was just, “I don’t know. I want to try again,” she said. But I didn’t believe her. It wasn’t love. It was just comfort. And I said, “No, I don’t want that.

Life After Divorce in Thailand

” I did feel guilty at that point that I’d hurt her, but not guilty when I was doing what I did because it remained secretive. It would have been fine, but happy in the sense that I was free and I was living the best life. It was exactly what life was meant to be. It really was exactly what life was meant to be. Back in Thailand though, and I’m divorced and now I’m with this girl. Of course, the job I was doing was something that I was really proud to be able to do. It was earning great money. Like I said, after tax, about 280,000 a month.

I had a lot of money in Thailand, especially back then over 10 years ago. One thing that I did feel was like, I don’t have anything back at home. I don’t have any security. I don’t have anything like that. But I did have this amazing girlfriend who was just like everything you’d ever want in your life. But I didn’t have any roots planted. Didn’t have any connections. I was on a business visa and work permit and if I lost that job I’d have to leave the country in 7 days.

I decided I wanted to get married to her. I was clear to her if I get married it has to be the same.

Marriage Children and a House in Thailand

Things have to be as good. I can’t accept less. And she said of course. We got married and I changed over to a marriage extension. She was from a small town called Buram which was a very interesting place. I remember going there for the first time and thinking I’d heard stories of people moving somewhere like this and I couldn’t see the appeal, at least when I got there originally. After we’d spent about a week there, I could see the appeal of a relaxing nature and how you could be at one with nature and how you could see things that are different to Bangkok. I could see it, but I wasn’t there yet.

I was just a lot more keen on Bangkok. Loved Bangkok, the best city in the world. So, we were there living together and married. I changed over to this marriage extension and about 6 months later she’s pregnant which was I suppose you could say a shock but not really is it. She was pregnant and all of a sudden I’m going to be a dad. That was something I was trying with my ex-wife going to be a dad but it didn’t work with her I suppose properly and it was a fun time and fair play to my new wife. She was great throughout the pregnancy. We had a son who was just a person who made me feel things I’d never felt before.

I felt all of a sudden like I had a different purpose in life because he was Thai as well. I came to a decision because I’d saved decent money since getting back to Thailand, plus what I had. Decided it would be best for us to buy a place to live. So, we bought a house. Didn’t really want a condo and the house went into my son’s name. It took a bit of fiddling to get that to be a possibility, but it went into his name. That was good with my wife, too. Good with me.

The only negative was it was about 45 minutes to the office, which was a long way. But I bought a car, too, because of that. And I managed to get that on finance. And the reason I’m saying that is because that was a big mistake, I suppose, at least for a bit of time. Took a while to get it paid off, but I wanted to be like Thai people. If you could afford a German car, you get a German car. So, we got a BMW. My wife loved it.

I loved it. And I used that to get to work. So, we had this house that was about 6 million baht. It was a lot of money. The car was expensive, too, on finance. But life was everything that you would want life to be. I mean, it really was. Occasionally, you think back to your ex-wife and think, “How did that happen?

Children and Family Life in Thailand

” But it did. It just did and you continue on with life. Two years later, she’s pregnant again. We have a daughter. I suppose although maybe you’re waiting for the surprise. Maybe you’re waiting for where everything fell apart or everything came crashing down moment in my story. Unfortunately for you, it doesn’t come because as of right now, I’m living in Bangkok. I got a different job a little bit while later and saved and worked and saved and bought a condo.

Bought another one, rented them out, and I’m living with my wife in that same house that we bought. happy, healthy children who go to great schools. And it’s just a great thing. They both speak perfect Thai and perfect English. They have prospects. I’ve got money for them to go to university as and when they want to, and I’m hoping they’ll go to university in the UK. I’ve got the money for that. Life has treated me well, and Thailand is the country that I owe for that.

There were a few ups and downs in order to get to this position in life. I’m not going to lie. It was hit or miss what would happen when my wife found out, my ex-wife, that is. I didn’t really feel guilty doing what I was doing. It made me happy and excited and it gave me the sense of purpose and it made me work harder and it made me work better. I met my new wife. It was a very dodgy situation. It was.

I met her in a bar. I don’t care. She gives me what I need to be able to work at my best and my hardest. I am in a position to be able to retire now. But to be honest, I’m not retiring yet. I started my own business 2 years ago. Just a consultancy thing. It does okay.

And by the way, I’m a resident in Thailand now, so I don’t have to mess around with visas, which is a great thing. I would call myself a Thailand success story. And I’m just thinking about it right now at the start of my story, how I went to Thailand in the first place.

Thailand Success Story

It was because I was discussing a honeymoon destination with my ex-wife, my first wife, who I was a compromise for, who I was probably not the person she’d really wanted, but someone she’d settled down for for a lack of choice. If she hadn’t insisted on going to Phuket, my life wouldn’t be as good as it now. Or perhaps it would. Perhaps something else would have fallen into place. You never know. I would say to anyone, Thailand can work for you. I was in a very specialized position that was in demand in Thailand at the time when telecoms were coming up quite popular at the time with the necessary additions that you need to do when it comes to all the work that happens in Thailand, the infrastructure of the country. Yet, they didn’t have the professionalism at that moment in time to be able to do it locally.

I was able to get in and do it at the right time, right place, right time, a lot of money. I met a girl in a bar who was 21 years old when I was in my 40s who moved to Bangkok secretly who said she loved me and to this day is with me. Does she love me or not? I would say she does. I know there’s going to be some contrarian saying that you’ve got a lot of money so why is she going to leave you? Try losing your money. Yes, that’s just like me saying to you, she could. If she lost who she was as a person and didn’t become my wife anymore, I’d get fed up too, wouldn’t I?

There are things that you have to provide in a relationship. If you’re a man, it’s one thing. If you’re a woman, it’s another. And if you’re a providing that, then what’s the problem? I don’t see a problem with that. Thailand was the best thing to ever happen to me. It was the best thing to ever happen to me. And I have to say that again.

I’ve got a wife who I love dearly, who I’m happy with, and who still makes me happy to this day, exactly like she did when I met her. I have a son and I have a daughter and life is great. Don’t rule out Thailand straight away. Just make sure that when you go to Thailand, you’re in a position to be able to take it and do for it what you want to be able to do with it when you’re there. Don’t put yourself in a position. And I’ve met people along the way in Thailand who want Thailand but who aren’t in a position to live Thailand properly. You need to be able to live Thailand properly with money. If you’ve got a lot of money, Thailand is the best place in the world.

I’m not If you’ve got a lot of money, Thailand is the best place in the world. And I’m not going to let anyone say anything otherwise.