Tick The Freelancer Who Never Asked For Money

I am a 53-year-old man from London. My story begins in February 2016. A couple of friends and I were sitting in a pub in London, and one of the boys mentioned that a friend of ours would be out in Pattaya in April did I fancy it?

Well, my mother had not long passed away, and I had been left a little money, so I thought, “Why not?” and we booked the trip then and there.

Fast forward to April, and a couple of weeks before departure, I was struck with terrible back pain. I could hardly move, but it got a little better before we traveled, so I made it to Thailand.

We arrived early on a Friday morning in late April, and as we got off the aircraft, the heat hit me. It took my breath away. We got a taxi to the hotel in Pattaya, had a shower, and rested for a few hours until our friends picked us up at 1:00 p.m. After that, the weekend was a blur doing the normal things men usually do in Pattaya.

We made a bar in a soi opposite the Avenue Plaza our base. I kept seeing a stunning-looking lady, and we kept exchanging smiles. My friend informed me her name was Tick. She was in her late 30s and said she was a local freelancer, but only went out with older men because she didn’t like aerobics too much.

Over the weekend, Tick and I got talking, and for some reason she started telling me everything about herself. She had two sponsors one who was paying her £1,000 a month plus paying for a car for her sister to ferry her sick mother to hospital appointments in the south of Thailand, and another giving her a lot less maybe £400 a month, but never less than £300. She only goes with older men because younger men like aerobics too much, etc.

A Kidney Infection Ruined My First Trip To Thailand

Fast forward to Monday, and I woke up feeling awful. I went to the toilet and started urinating blood. When we all met up in the bar, I told my friend, who then told the bar owner, who called Tick to take me to the hospital. Tick was happy to oblige; she was my translator as she spoke good English.

The first question they asked was if I had made love with a bar girl. I replied, “No, of course not.” They did not believe me, so they ran some tests. Then they gave me an injection in my backside and a tablet to swallow. To this day, I don’t know what they gave me, probably something to get rid of whatever I had contracted.

To everyone’s amazement, the test came back negative for anything but did show a kidney infection, so antibiotics were given to me. This cost me 4,000 baht. Unfortunately, the antibiotics also gave me an upset stomach, so that was my first trip to Thailand was ruined because all I could do was sit in the bar near the toilet but I got to spend loads of time with Tick.

A few days before I was to return home, and against everyone’s advice, I asked Tick to come and stay with me for my last few days, and she agreed. She explained she would have to go back to her room around midnight to video call her two sponsors to say goodnight. She explained she goes to her room, puts her nightclothes on, lies in bed, calls them on Line, says goodnight, then gets out of bed, dresses again, and then goes back out.

I later found out these guys were regular visitors to Pattaya not newbies like me. They must have known what she was up to. Anyway, the next two nights Tick stayed with me. Nothing happened, as she thought I might still have an infection. “You come back soon I will have aerobics with you,” she said.

No money exchanged hands. We exchanged telephone numbers, and she put the Line app on my phone for me. There were even what I’m sure were crocodile tears as we said our goodbyes at my taxi to the airport.

A Long Distance Relationship With Tick

When I got back to Heathrow Airport and switched my phone on, I had numerous missed calls. I called Tick via the Line app when I got home, and she looked genuinely pleased to hear from me. This was the start of an intense over-the-phone relationship. She would video call me three to four times a day over the next few months. Again, she never asked me for anything.

The same group of friends who I had been on my first trip to Pattaya told me that they had booked a trip back in the following January 2017, so I booked up as well and informed Tick who was always saying, “Please come to see me.” I asked if she could stay with me, and she later informed me after consulting her diary that she could fit me in for only 4 days out of the 7, as sponsor number two would be there around the same time as me.

I said I’d let her know, but deep down inside I knew I would, because I was beginning to fall for her. Our phone relationship continued. Then one day no video call. I was so used to her calling me that I was worried, but deep down inside I knew she was with her man.

Six weeks later and unexpectedly, I woke up to that distinctive Line ringtone. I knew it was Tick, as she was my only contact in Thailand. She said, “So sorry, darling sponsor number one paid me a surprise visit.” Tick had always been honest with me and had never asked for money. I did send her a little on her birthday and at Christmas.

January came around, and Tick informed me sponsor number two would be arriving, so there would be no contact but she would meet me in our bar on the day he left. She kept her word, and I had a good four days. She showed me around Pattaya, visiting restaurants, eating good Thai food, and the aerobics were good. I could tell she was very inexperienced.

When it was time to go home, I asked her how much I owed her. She replied, “Nothing I love you,” and she seemed insulted that I asked. But Tick had waved her magic wand on me. I started sending her money every month even though she never asked me for anything.

Ten Thailand Visits Between 2017 And 2019

Between 2017 to 2019, I visited Thailand 10 times, going between Pattaya and Tick’s home in Hat Yai, plus trips to Krabi. Again, she never asked for anything. She didn’t have to these girls are all so clever. I would always buy her gifts when I visited Pattaya.

The Relationship Began To Change

My last visit was December 2019, and in the run up to my trip, things were different. By then, sponsor number two had finished with her, so she was at least 13,000 baht or £300 a month down. I hardly heard from her just enough to keep me interested.

The day before I was due to arrive in Thailand for the first time in nearly 4 years, Tick asked me for 45,000 baht. I told her I didn’t have it. I said I would stay home and send her my spending money, way more than a grand, but she declined this, saying she wanted to see me.

On my arrival to Thailand early in the morning, Tick and her friend picked me up from the airport. Things just didn’t seem the same. After being dropped off at the hotel and after our welcome aerobic session, Tick said she had to pop out but was gone for most of the day. I knew this would be my last visit to see her.

A few days into my trip, Tick said she had to go to the bank, so we would have lunch in Central Festival. After lunch, we went to the bank where she made a withdrawal. The cashier put a large sum of money in a brown envelope and told her a figure in baht. We then went to another bank a few feet away, and she deposited this money. I worked out the conversion on my phone, and it was almost one million baht. I thought, “Wow.” I did not question Tick.

My last days in Thailand were okay plenty of aerobics and good food, but lots of being left alone. The same Tick and her friend dropped me at the airport, and this was the happiest I had seen Tick during my stay. I said to her, “You seem happy that I’m leaving.” She replied, “Don’t be silly.”

It was almost Christmas, and Tick informed me that sponsor number one would be coming for 2 months, so there would be little to no contact. I sent her some money for Christmas. To be honest, she had changed so much, I didn’t even miss her.

The Relationship Finally Fell Apart

It was now early 2020, and COVID had kicked in. I was still getting my Line calls, but I had stopped sending her money. Soon, the daily phone calls stopped for about 3 years.

Then in September last year, that Line ringtone went off on my phone. It was Tick. She apologized for not calling and told me she was living back home in the south of the country with her mother and brother. She told me that she had loved me and that it was the hardest thing she had ever had to do by not calling me and she now felt free that she didn’t have to lie. I didn’t ask her any questions just listened. She said she just felt she had to call me, and she would not call me again. She has very few friends but she did send me various pictures in the bars of her with other bar girls.

I just wish her all the best. I must say, 2016 to 2019 and my Thailand adventure with Tick were some of the best years of my life. Apart from that one time, Tick never asked me for anything and expressed zero interest in coming to England.

From Dating Site Scams To A Successful Marriage

A few years back, being over 40 years old, separated from the mother of my child, and living in a different country, I ended up on one of the Asian dating sites. I had never visited Asia, and I had no idea where surfing online Asian dating sites would take me. I had no experience with Asian culture at all.

After registering on this one Asian dating site, I was really surprised that a lot of messages came back almost immediately. I was really surprised at how many women contacted me. So I wasted no time in signing up for a membership so that I could look at more photographs and communicate properly with each lady.

The Filipino Dating Site Scammer

The first lady I had a conversation with was a Filipino girl. She suggested that we switch to the WhatsApp messaging service so we could communicate better out of the dating site of course. It was not long before we had our first drama.

I was a little naive to the ways of these girls, and it wasn’t long before she told me she had broken her phone and could I send her money for a new one and surprise, surprise, she knew exactly how Western Union worked. She also told me the following day was one of her family’s birthdays, but she didn’t have any money to give them as a gift, so I helped her with a little money. You might think listening to this that I’m making it up, but honestly, this really happened.

About a week later, she sends me a picture of her mom in bed with a message telling me she’s sick but she’s got no money for medicine. I remember thinking at the time how unlucky this girl is and strange that I was the only person who could help her out.

A few weeks later, another problem arises in her life: her father has been arrested for gambling, thrown in jail, and doesn’t have money to get out. Apparently, gambling is totally illegal.

Although I liked this beautiful Filipino girl, I really didn’t believe what she was telling me, and I asked her to send me proof as my bank balance was getting lower as the weeks passed. Right on cue, she sent me a photograph of an older guy behind some prison bars. I had no idea if it was her father or even a real prison cell.

I told her straight: “I can’t help you this time.” I went on to explain that if he didn’t organize the game and was just a player, he would be home soon. She got angry very, very quickly and told me I don’t understand her situation and why couldn’t I help her.

I Had Been Naive About Dating Site Scams

I had been naive up until this point and had sent her quite a bit of money, but after watching a lot of YouTube videos and listening to the stories on your channel, I now realize what she was about.

Weeding Through The Dating Site Scammers

I didn’t let this one bad apple put me off dating sites. I continued to talk with lots of other girls from around Southeast Asia. However, the longer I was on these sites, the more skeptical I became. I started to understand that most girls on these sites were either looking for money or just being totally dishonest for whatever reason. I did have fun talking to a lot of girls from around Asia, though, so I kept the conversation going.

I met one Chinese girl who seemed like a decent girl and told me she even had her own business but when she started to steer the conversation towards cryptocurrency, I just laughed and blocked her.

Another girl told me she was planning to go to Australia and invest in real estate and asked me if I wanted to join her but not in person, financially. She couldn’t even answer me when I asked her what type of real estate she’s interested in investing in. I then asked her what her return on investment would look like. She just went quiet. She didn’t have a clue. She was obviously just another online scammer.

What I found strange was it didn’t matter where the girls came from i.e., which countries within minutes they would all start asking for money or giving me a sob story. I remember one girl in particular she didn’t even waste a minute before she started asking for money. The conversation went kind of like this:

Me: Hi. Her: Hi. Me: How are you? Her: I just lost my job. I’m so sad. I need someone who can help me right now because I have no money to pay the rent. And if I don’t pay my rent today, I will have to sleep on the street. I appreciate anything you can send me.

Needless to say, she still holds the record for asking for money in the least possible time.

The Woman Who Got Away And Got Married

I still checked my inbox from time to time as it was kind of fun dealing with these girls. Sometimes I would communicate with one or two of them that seemed genuine nothing serious, just the odd photograph and some conversation. One day, all this changed.

I met another girl who I had several conversations with who seemed genuinely decent. We switched to WhatsApp and slowly exchanged more and more pictures of each other. I wanted to speak to her on an audio call, but she refused. She told me she was embarrassed because her English was not good. I explained to her that she should not be embarrassed and made a suggestion: maybe she could leave a voicemail for me, and I would get back to her by text and tell her how good or bad her English really was.

She left me a short voicemail, and her English wasn’t bad at all. I immediately rang her, and this time she picked up the phone. From here on in, it got better as the days passed. She spoke very calmly, didn’t ask me for anything, and I really enjoyed speaking to her every single day. She also held down a decent full time job.

Again, this might seem unbelievable, but we got so close to each other by just having daily face to face phone calls that I decided I would like her to come to Europe for a holiday, to which she agreed. But unfortunately, I didn’t realize I would first have to go to her country to prepare some documents. At this time, she was living in Bangkok. The reason I had to fly to Thailand was to prove that I had actually met her face to face before any visas could be issued for a vacation to Europe.

So I arranged some holiday from work and asked her if we could meet in Bangkok. She suggested that we meet on the beautiful island of Phuket. I booked two tickets from Bangkok to Phuket plus a hotel for the pair of us. We flew down to Phuket. There were still some COVID restrictions, but this didn’t stop us. We had four beautiful days and four nights together.

Although I was enjoying my time in the company of this beautiful girl, I couldn’t help being suspicious due to my past experiences with online dating. I was watching her very carefully to see if she did genuinely have an interest in me or if she had alternative motives.

The Dating Story Ended Happily

Moving forward to July 2024, she had already visited me in Europe four times and on the fifth time, we got married. I wasn’t really ready for marriage, but it was the only way she could stay in the country full time.

Over the past couple of years, we have had our difficulties, and we have had to try and sort things out between us but we were determined to work it out, and we have supported each other as much as we could. The biggest problems we faced were our cultural differences. Obviously, there was a lot about my culture that she found hard to take in, and there are many things about Thai culture which I found difficult to understand. But over time, we worked things out and slowly began to understand each other.

I have listened to many of the stories that have been sent into your channel, Peter a lot of them, the guy gets ripped off or hurt badly. I can’t believe how lucky I’ve been. I think all the hours we’ve spent on the phone before we actually met helped us both decide that we were right for each other.

I learned a lot of lessons from those early conversations on those dating sites. So my message today: if you have been looking for a lifelong partner and you’ve been put off by a lot of the girls on the dating sites who are just out to scam you don’t give up. The right girl is out there. You just need to take it slowly.

A Happy Marriage And A Hopeful Future

We are both very happy and can’t foresee any serious problems in the future. We’ve even thought about making our own YouTube channel to give advice to other guys not sure if we will ever do this, but I’ll certainly let you know if we do.

Juan The Bar Girl Who Drank Herself Away

I visited Thailand on three separate occasions in 2023 and 2024, with trips 6 months apart.

On my first visit, I met a bar girl in Soi Cowboy named Juan. That visit went well as we hit it off, spent a few days together, and had an easygoing time. In my eyes, she was my little buddy who tagged along with me. There were no exchange of feelings or future talk of togetherness being fully aware of her profession, how else could it be viewed?

She had been a bar girl for almost a year when we met, and she enjoyed being a dancer. We kept in touch until my next visit in October. Over that time, we would chat often before and after work, sharing stories.

She is from the northeast of Thailand but wasn’t from a poor family. Apparently, they had land and property, as she showed me on her visits during the holidays when she would return to make merit with her family at the local temple. She did well at university and received honors. She showed me her graduation pictures and her diploma. She was immensely proud of her accomplishments.

After graduation, she landed a job in Bangkok in the diamond trade. She also got married and had a baby girl. Tragically, her daughter died when she was incredibly young. She showed me pictures of her baby and told me that it was a very difficult time. After the death of her daughter, her husband left her not long after that, and she lost her job due to taking a long time off to grieve. I felt deeply sorry for her knowing this, as I could not imagine losing a child.

We spent a lot of time together, but we always ended up back at her bar and drinking with her friends. I got to know the mamasan and a few of the girls by name. It was all good fun, and I always bought the mamasan and the girls a few drinks.

Juan Warned The Other Girls About Me

Juan had warned all of the other girls to stay away from me as I was her customer including the mamasan, which was strange because I always thought she was the boss. One girl told me that I was buying too many ladies’ drinks and that I was tipping to the point where they were expecting it. I told her, “Well, you know that I’m generous and I like to take care of everybody.” She then said I should wait until the end of the night and just give one tip not tip all night. I was not sure if she was telling me this to genuinely save me money or if she was afraid I would run out of money to give her.

Juan Had A Serious Drinking Problem

When Juan is sober, she is a very intelligent girl and very interesting to talk to. However, when she’s had a few drinks, she has a completely different personality. When she gets drunk, she gets very jealous and aggressive it’s almost as if she thinks I’m her property. Of course, all this jealousy is really only based on financial gain on her part.

One night, she accused me of staring at one particular girl and told me if I wanted to go with her, I should go with her. I think this was her test of me. She then demanded my phone and wanted to look at all the girls I had photographs of or I’d been texting. All I could do was tell her, “I’m with you now don’t worry about the past.”

The bar girls play by double standard rules. They want your phone, but you can’t see theirs. They can go out with other customers, but you can’t look at another girl. This is something I’ve always found hard to understand when going into the bars.

The next day, she sobered up, and it was as if nothing had happened. She was once again my beautiful holiday bar girlfriend.

After returning home, we kept in touch. I told her that I was planning to return to Thailand, but I had to go to Singapore for a few days on business before I came to Thailand. I asked her if she would like to come to Singapore and join me.

Over the next year that we kept in touch, it became evident to me that her heavy drinking was starting to affect her health. Every time she called me on WhatsApp, she would be drunk and would be rambling on about arguments with other girls that worked in the bar. One fight she was involved in got her suspended from the bar for a while. The fights would be caught on the bar CCTV, and the mamasan who had become a good friend sent me a couple of clips to show me what she’s like when she’s drunk.

Juan Was Unable To Change

I was polite and listened to her ramblings. I didn’t try to lecture her or tell her off. I simply told her she really needs to start looking after herself and she should take a good long look at herself. I told her if you want to be successful in life, you really need to stop drinking or at least drastically cut it out. I wasn’t lecturing her I was just giving her friendly advice as a friend.

Over the years, I have met several friends who have had problems with alcohol, and when I met Juan after a year, it was apparent to me that she had been hitting the bottle hard. Just by her demeanor, I could see her energy levels had also dropped from her performance on stage totally different to when I first met her, when she was full of energy. Once very engaged and chatty, she was now distant and removed from the moment. She was drinking.

It was a couple of days until Singapore, but I could no longer continue being involved by buying her drinks or even being with her. The next morning, she was not in bed as usual. I got up and went for a walk. When leaving, I heard her in the second bathroom being sick.

I decided on my walk that it would be best to get another room somewhere else until I left for Singapore. As I was packing, she saw me and asked me what I was doing. I could only explain that I could no longer be with her due to excessive drinking as it was too difficult to deal with and that I was going to Singapore by myself.

Her response was that I just wanted to see other girls and that she hadn’t done anything wrong. She called her mamasan, and they chatted about what was going on. As I left, she tried to hand me her phone to talk to the mamasan, but I refused and left.

Juan texted me wishing me a good trip and to have fun. Then she called me, but I didn’t answer. There was no anger involved just a sadness in seeing a friend slip away.

Repeating The Same Mistake

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. To that, I am guilty.

A Bar Owner Took Advantage Of Me In Phuket

The first time I went to Thailand was in 2012, but I was much younger and only went for a week to Bangkok as it was a stopover on the way with my mother to visit family in Australia and I don’t really count that in terms of these stories. Fast forward to May 2024, and this is my second and most real trip to Thailand. I am aged 37 from the UK. My trip was 3 weeks in Thailand, visiting Phuket, Krabi, Phi Phi Island, and ending with a few days in Pattaya.

Around 2 months before flying to Thailand, I was looking on the dating apps for different women to chat with and meet up with while I was there. I wanted to meet a good mix of women normal Thai women, freelancers, and the Thai bar girl experience.

I talked with a handful of women in Patong who were on Thai Friendly. One of the girls worked in a massage shop, and the other said she had her own bar but doesn’t get many customers.

I spent my first day exploring Patong, and the woman with her own bar messaged me asking for my hotel details. I gave her my hotel details, but we hadn’t arranged any time to meet just yet.

Late afternoon, I decided to visit the massage girl. She wasn’t the best looking girl in the world, but she was still quite cute and super friendly. She was very happy to see me, and we went upstairs. She started giving me a massage for about 10 minutes then she wouldn’t stop kissing me. Within minutes, she said, “Don’t worry I will only charge you for the massage and not the aerobics.” I was in the massage shop for 2 hours total, and the time just flew by. Great start to my trip in Thailand.

The Bar Owner Arrived At My Hotel

I went outside the massage shop and saw several missed calls and messages from the bar owner. She said, “I’m outside your hotel waiting for you. I have been here a long time. Where are you?” I didn’t even arrange to meet her bloody hell, she was keen.

I told her, “Okay, I’m on my way back, and it will take me around 20 minutes to get back to the hotel.” When I arrived, I saw her sat on her motorbike. I told her I would take a shower first before I come out again, but she could wait in my room if she wanted to. She said she had arranged for us to meet some of her friends at a mu kratha restaurant. I know around Phuket, a mu kratha is around 200 to 300 baht. When it came to pay, she said to me, “You give my friend 1,500 baht each.” I thought to myself, “500 baht for a mu kratha seems a little expensive compared to other places” but maybe it is because I’m in Phuket.

She then said, “We are going to her friend’s bar.” We went on her motorcycle to her friend’s bar, and she was ordering rounds of shots for people and just ordering drinks and food without even asking me. The bill at the bar came to 3,500 baht, which I thought was very expensive because all I had was just a couple of beers.

We arrived back at the hotel and had some aerobics.

The Bar Owner Kept Ordering Food

The next day, we spent some time along the beach, and I had a smoothie and some Thai food from a street vendor. She then took me to her bar, and I watched her set up the bar for the evening. There was a restaurant next door to the bar. I saw the menu for this restaurant, and I thought this is an expensive menu compared to other places.

Without knowing, there must have been four or five dishes that arrived at the table and I had not even ordered my food yet. She was taking pictures of all her dishes yet just picked at the dishes, and much of the food went to waste. I was not that hungry because I had eaten at the beach, so I ordered just one dish.

All evening long, from 5:00 p.m. until midnight, the only other customer at her bar apart from me was one single customer and he stayed for just two drinks. At the end of the night, the food bill came to 1,300 baht and again just a few beers and all her drinks 2,000 baht.

While talking to this woman online, I asked her if she would take me to visit the Big Buddha and some beaches if I visited her bar again. She said yes, no problem so long as you come to my bar. The next day, I said, “I have visited your bar so are you willing to go to visit the Big Buddha today and go to some beaches like you promised?” The tone of her voice changed, like she didn’t want to do this.

Next to my hotel was a good market that sold many different inexpensive foods at reasonable prices. We went on her motorbike, and she stopped at a local restaurant. I said, “Why have we stopped here?” She said, “I need to eat.” I said, “There is a really good market next to my hotel that we could have had something to eat at.” But she said, “I don’t want to eat there. I want to eat at this restaurant.”

I looked at the menu, and it was expensive for Thailand. She ordered five dishes and again I ordered just the one and a bottle of water. This is how expensive the restaurant was: a fruit smoothie cost 300 baht, where most other places it was 60 baht. And guess what she had to have? Yep, the fruit smoothie. Four dishes came to the table compared to my one. Again, she was taking pictures of food and hardly touching it.

The Food Orders Became A Warning Sign

It was at this point that I’m thinking this woman is just taking advantage of me and she’s taking pictures just to upload on Instagram or something to show off.

She Took Me To The Tourist Spots

She took me down to see the tourist spots that I wanted to see, but she didn’t seem very happy about it. When we got back to the hotel, she demanded money, saying, “I want 500 baht. The trip has used up a lot of gas and oil.” I gave her the 500 baht she demanded. She said, “I need to go and open the bar now are you coming?” I felt tired and had been drinking the last couple of days, so I said I would give it a miss just for tonight. She said, “I will come back when I close up.” She came to my hotel at around 10:00 p.m. she said she didn’t have any customers, so she closed early.

Illness Ruined My Phuket Trip

The next day, I felt unwell. I was so bad that I couldn’t get out of bed. I felt dizzy and sick, but I had no stomach pains and I hadn’t been drinking. Each time I stood up, my head was spinning and I felt sick. I drank plenty of water and took some aspirin because I also felt red hot like when you have a fever.

I managed to get myself up and went to the market next to my hotel and just brought some food and fruit, but I was concerned because I felt so ill and dizzy. I had completely lost my appetite and just had an early night.

The next day, underneath my tongue didn’t look normal; it looked white, like I had some kind of bacterial infection. I think I caught something from this woman, and it completely knocked me out for about 3 days.

The third day I was ill, I wasn’t great but felt well enough to go outside and do some activities. She messaged me asking if I wanted to go to a different beach with her, to which I responded yes. We spent the day at the beach, and then we went to the main market in Patong called the Banzaan Market. She went straight over to the seafood section and ordered a large crab and shrimps that cost 700 baht just for her meal, while I ordered mine which was a normal Thai dish for 120 baht.

I had had enough of this woman at this point. I said to her, “You are very lucky you have all this great fruit around you.” Her response was, “It is only good if you have the money,” which tells me she was just flat-out taking advantage of me.

After we finished at the night market, I booked a tour for the two of us to James Bond Island, and then she went home because she needed to see her daughter.

The Final Straw Was A Pool Table Rental

The next day, she sent me a message saying, “I thought you were going to come to my bar regularly and buy drinks. I expected you to come more and buy drinks for my bar, and you haven’t come. You have not spent much money at my bar, and now I cannot pay the pool table rental. Please can you give me 2,500 baht so I can pay the pool table rental?”

I said, “I’m sorry, it’s not my fault that I have been ill. I don’t plan on getting ill. And besides, I only promised to come into your bar for one night anyway. I didn’t promise to come to your bar for more than one night which I did.” I then said, “I tell you what why don’t you just try and get a refund on your part of the tour, and you can use that towards it?”

She said, “If I don’t pay the pool table rental, she wants nothing more to do with me.” I thought, “Fantastic, great excuse for me to escape her.” I just said, “No, I’m sorry.” She simply replied with, “Okay, bye.”

I then had a spare ticket for the tour. I messaged the massage girl I had first met, and she agreed to come on the tour. She came and stayed at my hotel when she finished work, and we had great aerobics. The tour picked us up from the hotel, and they took a picture of us both in the van. We had a fantastic time on the tour, and I had great bonding with the massage girl. It was an incredibly happy day.

I arrived back at my hotel, and the bar owner had sent me a number of angry, abusive, and aggressive messages. The tour that I had booked was under her phone number, and the tour had only sent that picture of me and the massage girl to her phone. I can see this seriously made her lose face by the amount of abusive messages I received. In the end, I didn’t respond and just blocked her.

What I Learned From The Experience

I have no problems buying women food or anything like this. I am not trying to be a cheap Charlie but you know when somebody is just taking advantage.

What I learned from this experience was: when first talking to these women online, never tell them that this is your first time to Thailand or first time in over a decade, because they will think, “That was such a long time ago, and he will have no idea what it is like now or how things work out now with prices, etc.”

I am pleased to say I then went on to meet several other women and had the best time and great experiences. I never let this one woman spoil my trip. Others that I had taken out politely asked me if they could order something extra instead of just doing it without asking and ordering several dishes.

I have well and truly caught the Thailand bug, and I will be back again in September. All we can do is learn by our mistakes.