This Is What Thai’s Hate About Tourists

I mean, judging by some people that go to Thailand there is a million and one things to dislike, but lets take a walk around Sukhumvit road and go into a couple of them.

When you spend enough time in Thailand, you start to see some foreigners come here, blend in, live easy, get respect.

Others walk around like they own the place and can’t figure out why Thai women don’t want anything to do with them.

Thailand’s got its own way of doing things. When you don’t understand that, you stick out like a sore thumb. And once you get labeled as “that guy,” it spreads. Word travels quick here, especially between women.

Just because you have money in Thailand does not mean every woman is going to respect you, nor does it mean every woman wants your money.

Most of the time it’s not even about money or looks it’s how you act. How you treat people, how you handle yourself when things don’t go your way, how much respect you show for the place you’re in. That’s what really matters here, especially if you’re here for the long run.

After meeting and speaking with a lot of Thai women, both from bar work and normal jobs, here is a list of a few types of people that Thai women seem to hate.

1 The cheap Charlie or stingy stingy

Nothing makes these girls leave you faster in Thailand than acting tight with money.

You don’t have to throw cash around, but if you’re haggling over ten baht or arguing about a beer price, she’s going to notice.

A lot of tourists forget that most Thais work hard for not much pay. When a foreigner comes in acting like every coin counts, it just looks bad.

Even if you’re on a budget, there’s a way to be smart without being stingy. Pay what’s fair, tip a bit when service is good, and people will treat you ten times better.

Girls especially pick up on it quick. If you go out on a date and make her feel like she’s costing you too much, it’s game over. You don’t need to show off, just be decent.

Buy the drinks, offer to pay the bill, and enjoy yourself. Think of it this way: even if you are paying the bill, it’s still going to be a lot cheaper than it is back home.

You have more fun if you are not being a cheap Charlie.

If you want to haggle at the market or something, it’s kind of expected if it’s not food, but don’t go over the top, and do it politely and with a smile.

Being generous isn’t about throwing big money around it’s just showing you respect the place and the people trying to make a living.

The drunk or loud in public farang

A few beers are fine. Everyone likes to have fun on holiday, and a lot of people come to Thailand for that reason alone, the nightlife.

But some foreigners in Thailand don’t know when to stop. They go from happy hour to full-on hammered and forget they’re in someone else’s country.

When you’re drunk and shouting, it draws the wrong kind of attention fast. Thais see that as losing control, and that’s a big turn-off here.

Even other tourists and expats will keep their distance from you as they will just find you cringe.

Locals don’t make scenes when they drink. They laugh, they chat, they stay calm. When a foreigner starts yelling across a bar or arguing with staff, it ruins everything and no girls will want to be around you.

Nobody wants to be around the loud foreigner who can’t handle his drink. Even bar girls whose job it is to make money from foreigners in a bar will keep their distance if you are too drunk.

Being drunk isn’t exactly the problem how you act is, because everyone acts different when they are drunk. Some are fun to be around and some are just a nightmare to be with.

If you are knocking drinks over, swearing at the girls or customers, or stumbling into someone, people know to stay away from you and they’ll remember that long after you’ve forgotten the night, so if you plan on going back to that bar, they will remember you.

It’s fine to have fun, but know your limit. A few drinks, a good laugh, and then call it or just slow down.

The night ends better, you save face, and you don’t wake up embarrassed or worried about going back to your favorite bar.

Thailand’s nightlife is wild enough without you being the main show. Keep your cool and have fun. You’ll earn respect for it and probably avoid a few bad mistakes too.

The farang expecting every Thai woman will want them.

A lot of foreigners land here thinking every woman is just waiting for them, that they are God’s gift to Thai women, and to be honest, if they are going to Thailand for the nightlife and have some money then they are probably right.

But outside of the nightlife, they will be in for a shock.

Even bar girls, who deal with this stuff every night, still respect guys who slow down and treat them like people and not just objects to have a fun holiday with.

Thai women like confidence, not pressure. The ones who try too hard always look desperate.

The Secret Married Farang

This happens more than I’d like to think.

Someone comes to Thailand for the first time on holiday with friends or something, has a wife and family back home, and it doesn’t even cross his mind that he’s going to end up in a relationship with a Thai girl, but that’s where he finds himself.

They tell Thai girls they’re single, end up falling for all the lines and the tricks, promise a future, and act shocked when things blow up later.

Thai women hate it and yes, even bar girls hate it when you lie about being married or having a family back home that you don’t tell them about. That’s not to say they will stop what they are doing though.

It always starts the same way “my marriage is over,” “we live separate,” “I just need time.” But if you have found yourself dating a Thai girl that isn’t from the bar, once she finds out you’ve still got a wife back home, it’s done. She’ll lose all respect. They’d rather you tell the truth than play games.

In Thailand, reputation means everything. When a woman’s seen as the “other woman,” she loses face.

If you’re still married, just don’t start something serious here. Sort your stuff out first. Thai girls aren’t stupid they’ll find out eventually. Someone always talks, or your phone slips out at the wrong time.

You can’t build something real on a lie, especially in a place where trust is already thin. Once you burn that bridge, you don’t get it back.

Disrespecting Thai culture or mocking traditions

When a foreigner starts making fun of Thai stuff, like how people bow their head or how monks walk around collecting food, it’s really insulting to Thais.

Locals notice, even if they don’t say anything. They might keep it to themselves, but for sure they notice.

You don’t have to follow what they do or even understand the culture if you don’t want to, but showing a bit of respect for where you are goes a long way.

Even though Thailand’s got a nightlife reputation, it’s still got its own culture, and when you laugh at it, you just look clueless.

Even small things, like stepping on money or putting your feet up on tables, can get you in the bad books.

To a Thai person, culture, religion, and their way of life are a big thing. Joking about it isn’t seen as funny it’s seen as disrespectful.

A lot of foreigners don’t mean harm. I think us Westerners have a really dry sense of humor we make fun of everything but never mean serious harm by it but Thais don’t see it that way. They don’t want to be seen with a guy who looks like he’s mocking their roots.

If you’re in a relationship or even just meeting a girl, showing you understand and respect her culture goes a long way.

Just learning when to take your shoes off, how to bow properly, or just following little simple things they do can make her see you in a better light.

Most Thai girls don’t expect you to know everything, but they expect you to at least care. You don’t need to know everything and they know that, but don’t be a clown who laughs at things that mean something to her.

Assuming all Thai women work in bars or want money

A lot of guys come to Thailand with the wrong idea; they stereotype all Thai girls as a bar girl.

This is especially common with older men that have never stepped foot in Thailand and will probably never afford to just sat at home miserable.

They see nightlife, bar scenes, and stories online, and they start thinking every Thai girl is part of that world.

That’s where they go wrong. Most women here have regular jobs, families, and lives far away from that scene.

When a guy treats them like they’re all chasing money, it’s just insulting, not to mention pathetic.

You can see it in how some foreigners talk. They joke about “buying love” or assume every smile means she’s after their money.

Thailand has its party side, sure, but that’s not the whole country. There are plenty of normal women who want nothing to do with that world.

When you walk around thinking every girl’s got an angle and is only after what little money you have, you end up missing the real ones.

Plenty of Thai women want proper relationships someone who treats them decent.

Anyone can go to Thailand and meet a normal girl with a normal job, but a lot of guys go to Thailand and meet girls in the wrong place then assume everyone is like them.

So just drop the “they all want money” nonsense, or you are never going to be happy with a Thai girl because you will never be able to trust them, and without trust there is nothing.

Be smart, but don’t be bitter. Thailand’s full of good women teachers, shop owners, nurses, office workers all just living their lives.

Being arrogant or having a superiority complex

Some foreigners step off the plane and think they’re kings of the place. They act like they’re smarter, richer, and better than everyone else just because they’re from the West.

Nobody likes that kind of attitude even other foreigners. That kind of attitude will just make you look stupid. Nobody likes someone who walks around acting like they’re better than everyone else.

When you start boasting about your money, job, or country, it just makes you look insecure. The locals will still smile, but trust me, they will think you are a complete tool, and they are right.

You don’t win any respect by talking louder or acting like you know everything.

The funny thing is, the people who think they’re above everyone else usually end up lonely. Locals stop taking them seriously, and other foreigners don’t want to go out with them either.

Thailand’s full of easygoing people nobody wants to deal with a know-it-all on holiday.

So just have fun without trying to show off. Listen more than you talk, laugh at yourself, and show some respect. The guys who do that end up fitting in better and having a much better time here.

Poor hygiene or body odor

Thailand gets hot. Real hot. You step outside and within minutes you’re sweating like you’ve run a marathon.

I’m not joking either; you start feeling your clothes getting wet and sticky almost instantly outside.

Locals know this, so they shower two, three, sometimes four times a day. It’s just normal here.

But a lot of foreigners don’t catch on and end up walking around smelling like a wet towel. Nobody wants to sit next to that.

It’s not just about smelling nice it’s about respecting people, and that should count anywhere, not just Thailand.

We have all sat next to someone somewhere who smells like they haven’t showered for a week and really everyone can notice it.

When you show up clean, people see you care about yourself and the people around you.

You don’t have to drown yourself in expensive aftershave, just stay fresh. A quick shower before heading out makes a world of difference.

I mean, it’s really not hard, guys, to have a quick shower.

Thai girls especially notice when you stink. They won’t say it to your face, but they pick up on that stuff instantly.

If you smell off, you’re done before you’ve even started. You can have the best chat in the world, but if she catches a smell of something funky, I guarantee she is going to tell everyone you are dirty.

It should really go without saying, but the amount of farangs that smell out a bar because they are too lazy to have a shower is insane.

Shower often, wear washed clothes, use deodorant, and maybe carry a spare shirt if you’re out all day. It’s simple stuff, but it goes a long way. Have a bit of class.

Checking out or flirting with other girls while with one

A lot of guys that go to Thailand think it’s fine to flirt with other girls while already out with one. Even if you are out with a girl from the bar or on a holiday girlfriend experience, they are still not going to like you doing that.

Nothing kills a night faster than a guy who can’t keep his eyes to himself. You’ll see it all the time in a bar he’s sitting with a Thai girl and his head spins every time another one walks by.

In his mind it’s harmless, but to her, it’s pure disrespect.

Thai women are sharp. They notice every time you look at another girl, every smile, every time you look away mid-conversation.

It makes them feel small, like they’re not enough for you, and trust me, anyone who’s ever been with a Thai girl will tell you they can become extremely jealous.

Even worse is when a guy flirts openly in front of her. Maybe he’s had a few drinks and thinks it’s funny. She’ll smile through it to save face, but after that, you’re finished. Thais hate losing face.

The irony is, most of the guys who act like that aren’t even getting anywhere. The girls they flirt with see them as clowns, and the one they came with walks off.

Make the girl you are with feel like she’s the only one in the room, even if the place is packed. She will probably reward that behavior in more ways than one if you get what I’m saying.

Acting like an expert on Thailand after a few visits

Every bar’s got one and I’m sure you know a lot of these people yourselves the foreigner who’s been here a few months and suddenly thinks he’s a Thailand expert. You will see a lot of these melts online.

He tells everyone how Thailand “really works” and corrects people who’ve lived here for years. That kind of talk gets old fast.

Thais find it funny when someone tries to explain their own country to them. They’ll smile and nod, but they’re thinking, “This guy doesn’t know anything.” Confidence is fine; arrogance isn’t.

Guys, it doesn’t make you sound smart and it’s not a flex you just sound like a muppet.

Even after years here, you’ll still be learning. That’s part of the beauty of it. Every area, every family, every custom is a bit different. The more you admit you don’t know, the more locals will actually teach you.