Taking The Plunge With A Thai Girl On Sukhumvit

I found you channel by complete mistake on YouTube, when I listened to the types of stories submitted to you, I was expecting to have a bit of a giggle by a lot of good old womanising mongers.

But after watching all the videos and following for a few months, ive realised that most of the submissions are from guys that are just too overly emotional.

While some of the stories are guys complaining about the rising cost of living, the price of beer and the price of girls, most of the submissions are people winging about their hearts being broken by a Thai girl that they thought was different.

Why Thai Girl Stories Usually End in Heartbreak

Most of the guys in the stories kind of deserve it, they know what they are getting into yet still go through with it then cry when it mysteriously did not go the way they planned, in a twisted way, its kind of romantic.

However, most of these stories that end in heart break are submitted by guys that have been involved with girls that work in a bar, rather than a Thai girl working a normal job living a normal life, and that paints a grim picture for relationships with these Thai girls.

That being said, I know many people that have been involved with these types of girl, including myself, that are either in long term relationships, or happily married.

But you have to approach this type of relationship with a level head and not wearing your heart on your sleeve or thinking with your little head. You have to remember that these girls are doing a job as well.

Yeah, a relationship might be easier if you meet a Thai girl in a normal job such as a bank or something, but that doesn’t mean that relationships do not work with girls that work in bars.

It just means you have to work a bit harder, as the famous quote goes “Anything worth having is worth fighting for.”

Why I’m Submitting My Thai Girl Relationship Story

Jealousy, heartbreak and bitterness is a great inspiration for writing out these sad stories, and there is a lot of them submitted to this channel.

Happy men, whose life is fulfilled by a beautiful girl, who happens to be a working in a bar I may add, are too busy having fun. They do not have time to sit and write a story to submit.

As a result of all these stories, this channel is heavily weighed towards the negative and bad relationships, it does not exactly reflect reality.

So, I thought I would share my little story for the happy viewers out there, hopefully you can take something away from it.

How I Met My Girlfriend on Sukhumvit Road

I met my girl on Sukhumvit Road, Soi 6 in Bangkok. I know, already not a great start to the story, but stay with me.

Me and my friends had been our the majority of the afternoon to the evening, we had already had our fair share of beers around Soi 4 and Sukhumvit before getting to Soi 6.

I was very drunk at the time that we arrived to Soi 6, and just enjoying myself.

This was before the complex got closed down and there was a number of bars in the back.

We went to the bar with the live band on outside, that bar seemed to be the most popular one there, it was certainly the most lively bar.

I ended up dancing with 3 or 4 of the girls in there, apparently my girl was watching me and was very amused with my style of dancing.

It was funny how we actually met. While I was dancing and in a world of my own, her friend suggestion that I must be into guys, while she on the other hand disagreed.

With my style of dancing and being extremely drunk at the time, I guess I must of come off the wrong way.

They placed a bet to wether I was straight or not, and my girl came over to find out the answer.

I know most guys say this in their stories, but im not joking, she was drop dead gorgeous, beautiful big smile. She was tall and stick thin.

Was She Only Interested in My Money?

Like most men that get approached on Sukhumvit road, we automatically think there needs to be a financial motive behind this.

I don’t know if I am good looking or not, but why would a girl of her standards want to come over and talk to me when she could literally have any man she wanted.

When she came over to me, she asked if I was into men or women, I cheekily said “Sit down and have a drink with me, and find out”

We sat down, got a drink and then started just joking around, laughing and showing off in front of her friends, showing that she won the bet.

Her drink was not a lady drink, so I knew she was not working at that bar, unless it was her day off.

She carried on doing sexy dances while I was sat down, but she was clearly joking and doing it all funny, it was all in good nature.

I could tell that she was also a bit tipsy and just having a good time, she wasn’t trying to turn me on or anything with the way she was dancing.

But If she really was trying to seduce me out of money, she was doing a bad job of it, I was laughing with her more than getting excited.

She went over to talk to her friends for a few minutes, my friends also came over to me and said they was heading to another bar and if im ready.

Contemplating what to do, I asked my friends if I can invite my girl and her friends, it was only my girl that was half decent so my friends said they would rather meet other girls.

Understandable, but I still wanted to spend some more time with this girl, so I said give me 10 minutes and let me see what she is doing.

Taking a Risk: Leaving My Friends for a Woman I Just Met

I called her over and asked her what her plans are for the rest of the night and which bars she is going to.

She told me that her friends were leaving soon, so I told her she’s more than welcome to stay with me and asked if she wanted to go to another bar just me and her, leaving mine and her friends.

We went to a couple of bars and we carried on with the embarrassed yet hilarious dancing, I remember thinking that she would make a really fun friend to be with.

She drank like a fish, keeping up with me every round, she never got a lady drink and even paid for a couple of tequila slammers for us.

Although she did not get lady drinks, I was still covering the bills for all the drinks, apart from the shots which were her idea.

After a really great and fun night, it was becoming late so I suggested we go to a quiet bar for a sit down beer and actually relax after a night of dancing.

We actually found ourself in a coffee shop on Sukhumvit that all the stragglers piled into after closing time of most of the bars.

Getting to Know This Thai Girl

The coffee shop was just full of girls I think, on their phone and eyes moving up and down Sukhumvit searching for their targets.

It was quiet inside though, so we got time to actually talk to each other.

She did tell me that she works in a bar on Sukhumvit Soi 7/1 and had previously worked in a bar on Soi Cowboy.

It was her friends birthday this night, that is why she was not working and was fairly drunk.

She explained that when she goes out like tonight with friends, she just likes to have fun and a laugh with them.

I kind of already knew she was working in the bar scene by the way she looked and acted, but I had so much fun this night that I did not really care.

The problem was, I had already spent over my limit for a night out because I was paying for us both, so i did not really have the funds to pay for anything else.

She said once again that she was not working and its up to her what she chooses to do, can’t argue with that.

The next morning when it was time for her to leave, I offered her what little money I had left over from the previous night, but she absolutely refused to take any, stating that she enjoyed it last night and did not want paying.

I was very sceptical about her refusing money, so I tried to keep my wits about me. I had a funny feeling it was going to come back and bite me.

She gave me her WhatsApp number and told me she would like to see me again, if I felt the same then I could text her.

When she left, I did not play it cool at all, and texted her pretty much just a few hours after she left.

We agreed to go out again in a couple of nights, food, drink and then partying again like the first night.

So that’s what we did. I went to her bar on 7/1, had one drink and one lady drink, and off we went for round 2 of a crazy night.

Bar hopping, drinking, chatting, slamming shots and then calling it a night

After our second meeting, we started seeing each other on a regular basis

It turns out, spending time with this girl, I was actually saving money.

These lady drinks sure do add up on your bill.

Yes, you can have a cheap night out in Thailand, but it’s easy to get lead a stray and spend way more than you anticipated, especially if you are having fun and meet a stunner.

Whenever I offered to buy her something or take her on a date somewhere nice, she would insist we choose a cheaper option.

She never asked me to buy her anything expensive or support her in some way or other, nor did I need to send money to her family like a lot of these girls will ask.

I was actually spending less money with her than if I was on my own.

I started to think what she was up to, why does she not want me to buy her things and spoil her? Why is she not interested in my money?

Maybe she was playing the long game with me, and the money requests come later down the line? Or maybe she was seeing a future with me and was trying to get me to save money for our future?

The more time I spent with her, the night life and girls slowly became a disinterest for me, I actually could see myself in something long term with her.

I did start to miss her whenever we wouldn’t spend the night together, and I found myself constantly thinking about her.

Bear in mind, ive been around for a while and know a thing or 2 about these girls, up until now I had managed to keep my brain and heart at home when I go out.

Ive always managed to not catch feelings for these girls and if I started to like one, I would just forget about going to the bar she works and move on.

But with this girl it felt different, I always wanted to see her, I always wanted to be with her.

The Turning Point When She Went Back to Isaan

My girl had to go back to Isaan for a month to sort some things out with her family, this gave me some time to think things over.

During the time of her away, I admit, I slowly drifted back into the bars for old times sake.

When she had returned, I had already decided that not only was the girl fun to be around, she was beautiful, genuine and seemed honest. I may not have the chance again to meet a woman like this in Thailand.

So with my gut telling me what to do, she soon moved into my condo after returning from Isan.

Making a Relationship with a Thai Girl Work

Now lets talk a bit about why I think this is where most men seem to mess up, and lets discuss the facts and problems about being in a relationship with a Thai girl

A lot of people will ignore their gut feeling and think that everything they have heard in these horror stories with Thai women, will happen to them.

You are men, not children, you have been alive for at least a couple of decades, why are you listening to advice from people that have tried and failed to have a relationship with a Thai woman?

A lot of these men with failed relationships choose the wrong one and do not think rationally, if she is more than half your age then she is probably only with you for 1 reason, and we all know what they reason is.

If other peoples experiences is always in the back of your mind, then of course the relationship is not going to work, as you are always going to be paranoiad and never 100% happy.

You should be able to listen to your gut feeling and know wether it’s good or bad, then make your decision based on what YOU think, not what others think.

Is there a risk going for it with a girl that works in a bar, or Thai girl? You bet there is. But there is also a risk going with any woman from any country.

The shy girl at the bar trying to make money for a better life for their family may be the most loyal and loving girl you have ever met.

The educated girl working at the bank may be the most evil unfaithful girl you have ever met.

So why not take the risk? If it fails then it fails, nothing you can do, failure is not nearly as pathetic as regret.

Of course there is somethings you are going to have to come to terms with and accept if you really want a relationship, and it sure as hell is not going to be easy.

A big risk and concern for most guys that go to Thailand is having to be in a long distance relationship if you have to go back home.

And the thought of her with other guys is hard to get rid of. Trust does have to play a big part in a long distance relationship.

Sometimes you can not blame these girls for doing this type of job. Other normal jobs don’t pay even close to what bar work can pay.

In most western countries, if you are jobless, then you at least get a little help from the government. In Thailand, there is no help.

So, you’ve found a Thai girl wether its she works in a bar or not, you honestly believe that she is serious and you want to go further.

You have to accepted that she probably has a number of other foreigners on the go.

Still, she treats you better than any girl has ever treated you before, making you feel like a million dollars.

Maybe you are the one she has been searching for?

Most girls are willing to ditch everyone else if she believes she has found the man that will take care of her for the rest of her life.

Very few girls that work in the bar scene can see this as a long term prospect, in time, everyones good looks fade no matter who you are.

Of course, there are some career hustling girls out there that make a living racking up as many friends as they can and never falling in love with any.

But those girls are normally the new young ones that aren’t ready for anything serious or already have a Thai boyfriend.

It’s not until they got older that they start throwing others away, while waiting for the big one to sweep her off her feet.

They test each of the people they meet, to see how willing they are and how far they will go in supporting them if they leave the bar scene.

This is yet another thing that will put off the average guy, this will require an outlay of cash and in most cases, a lot of it.

But if the girl is worth it and you truly believe deep down that she can make a life long partner.

Even getting a girlfriend or wife in western countries, its going to cost you money, maybe not money to support their family or an allowance, but it will cost in different ways.

How to Handle Money Requests: The “Sick Buffalo” Test

That being said, don’t just send money every time they ask, there are smart and stupid ways to handle giving money to your potential future wife.

We all know the sick buffalo story, and if she drops that on you, it’s going to hurt because you know that she’s lying just to get money from you.

But then look at it from her point of view, maybe her mother needs some financial help, and she thinks that if her mum knows the money comes from her new boyfriend then her mother will be more welcoming of him.

Thais are very family oriented, you will find that a lot of them send money back to their parents back in Isan or wherever they are originally from.

They would normally do anything for their parents, and if her mother doesn’t like you or doesn’t want their daughter to marry you, this could cause huge problems as she will probably listen to her mother.

So is sending a little money to her mother to help out really a bad thing in the long run?

You have to think, if your plans are to get married, once that happens and your wife’s financial future is pretty much dependant on you, she is going to be a lot less willing with the family requests for money.

Or maybe she is telling the truth and the buffalo is actually sick. Either way, why not go and find out, it would be a good chance to meet the family if you haven’t already.

Go to Isaan with her and check on that damn sick buffalo, Isaan is an underrated and awesome place to check out anyway.

It really does amaze me the amount of money these guys spend and send to their girlfriends family without question.

Not only is it foolish to do, but it’s showing the family that you are weak and they can pretty much get anything out of you.

And trust me, once they know this, they are not going to stop, as far as they are concerned, your money is now their money.

So go see the sick buffalo. If it really is sick, go get the village veterinarian and pay the bill in person. What a cool experience.

If she believes you are serious when you tell her that you want to go and see the buffalo in person, it won’t be long until she spills the beans and tells you the real reason she needed money.

Maybe it was too of an embarrassing reason to tell you, or maybe she was just trying to scam you and get one over on you.

If the reason was just to get more money out of you or scam you, then you have to decide is it worth carry on the relationship, maybe she is not the girl you thought she was after all?

On the other hand If it was an embarrassing reason, then stay cool and try to look at it from her point. She lied to you because she did not want to look bad. At least she had the bottle to tell you eventually the real reason.

Yeah, you might be angry as hell that she lied to you, but try to think long term, by being cool and showing her that she can tell you anything no matter how embarrassing it is, then she can be truthful to you in the future.

Now you have finally found out the real reason that your girlfriend needs money, it’s time to go deal with it, in person.

If it’s really the mother that needs money and wants to see if her daughters new boyfriend can provide for her, buy the food, stock up the kitchen on supplies and join her mother for dinner. She will love you like a son for that.

Not only her mother will be accepting of you with her daughter, but the rest of the family would as well. Using face saving to your advantage.

Winning Over the Family: My Trip to Isaan

This is exactly what I did on my first trip to see my girlfriends family.

I noticed her mum would always cook the meals over an old stone barbecue, which was fine because the smoke added great flavour, but she would always have to collect wood so she could cook.

So during the trip, I went to Tesco Lotus and picked up a gas cooker and a tank of propane.

This got me in the good books with her mother, and soon her other family members came snooping around the new foreigner in their family, trying their luck out trying to get me to buy them things.

I drew the line at helping her mum out, that’s the only person that I needed approval from.

Mother could see the jealousy in the other family members eyes, and I think she enjoyed it.

The point im trying to make is, don’t just send money to the family without meeting them.

The person that makes the effort to travel to Isan and visit the family, gives mum 10,000 baht to help out is a lot further ahead than the guy that is sending 30,000 baht a month from Sweden.

The guy from Sweden maybe helping out sending money, but they are also showing that something back home is taking more of his attention and seems to be more important than being with his girl.

Of course, not every man can just up and leave to Thailand, there is work and other ties to think about, but hopefully you get the point I am trying to make.

That being said, if you can’t find the time to come on an extended holiday to Thailand to work on the future of your relationship with your Thai girl and her family, then you should reconsider how much you actually want to be in that relationship and if you even have a future with her.

If that is the case, then maybe sticking to being a 2 week millionaire once a year, hitting the bar scene and having fun with different girls would be a better option for you.

Building Trust and Providing Security

Next comes the trusting part.

If you want her to erase her mobile and get rid of all the previous people she managed to string along, then you are going to have to show her that you are serious about supporting her now and in the future.

You want her to stop working at the bar and get another job? Expect to pay her loss of earnings.

You are not the only one that needs security, she will also need it, she will need to be able to trust that you are not going to run off with another Thai girl that catches your eye.

If you do fool around and she catches you, the chances are she will stay with you and forgive you, but make no mistake, she is now only with you for the money because all trust has been lost.

Being with a girl or a Thai girl that works a normal job, and wanting her as a wife, you need to know before hand that there will be special difficulties. And 90% of the time, this involves money.

In my eyes, it’s not what you spend, it’s how you spend it.

If on the other hand you find yourself not wanting to take these type of steps, or are not financially stable yourself, then it’s an obvious sign that she is not the one.

If you can not support her, it does not matter how much you love her, she is going to get that money elsewhere.

Failing to allow her to do this, and if you really do care for her, then you should cut her loose so she can continue to try and find Mr. Right.

Our Happy Ending: 3 Years Together

I got lucky maybe, or maybe I just read the signs correctly and made the right moves after thinking for myself instead of searching for advice from failed relationships.

My girl dropped all her others guys she had on the go, and I know this because when she moved into my condo, anytime a guy or previous customer would message her she would explain that she is now in a relationship and not to contact her again.

Not straight away, but a couple of months after her moving in, I saved enough money to buy her out the bar and enough to support her while she was looking for a new job.

Once she found a job in the mall, the pay was absolutely terrible so I gave her extra to make up for the money she would be losing at the bar.

I would also give her just 10,000 a month to do whatever she wanted with, either pocket money or to send home to her mother, which is what she mostly did with it, and that was fine with me, as long as the mum knew it was coming from me.

Without blowing my own trumpet, I had been saving money all my life really, I was always good at that.

So I guess I had an advantage, I was in a position to change this girls life and give her a better future.

I understand that not every guy that comes to Thailand has the funds to do all this, that is why you have to think long and hard if all of this is really worth it.

In the end, her mum loved me, yeah maybe because the money I was sending, but it’s still good to have her blessing and she could see how happy I made her daughter.

I would show up at the family gatherings with offerings, gifts and of course, alcohol. Mutual respect was developed between us all.

After months together, it was clear to both of us that we wanted to head in the direction of marriage, so she was actually pretty good with the money I had given her.

The dowry was returned to me, but I am going to spend it mostly on building a new house for her mother to show my appreciation.

We have been together almost 3 years now, and happily married for 2 of them, I can put my hand on my heart say that I have no regrets.

Perhaps my outlook may change in the future, if I ever discover she has been unfaithful or lied to me, but I can never see that happening, I trust her with my life.

If it did happen, at least I will be regretting something I have done, not something I was too afraid to do.