Can Long Distance Work With A Pattaya Woman

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I’m a 54-year-old Englishman from Yorkshire. Currently I’m in a relationship with a Thai girl. I’m fairly new to the Pattaya scene and so it would be great to hear what your listeners think about it all.

Anyway, a little about me before I begin my story about Pattaya, which I hope you and your viewers will enjoy.

I’ve recently gone through a divorce from a 26-year marriage which ended very abruptly when I caught my wife sleeping with a female cleaner from work. This obviously had a massive impact on me and led to me having some very dark thoughts. Luckily though, I survived this period and feel that I have come out of a stronger person.

Like many men my age who live in England, I now feel invisible. My love life is basically over. I did try my luck on some online dating apps and got pretty much no matches or attention. It was basically a failed experiment.

I actually think that I am a kind guy, someone who wears their heart on their sleeve. I’m not confident and since COVID I have gained some weight as well as suffering some ill health, although nothing is too serious.

Furthermore, my divorce cost me financially and as a result I am not particularly well off. I work as a local taxi driver and up until recently I was living in the spare room at my mother’s house. I now have my own one-bedroom flat and I own a modest second-hand taxi cab.

Things are not as bad as they used to be though, and I have some modest savings.

The Holiday Photos That Changed Everything

My story begins in May 2022. I was in a local pub after finishing a shift at work when a slightly younger taxi driver who I know well started showing some holiday photos on his phone to the guys at the table.

Normally I wouldn’t have paid much interest, but I did catch a glimpse of one of these particular girls who was bikini-clad. A bikini-clad Asian girl who looked absolutely stunning.

After some further digging, my colleague explained that he had recently returned from Pattaya, Thailand, and that this young lady was his two-week girlfriend. On hearing this, I was immediately intrigued.

How could this guy date such a beautiful girl? She looked like a supermodel. Here’s your average overweight northerner with a heart of gold. Things just didn’t add up.

Anyway, my friend—let’s call him Tony—explained over the next few drinks all about Thailand and in particular Pattaya. He explained to us how it worked: how the system worked, what Soi 6 was, nightlife venues, Thai Friendly, and everything else. You know the deal.

All the usual locker room conversations, including the usual boasts about his bedroom activities. I was smitten and already obsessed.

Research and Preparation

On returning home and over the next few weeks, I put all my free time into research on Thailand and in particular the nightlife and dating scene in Pattaya.

Winter came around fast and finally my luck picked up. It turns out that I had a modest win at the bookies—nothing huge, a couple of thousand pounds. This however was enough to cover my flights and accommodation for a 17-day trip to Thailand.

I immediately headed down to the local travel agent and booked what was to be my first holiday in several years.

Finally, in mid-January 2023, I boarded a flight to Thailand via Dubai. To say I was apprehensive would be an understatement. The furthest I had traveled previously was southern Spain.

This was a completely new experience for me and despite all my research, I still had no idea what to expect. Although I was nervous, I was also extremely excited.

Making Connections Before Arrival

I had already made some contacts with Pattaya regulars. Let me explain. Prior to traveling, my work friend Tony had recommended an online chat group and also a certain well-known web forum dedicated to Pattaya.

I had been actively involved in these chats and had made some online connections. This is actually how I initially found your YouTube channel.

I’d arranged to meet some forum members on my arrival in Pattaya for a few beers as part of their regular Wednesday pub crawl. One guy in particular, an Australian of similar age to me, was a great help and he provided lots of information which would come in handy and help me to navigate the nightlife scene in Pattaya moving forward.

Arrival in Paradise

After the long flight, I got a taxi straight from Bangkok Airport to my hotel on Second Road, where I arrived around 6 p.m. I immediately headed out to a bar on Soi 6 to meet some of the guys for my first few beers in the warm tropical Pattaya heat.

My first few hours were like a blur. The beers, the girls, the conversation. I honestly had some sort of epiphany.

“What was I doing with my life? This is a life I want. This place I want to live. Pattaya really is heaven.”

As part of the pub crawl, we went to a bar in Soi Buakhao for a few drinks. I won’t mention the name here but it’s pretty well known from what I’ve read. The bar was pretty quiet when our group arrived.

There were lots of screaming hugs, kisses, etc. I’m sure we all felt like Brad Pitt or Richard Gere.

Meeting Dang

I caught the eye of a small dark-skinned girl who immediately sat down with me and introduced herself as Dang. It turns out that Dang was 22 and from an area in the northeast of Thailand called Buriram. I believe many girls from the bar come from this area, including Dang’s sister.

Dang told me a lot about herself. She had only worked at the bar for one month and never really went with customers, explaining how she made her money from drinks.

Over the course of the evening I bought her several drinks. I think she was drinking tequila shots. Despite being only five foot one, she could really put them away. I also bought some drinks for her sister who also worked in the bar, and I gave her 500 baht to get some food.

I actually stayed at the same bar all evening. Even when the bar crawl moved on, I stayed put, playing Connect Four and enjoying my time with this delightful young lady and her sister.

I felt so happy with this girl. Everything about her felt so natural—the way she mopped the sweat from my brow, cuddled me, and lightly sniffed my ears and nose. I’ve heard Thai women like to sniff you if they are attracted to you. Dang did this several times with me—a good sign.

Anyway, around 1 a.m. I was feeling very tired from the long flight and needed some sleep. Dang said that as she really liked me, she would come back to my room with me. I had read about this situation on the forums many times, so I knew roughly what to expect.

When she came back to my hotel, Dang raised her hand and the female bar manager came over to our table. It was then that I asked her if I could pay the fee so she could leave. When Dang heard this, she let out a scream and all the other girls high-fived her and cheered.

I felt like a king. What an experience. The fee was about 600 baht and my bar tab was around 4,000 baht.

Falling in Love In Thailand

Over the next few hours, things with this young lady were great. I won’t go into detail but suffice to say we both had the night of our lives. A gentleman never tells though, and I’m sure you can imagine how the night went.

Let me tell you a little more about Dang before I continue the story. I will summarize below:

• Her English is quite good.
• She explained that she had previously worked at a hotel reception in Pattaya.
• She says that she is genuinely attracted to older white men.
• She explained to me that she doesn’t like thin or muscular men as she says they are not cuddly.
• She doesn’t like Thai men as she had a bad relationship previously. I think she was regularly beaten by her ex-boyfriend.
• Her ex still lives in Pattaya and constantly hounds her for money.
• She has one child who lives with her family in Buriram.
• She worked at the bar for one month.

The focus of my entire trip now became about cementing my ongoing relationship with Dang. Over the next few days, I would return to the bar around 4 p.m. and spend my evening playing Connect Four and pool with her and buying the other girls drinks, occasionally ringing the bell.

At around 11 p.m. every evening, I’d pay the fee so she could leave and take Dang out for a late dinner at a nice Thai restaurant before heading back to the hotel room. In the early morning, Dang would return to her room to catch up on laundry, sleep, and phone her daughter. I’d pay her 4,000 baht.

As the days became weeks, Dang and I were falling in love, and it pained me to leave her every morning. I offered her the option of staying with me all day, but she insisted that she needed to go back to her room.

Despite this, I think Dang was on the level and given how close we had become, she had fallen for me hard—often talking about marriage, kids, and living with me in the UK.

Sadly, my trip came to an end. On the last day, Dang stayed with me all night and even waved me off in the taxi. This has to be the saddest moment of my life. We were both crying hard and we did a pinky promise to keep ourselves faithful until the next time we meet.

The Long-Distance Relationship

On my return to the UK, we talk passionately every single day on Facebook and online. Dang doesn’t ask for money, but I send her daughter around 15,000 to 20,000 baht a month to help pay for her school costs. Dang is very grateful for this and sends me cute photos of her daughter from time to time.

Currently, Dang is still working at the bar. Due to her relationship, she doesn’t spend time with other people, choosing to stay put and earn cash from drinks and her other sidelines—selling T-shirts on TikTok.

I have noticed that occasionally during the night her phone is switched off. She says that phones are not allowed at work and the owner of the bar will fine her. I was a bit unsure about this, but I have given her the benefit of the doubt.

Should I be concerned?

Next month I will return to Thailand to see how things progress with her. I have bought a modest engagement ring and plan to ask her to marry me. Fingers crossed.